Same as people stay in unfulfilling, shitty jobs that pay less, just so they don't risk losing health insurance or other "benefits."
Double yeah
Ugh thanks for an unpleasant flashback :(
Ex was cheating all over town and my only choice for over six months was either put up with it or be homeless
I once told this story on reddit, and the majority consensus was that it was my fault for not working harder or whatever
smug redditors offering unsolicited "advice" are the absolute worst
Maybe they posted in an “advice” sub. That doesn’t make redditors not terrible at giving advice, just maybe it wasn’t unsolicited.
I had to help two friends who were in a similar situation, it was stressful for both of them to break up, knowing that there was housing insecurity. Getting all the arrangements together also took months.
Yup. It was traumatic enough that ever since then I've always made sure that my current partner always has enough money in an account under their name to be able to leave whenever they want. It's nice knowing that they're staying with me because they want to.
I'm so sorry. You didn't deserve ANY of that bullshit!
Sucks that you went through that. I'm not sure how I would have done that without getting in legal trouble.
Also, fuck the haters and trolls. People who don't know shit always try to give their advice.....so anyway here's what you should have done........
I admit it. I couldn’t never pay the rent on my own. When I was younger I essentially stayed with whoever picked me. My marriage went on way too long because I needed to finish college/fieldwork or be stuck with a man who hated me and had someone ten years younger he’d gotten pregnant at college…funny that none of us could actually afford to leave each other until I graduated and got out of their way. Because of environment and poor decisions, I put myself and the kids through unforgivable stress. I’m in my thirties now, the kids are almost grown, and I make great money. But I’m an empty person. I’ll give them what I never had though, so they won’t be in relationships to pay their bills. I’m pretty sure one will be an engineer.
Sorry to read that, it seems economically if people can get to late 30's paying little rent, having no mortgage they have saved money.
I'm 46 years old and so paying rent from here on till the end is cheaper than a mortgage.
Of course I could not have children.
Found out a month after buying our new house the reason we never saw our neighbors. They were in the midst of a divorce, but still living in the house, with the wife's boyfriend. So visits were a bit awkward. Fortunately that was right after the housing crash, so they were only stuck in the house for 2 years.
A lovely young couple bought the place and spent a year renovating it to live in with their kid...then divorced 6 months later. I don't think couples should live in that house any more, there's too much bad juju stored up in the walls.
I dunno, renovating a house is hard, especially if you are living in it at the same time. You'd want to make sure your relationship is rock solid before attempting that. That said, kids are hard, you'd want to make sure your relationship is rock solid before attempting that, so yeah, maybe its the house ..
There needs to be a one room at a time rule.
There's a damn good reason why we in the working class are gaslit and prodded into converting our romantic relationships into glorified labour arrangements (ie, marriage) as soon as possible - intimacy requires time and energy... time and energy that, under a capitalist system, must be spent labouring for the parasite class and nothing else.
It's also the reason why any children that results from such intimate relationships must be mass-corraled into glorified creches (ie, our so-called "education system") at the first opportune moment - we can't have the working class spend any undue amount of time actually doing any parenting, now can we?
Women have almost always through history needed a male supporter for housing or they needed to live in family cooperative situations.
We know pre-farming societies were far more balanced between the sexes, if not outright matriarchical
When 'women's rights' became a thing,and women could live as independent humans, young widows became an oddity.
I guess you can't make an omelette without breaking a few eggs.
So many decisions get made because you gotta make sure you secure a bag of some kind.
this is why more dv shelters/womens shelters need to offer vocational assistance
Wildly unbalanced capitalism without strong controls and social policy. All systems seem to fall prey to corruption because people try to corrupt the system to enrich themselves and their friends, then cement their gains with whatever power they can flex.
"But my version of Capitalism will work!"
As opposed to what system, after it's been used for generations and shitty people have captured and twisted it?
Says every person designing the system to benefit themselves most.
What exactly is it about "capitalism" that you like? What are you so attached to, that you wpuld contrive to keep something so fucked up?
The ability to invest in new ideas and advance them more rapidly thanks to the incentive of profit. Yeah, shitload of baggage comes with that when it’s not on a tight leash, but capitalism is excellent at seeking out new things to make money with. Technologies, meds, design, whatever. Patently obvious when you compare that to, say, quantum physics, which has no profitable ROI and constantly struggles for funding and thereby advances at a snail’s pace.
Oh, get off this dead horse, will ya. Like anything else cannot do this, only capitalism can
And non-humans too 🙂
The US seems like an increasingly bigger dystopia for every post about basic human rights that is a standard in the civilised world but they are lacking. But still they keep voting to let the billionaires rip them off decade after decade.
Voting, yeah that matters. The institutions are captured. If we ever won a vote, it would be thrown away ajd the oligarchy's choice would be appointed.
Edit: 'if'. In 2000 this happened explicitly.
An iron curtain is not the tool to realize such truths. Let people roam, but with open eyes.
Yeah...
