(no my OC, I am attempting to help spread this that I saw first on https://programming.dev/post/33666663 because I think it helps to know that it is not too late to make changes even for major things like smoking and our health!)
Same, I'm also almost 19 months in, after so many tries.
How did you do it?
Turns out what I needed wasn't an iron will but to understand why I smoked. I tracked every cigarette for two weeks, writing down the time and the reason - boredom, a context switch ("I just arrived at the office, now I need to get ready"), anxiety, needed a break...
Once I had that, I could start identifying the reasons for my cravings more easily, which in turn made it easier to switch to a healthier alternative, knowing the craving would pass.
Another two weeks later, I had already cut down my consumption from like 20 to 5 cigarettes a day, which felt wildly empowering. At that point, quitting entirely felt doable, so I did. That feeling made me excited to quit.
I mean, it was still not a walk in the park, but motivation was so much higher than before. I still used nicotine spray for a while to help with the worst cravings.
I became a step dad and it became massively important to me to not pass the habit along, as well as to do my best to ensure I'm around and healthy to see them grow up.
congrats on nearly 2 years, that's a huge accomplishment!!
you're right on, imo "iron wills" are not an ideal approach to addiction management and it seems way better to come to understand the default behavior first and implement alternatives so you can incrementally resist more when triggers happen. I'm not a smoker but I see this point made in research into food, gambling, and porn addiction and it makes sense - you're setting yourself up to take control of the behavior which is a very empowering feeling even if it's partial control in the short term.
Interesting!
I always thought that once you were a smoker, you have basically cooked your health. Did not know that quitting actually helps with these probabilities.
There are several lingering consequences, but a lot of the damage can be reversed. This is important to point out because "eh, the damage is done already" is part of the addictive mental gymnastics that keep people smoking. Quitting is always worth it.
I stopped smoking cigarettes at around 22, but picked up vaping and a vaped until I was 29. I quit vapijg one day out of the blue, just dropped it, I was so tired of having difficulties breathing, since my throat was always dry and swollen and my chest was heavy, likely a ton of nasty in my lungs.
It's been 3 years now and my chest and throat are so much better. Being able to breathe rocks.
it feels hopeless to be under the smoking blanket. while getting out from under the blanket seems impossible and terrible, there's life out here outside of the blanket.
don't get me wrong, it does suck to quit but it's better than not quitting.
maybe think about how those bastards made these addictive chemicals designed to do this to you... * for profit*.
I stopped smoking 10 years ago. Once in a blue moon I'll subconsciouly reach for the non-exsistent pack on the table, catch myself and laugh, whilst thinking about the money I've saved.