Can't take this anymore
Can't take this anymore
Can't take being misgendered and harassed. He/himed. People starting arguments over their own intolerance and blaming the arguments on drag. Banned from trans communities on blahaj and then unbanned but the unban didn't federate, so don't know where to post this. In so much pain. Hopes this post won't lead to more pain. What do you do when nobody will believe you're hurt, and every time you scream out in pain, you're accused of having an agenda? What kind of agenda is just not wanting to be harassed anymore? They think they're winning when they fill a thread with drama and then complain about all the drama. They think they're doing something right? How do you tell people you're honestly suffering and have them believe you?
self-harm thoughts
Do you just cut your skin open and show it to them? Is that how you convince them that they're causing you pain? HOW? How the fuck do you convince them that your pain isn't a trick?
They tell you to block them while they misgender you and tell the whole world you're the devil. "Just ignore everything I'm doing to hurt you and you'll be okay". It doesn't make any sense but they think it's right. They could choose to disengage this very minute but they don't. They think harassment and misgendering is a crusade of justice. That hurting people is a moral good, but oh no, don't you dare claim you're hurt when I hurt you.
How the fuck do you post your tears on lemmy?
yeah every single time I see u I also see either removed comments or people being assholes to your identity :/ I was surprised how well u handled it and that u were still around and Im not surprised at all that u need to vent
like someone else said maybe not using lemmy is the best option (or changing the way u use it and just blocking people instead of interacting with them?) its clearly doing u a disservice, do u have other places like chat groups or whateves where u know people dont attack u?
Drag uses Lemmy to dissociate and keep the traumatic thoughts away. Don't want to go without that. Drag has friends online but they aren't always available. They need to sleep and do their own things a lot of the time. Drag wishes there were better places on the internet, but it doesn't seem like there are. It would be the same on Xitter, Reddit, Facebook. Mastodon and Tumblr are boring and don't help drag zone out. Drag has never tried Tiktok and after the last few days, never will.
Thank you for the kindness. Drag wishes that people who harass and misgender would be stopped, either by the community or by the people in charge. But that doesn't happen. The more drag defends dragself, the worse it gets.
How do normal people look at these screenshots and see brave heroes showing the evil trans person what for?? The votes say that's what's happening. That knowledge is worse than any other part of it.
yeah I always see people on lemmy being EXTREMELY quick at calling anyone a troll, I specially see people being accused of being alts literally every time I look at a post outside blahaj X3
The more drag defends dragself, the worse it gets.
honestly if it was me I think Id at first defend myself but eventually get tired and just ignore and block these people on sight, if the reason I use lemmy is just to have fun anyway
but Im not in ur situation so idk if there r any issues on that plan, just keep in mind that some people r just unwilling to learn new things and theres not much that u can do against that without letting it hurt u
Drag keeps coming back to this comment. You were surprised drag could stay calm in the face of all that hate. Thank you. Drag feels seen. It was so hard and drag tried so much.
Ure welcome! :3 have a virtual hug 🫂
Answer: I understand your pain, but also no one on Lemmy is qualified to help you in any way. Get off the internet. When using Lemmy is not serving you, dont come back to Lemmy expecting it to suddenly serve you.
The admins of lemmy.world and the mods of the community where it happened are qualified to help. All they have to do is press a button and the harassment goes away. And that's exactly what they're expected to do.
Isn’t this a meme community?
196 has always been an "anything goes" community, its just that those tend to be mostly shitposts X3
Ahh. Fair enough! Thanks!
sorry that many users are such waste disposal units on lemmy 😞 I feel like I can't do much alone but I concur that our mods should be acting against harassing you for your identity. the unpredictable nature of getting weird bigoted replies to just regular nice people makes me anxious about posting much - like I never know what to expect. I'm hoping a better community can grow here.
This is what drag thinks. The transphobic people complaining about drag's gender are the ones making the space unsafe for other trans people. Drag is just existing and they could easily choose peace. They decide to make trans people afraid to exist, and they'd be doing it with some other "weird" person if it wasn't drag. Thank you. Drag didn't mean to imply you're trans if you aren't, drag thinks this pattern applies to any minority identity.
Fuck... self harmed