if I share interests with a woman and we’re both single and I’m attracted to her why would I not want to ask her to be my gf?
would not drop a relationship if she turned me down but would prioritize any future gf over her, same with a dude barring a massive discrepancy in years known
I have seen this play out first hand and the woman friend then got jealous of the new gf lmao, personal experience says women still want to be your focus even when just ‘friends’
if I share interests with a woman and we’re both single and I’m attracted to her why would I not want to ask her to be my gf?
Any number of reasons. Most of my female friends I've realized full-well that we simply wouldn't make a good couple from the start. But I love them dearly as my friends.
handwave the attracted part to mean good fit and not just sexually appealing
so the greeks break down friendship into a number of groups and most women I’ve met that became friends have been ‘fellow voyagers’ so not much shared interest keeping long standing ties
so assume limited time in your life, what exactly do you do with these dearly loved women that don’t make relationship material? do you share hobbies?
Wow this is fantastic!
Girls deserve to have good friendships with guys without having to take up mammoth-hunting!
Taking up mammoth hunting to befriend a guy in pursuit of a platonic friendship is 100% the worst way to go about it.
If a woman presents any man with the opportunity to hunt an extinct megafauna with her, she is absolutely the most desirable mate possible. The amount of effort she would have to undertake would be a clear sign she is interested unless it is presented as a group activity.
I have a ( I can't say girlfriend, I can't say lady friend and I don't want to say female friend because it sounds neckbeardy) friend who has this issue.
She much prefers having guy friends but the single ones often start to show signs they are interested in dating her when she is just looking for friendship.
I'm one of the few guy friends she has that has not tried put the moves on her. She's invited a few of us to a games convention over the years and both the other guys have been dropping hints at their intentions and she wants none of it. These are guys she has been friends with for years, and the two most recent ones have been from my home country as well which annoys me. She doesn't seem to be able to take us out anywhere without issues.
Her and I get along well, very similar interests, hobbies, and views but we have no interest in each other in any intimate way. My mother absolutely loves her.
Where I am from, a lot of people just assume a guy and girl cannot be friends. Something has to be going on between them. I've always had gal friends? and every time someone has assumed something is going on and it never has.
A lot of people used to tell me growing up, that I should make friends with a girl first and then 'upgrade' to a relationship. Yeah no I don't like that, seems underhanded, but sure it could happen when 2 friends develop feelings for each other but don't go into a friendship expecting more.
It's funny that you never see this post with opposite genders. I've never once seen a guy complain that all women in his life wants to be his girlfriend..
To answer your post. Yeah I think that's just how it is. I don't know a single guy that has female friend(s) he hangs out with on the regular. We're generally not interested in that.
To answer your post. Yeah I think that’s just how it is. I don’t know a single guy that has female friend(s) he hangs out with on the regular. We’re generally not interested in that.
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I know a guy who complains about that. But it only happens to pretty people.
I'm literally more likely to find a woman my wife would be willing to share me with than one she will accept as my friend(and they cannot, either way, be anything close to a peer to her... 🙄 ). The third-party dynamics between people in general are often pretty fucked, but women in relationships with men, omg.
