Friends and family won't switch to private messaging apps or phones. Is there a point in avoiding Google Messages app?
They all have iPhones and Google Android. Since all my calls and text messages are monitored on their phones, am I causing any additional harm to myself by using Google Messages on GrapheneOS? That way I could at least use RCS messaging.
Google RCS, which is effectively just another proprietary internet messaging app despite being based on a standard at least claims to use end-to-end encryption, and is probably more resistant to mass surveillance than SMS. If those are your options, Google RCS is an upgrade.
Don't cut off contacts unless absolutely necessary.
I did it for years, and now I’m living again; I have access to events too, simply because I’m now on WhatsApp and Discord. It’s a shame, but that’s how it is.
But you can control what you decide to say, and make a physical appointment and then share IRL.
If you choose to boycott, the big risk is standing alone and just arming yourself, as you mentioned.
I think you already know the answer.
Joining a militant network is another way to find people who share your concerns, but you will have to search for them, and that can require a significant effort.
But you will have new friends, and make your socials, bigger. Thats a good thing.
And being a Google app, which means it can access everything.
I'd sooner use a regular SMS app, and not reward their behaviour. Which is what I do. You want to use garbage like SMS or RCS? Then you suffer the issues that come with SMS.
Doesn't Google Messages require access to your contacts to even run? My experience was that it didn't even ask permission; it just gave itself permission when I first launched it.
As long as you keep it's permissions locked down, it's better because at least with GMessages you get encryption on some charts whereas SMS is just pure text being sent through your cell provider.
Beeper can bridge those into a matrix chat. Then at least you can chat with people who or on a privacy related one as well as the heathens in Facebook messenger
From my point of view switching from a proprietary application to a free application is always a gain. You can't control what other people use, but you can take steps to reclaim your own freedom and control.
It's unfortunate there's no way to use RCS from a free application, though.
same goes in my family too. But they will be forced to switch to linux, since their computers can't run Win11, and 10 will expire. Not by me, but by Microsoft
delta chat. solves this problem as it uses the email protocol with pgp (when available), so from your end it's a chat client and from their end it's an email from you.
if they find it too annoying to reply by email they could just install the delta chat "email client", too ;)