Lmao when meeting people (be it dating or trying to make friends) seems like there’s always a point where I scare people away
And the “scare people away” thing is usually something painfully innocuous like me moving my appendages in a quirky way or being too passionate about something that I find interesting
Sometimes I can't tell if I've scared them away as you said or if I'm being too aloof or something?
Like I intentionally try not to say anything too personal or forthcoming so as to not scare them but maybe I'm overcompensating and coming off like I don't really care
Or maybe I'm just missing something that's really obvious to other people lol
Yeah same, tbh. One of the biggest things I internalized in high school was "don't do anything that might possibly draw attention to yourself, because if the wrong person notices and jumps on it, they'll bully you for years to come." I'm in my 30s and I'm still unlearning that lesson.