Do you ever feel like that sometimes ?
Do you ever feel like that sometimes ?
When you're at work, do you ever find yourself fantasizing and being hyper motivated about being home to continue THAT thing you're really excited about or should be doing. But then once you get home all motivation evaporates and you end up doing nothing and feeling guilty about it?
Same, and I'm trying to fight against it. I've noticed that when coming home I am not just procrastinating, but actually exhausted. Idk if it's due to concentrating all day, or something with me, but I do know that I am tired.
I've started to actually embrace it, and for the time until I get dinner, I just rest. Might sleep even. There's no point in fighting, as I aren't in the mental space to do things. Then after dinner I'm back to do stuff, maybe even later in the night as I am more rested from my nap.
Although another take on it is that things are lot more enticed to do things when you can't/don't have them.
I am not a doctor, nor claim what I do is healthy, but that's just my experience. If anyone got tips I'm listening
Me too. I wish I could devote the amount of time/energy to hobbies that I do to work, but my job pays for that time and attention, so they get it
I've got so used to that way of operating, I actually have some difficulty marshalling that same kind of focus (such as it is...) to hobbies or projects I actually care about.
It takes me a pretty long "runway" (like longer than 2 days without paid work) to build up the gumption to even consider doing something self actualizing.
Even then, I'll usually just do a udemy course that's good for my career or whatever. I'm fkn corpo brained mates 🫨
I often do that too. Sometimes I literally lay on the floor. I'm becoming more and more aware of my limited capacity and I'm trying to figure out better ways to regulate it so I don't feel entirely zapped all the time.
Every single time
Speaking of work, do you guys ever start a new work project with full focus, then if for some reason you're ahead of schedule, you lose it all, until you're late and sometimes too late ?
It happens often and makes me feel incompetent in a position I know I'm capable.
ALWAYS. Maybe you have ADHD. Weed helps me IMMENSELY with that.
"maybe you have adhd"
Please check the sub name. Lol
What better proof that they know what they're talking about?
Can I ask in which way it helps? Or perhaps, what in particular it helps with? For example, the "feeling guilty" part is very different from "motivation evaporates", but remedying either, or something else entirely, can be considered helping.
I have the complete opposite experience. Weed removes the guilt of not doing anything, but it usually leads to me doing nothing.
I enjoy weed occasionally because it turns off that hyper critical voice in my head, but it absolutely isn't a magic motivation medicine for most people.
After using pretty heavily last year and taking a break, I've realized that the overall effect is fairly negative, because it just makes me way too ok with doing nothing. Sometimes I need to do nothing and take a break, and it's great for helping me do that, but for me personally, it's a major negative when I'm doing it regularly.
Obviously your experience is different (as is everyone's a little) so feel free to try it, just keep in mind that it can get very easy to get addicted to that "mellow brain" feeling until you realize that all progress on all of your goals have stalled out because it's easy to just be high all afternoon and evening. There are lots of people who can be motivated and productive while high, but I think I've determined that I'm not one of them.
It makes that motivation that evaporated return. And it returns even stronger (like way stronger) than when I initially had it sober.
I love that you didn't realize the community you were in
lol, I just realized, haha
I find that on the contrary, alcohol helps me feel more relaxed and feel less guilty and eventually just do stuff without overthinking it.
So much so. It’s so debilitating sometimes too. I’ll focus and stew on not doing the thing I wanna do. And end up just idling and doing nothing.
Every single day. "Oh I should work on a side project and get independent income so I don't have to do this tedious shit." Nope. "Ok then I should do one of the several hobbies I already spent money on." Nope. "Video games?" Nope. So tired of my own behavior.
Just so you know, this isn't just an ADHD thing.
Most folk experience it and it's one of the main causes of burnout.
That said, it's always worth checking that you are getting enough vitamin d and that your thyroid is working right.
You know, I've always heard people talk about burnout, but what exactly is it/feel like?
Same thing for brain fog.
I struggle immensely to stay awake when I get home and usually pass out for a couple hours. Which sucks cause then there's not a lot I can do with the day
Yes totally, i can't even enjoy video games anymore because the entire time there's this little voice in the back of my head that says "you're wasting your life"
Couple that with the steam library syndrome. Too much choice is no choice.
Every day bud, every day
I've come to terms with it, it doesn't upset me like it used to, but I think that's mostly because what I do for work makes me happy. If it's not that it's probably work brings such exhaustion that im to tired to care 😅
I spent 8 hours ripping out old beverage lines from a boat, tomorrow I get to install all new lines, setup 4 bars and rodent "proof" them
Yup. And then when I'm off the clock, I feel guilty about all the work I procrastinated during the workday, feeling amped up to tackle my assigned work the next day. Then the cycle repeats. Brain can't enjoy the thing right in front of it.
Duh this happens to me all the time.
Yep. Whatever project seems more interesting than what I'm doing at work, but less interesting once I get home and have options.
Yes, and I used to get right to it and do it guilt free, but the negative association with having those things punished as a child and teen made it harder to enjoy things permanently. I think paradigms for raising kids right now kind of do this to kids that get fixated on stuff. There's gotta be a way to nurture the deep enjoyment of things and still get the kid to eat and sleep and go to school (which is also broken and might make the whole thing harder to fix).
This hit way too hard. I find it so hard to just enjoy my hobbies because I feel like I'm breaking the rules.
Turns out this is called “I’d do any chore but work”.
Do I ever? Lol I do nothing but. That's my entire life.
The train ride home just kills it. I eat. I clean. I sleep.
Regularly I am focused, fixated, excited for another activity - but whatever I am not currently doing. Once I start, I lose interest quickly and end up thinking about some other activity
So far every comment has perfectly described my situation. I'm with you 100% OP, I feel like this every single day
I do, but I've gotten better at it. More often than not I just struggle to get started. So just forcing myself to get started results in actually doing what I wanted to do. Sometimes I'm just exhausted, and I accept that I'm just gonna "waste" the evening with video games or something. Rather have some enjoyment than nothing.
That being said, I'm still learning to be better. I'm still too judgemental and unrealistic to myself
Daily
Pretty much every day. I think it's because we have a limited capacity and for many of us our job requires us to mask to some degree and it just takes all of our energy, even if it isn't physically or even intellectually demanding. There's no reason I should feel completely drained and demotivated by just sending emails, but it is what it is.
I try to go somewhere quiet and lay on the floor or something. Or literally touch grass - get feet in the dirt, listen to the wind in the trees, that sort of thing. And stay away from screens for a bit. I'm still trying to find ways to help regulate my nervous system since I need different things on different days but those are some of the most effective for me.
Yes, all the time