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Option #3:
Same as option #2, but replace BPD with autism, and less mental health issues once she figures out she doesn't need to pretend to be normal.
You basically described my dream woman
We fetishizing autism now?
Missed that memo.
I dont think its weird to find autism attractive. Depending on who you ask, it might be called a disorder or just a normal trait. It's the same way that any trait can be attractive.
If I'm autistic and want to find a romantic partner that I can connect with on that level, is that fetishizing?
Well, I didn't find a real, good definition of 'fetishizing' but, if we agree on the one I'll provide below, you should be able to answer for yourself in this and future cases.^1
Fetishization is the choice to extremely, positively overweight one or more intrinsic qualities of a person or group of people, such that there is a sexual or romantic preference of a person or group of people based on that innate trait, irrespective of their overall character as a person.
Autism is weird for this definition because, while it is an inherent facet of a person, it does have a large effect on how a person grows up. This obviously shapes their character.
As an experiment, take your hypothetical dream person. A second party is a necessity for mental grounding. If you can find another person to assist, have them swap out character traits (social, personal, mental, etc.) until you find a point you'd no longer find the hypothetical dream person appealing.
Anyway, hope you can do some self-study and find that answer.
^1 If you don't agree, then we're piss outta luck and I'm gonna leave.
Going with that definition, I don't fetishize autistic women because my perception of a women's sexiness is not affected by neurotype. It's the relationship and connection that I would value with an autistic woman over others.
I don't think that is fetishising. That's preference, fetishising meand reducing someone/something to a sexual object
That's just the more common usage. It doesn't just apply to relationships or people, but also hobbies and professions.
Ever saw/read sousou no Frieren?
Yes?
Autism can be cute.
Of course it can: the whole Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope was code for autistic women, and it was a big thing like 15 years back.
You just described both of my partners
Those are good choices