These might be the good old days. Go outside, feel the grass, say wassup to your neighbors,... whatever you do that means community, because sh*t might get bad for a while.

Things in poor neighborhoods are done differently than in middle- and upper- class neighborhoods. People that grow up in poor neighborhoods develop behaviors, customs, and beliefs that are different from other neighborhoods because they are part of surviving in the struggle. When they move on up, some of those behaviors, customs, and beliefs are no longer necessary and can even be harmful (e.g. strong reactions to perceived attacks). Others may actually provide an advantage (e.g. living through power outages). Regardless, these changes can cause a sense of estrangement from their childhood and original culture, leading to some resistance. Given all that:

What did you change and what did you keep?

I've had my dog for 2.5 years now. This might seem like a silly question to most, but I'm kind of oblivious to some things that are obvious to most people (e.g. having allergies, knowing when I'm hungry, when I should go to the doctor, etc.) so I would appreciate helpful responses.

Signs

• If my dog gets on my bed, I sleep poorly until I change the sheets.
• If I sleep with my dog in my room, I wake up tired and like I had trouble breathing all night. It's like if my airway was smaller/tighter. I've already been assessed for sleep apnea and they said I'm okay.
• Even without my dog in the room or on the sheets, when I sleep at home, I wake up pretty tired and it takes me a while to get going in the morning. This doesn't happen when I sleep elsewhere like at hotels.
• If I clean up my house really well and change the air filter, it seems like I have more energy for a few days.
• If I take a cetrizine (Zertec) or loratadine (Claratin), I feel a little better in the morning, but it's not like if I slept elsewhere. I don't feel fine, just a little less bad.
• Basically, I'm always tired when I sleep at home.
• If I pet a dog and touch my eyes immediately after, my eyes get itchy until I wash them out. This will happen with their saliva as well.
• If I run my forearm across a dog's back from tail to head and the dog has thick fur, I will get hives from the fur slightly poking my soft skin.
• If they lick my skin and I don't rinse it off, I may get hives too.

Contra

• I'm mostly fine throughout the day with regards to what I assume are allergies. My nose is fine, and I rarely sneeze. It's only related to sleep.
• My nose doesn't get stuffy like I see in other people.

Writing this out, it seems like it's highly probable. If so, what options do I have?

• Could it be something else causing the sleep issues at home?
• Is this a reason to see a doctor?
• Are there meds that work better than Zertec & Claritin and wont make me feel funky like with Benadryl?
• Do I need to accept that I can't have a dog?
• Maybe I can make my dog an outside dog? But that seems terrible for a dog that's been inside their whole life and follows me everywhere I go in the house (she's a Rottie). I don't want to sleep poorly and be at 60% for another 10 years.

This is a lot 😬

Edit: Alright, I've got an appt with the doc in 2 weeks. Thanks for the help, everyone!

achoo!

Saturn with human qualities

If you never lived where it snows and were moving North to where it does snow, what would you have liked to have known? What would you do to prepare?

The mythological snake hair lady

So that it looks like both a car driving into a tunnel and a person eating a hotdog.

!sillydrawingrequests@lemmy.autism.place

An accepting, humorous, and social community to request and share drawings inspired by this post. No drawing is bad unless it violates the rules.

How to

1. Make a post requesting a specific drawing.
2. Respond to posts/requests by commenting their submission to the request.
3. Respond to submissions as you please.

Rules

1. Drawings must somehow match the request
2. Do not submit your own drawing in a post. Instead, submit it as a comment to your post.
3. Follow instance rules

Encouraged

1. Fun enjoyable drawings without considerable concern for their quality
2. Improvised drawings
3. Ridiculousness
4. Enjoyable praise and conversations
5. Participation of users that are "bad" at drawing
6. High quality drawings that are humorous or creative

Is there a bot for creating reminders on Lemmy? Say for example I see a comment that I would like to be reminded of in 3 months, I could reply to the comment with "remindme 3 months" or "remindme February 2, 2025" and on Feb 2, I get a direct message in my inbox reminding of the comment with a link.

cross-posted from: https://ponder.cat/post/538617

Meme: Gif of Pedro Pascal and Nicholas Cage riding in a convertible with the top down and looking at each other. Pedro's expression looks like he just shared something humorous. His caption is, "Abuse survivors sharing funny stories about their childhood." Nicholas' caption is, "Everyone else," and looks bewildered.

Looking for the perspective of anyone that has lived anywhere in the USA and moved to Puerto Rico. What's it like, what's different, what's nicer, what was unexpected, and would you recommend the move?

Ok, yall. Check this out.

Problem

> ADHD > * Frequently showing up late to things because you miscalculated the time it would take to get ready and the extra time you need to find all the things you misplaced or realized you forgot once you left. Also, you might be focused on something when it's time to start getting ready and you don't want to give that rare drive up. Getting to places early gives you too much time to get hyperactive and get into that nervous boredom state.

> Autism > * Transitions aren't natural. We want things to stay stable and the same. Transitioning from one environment to the other takes extra time to get used to it. Rushing it makes us feel unprepared, confused, and takes up more mental energy. Because of this, we may delay the transition and end up being late.

Solution

Plan to get anywhere you are going 15+ mins early and have a task you want to complete in those 15+ mins.

1. This would ensure you get there on time.
2. It is also productive so you don't feel like you're there wasting time, feeling perceived, and controlling your stimming.
3. It gives you 15+ mins to get used to the environment and transition, so you can show up calm.
4. Since you're busy doing a task during that time, either in your car or apart from everyone, you don't have to participate in the small talk session.

Benefits

• Start being on time to things
• Less anxiety and stress when running late
• Less sense of shame for being a habitual late person
• Accomplish minor tasks
• Arrive to location/event calm and with more energy
• More energy means better focus on task/event
• Avoid small talk

Yoooooooo 🤯

With winter coming up, I have two options for home heating.

Central unit

• I can use the central unit and close/open vents throughout the house to heat up only the individual rooms I want. This would heat up rooms very quickly. However, to make this work, the living room with the thermostat will also need to be heated so that the thermostat reads the proper temperature. The living room is by far the largest space at about 2.5 times the size of the largest room.

Oil-filled radiator

• I can use an oil-filled radiator to heat up an individual room. This would be much slower, but I wouldn't have to heat up the entire living room. However, the oil-filled heater might not be as efficient as the central unit. I don't know. I plan to rarely heat up the living, no more than once per month.

Edit: The central heating unit is actually a heating kit made up of a few coils that is added to the central a/c.

Edit 2: Where I live, it might freeze once per year over night for a few hours.

Which would be more efficient on the electrical bill, and would t be considerable or negligible?

Meme: Two panels.

1st panel > * Drake in shunning posture > * "With all that you have accomplished, you cannot be AuDHD. Stop trying to find excuses or pity."

2nd panel > * Drake in welcoming posture > * "I'm impressed with your accomplishments despite being AuDHD. You're an amazing person and could contribute even more with proper support. I hope whatever you achieve improves my life somehow."

Why is it so hard for people to work together and support each other? Why do things turn into competitions, disagreements, rigidity, who's right and who's wrong?

For all my autistics, ADHDers, and AuDHDers out there making it happen with limited support and extra barriers, I know you exist and I'm proud of you. I hope this post helps you feel seen today. ✊❤️

PS- I'm having one them days. 🌊🌊🌊

Bonus: Grateful by Kota the Friend (NSFW language)

Meme: Sad Pablo Escobar meme moping around

Caption: Me waiting for the hot water to reach the sink every morning

Meme: Sad Pablo Escobar meme moping around

Caption: Me waiting for the hot water to reach the sink every morning

The universe is humongous.

• The hard drive space is practically limited to the Big Bang on one end and the heat death of the universe on the other, but it contains all of the data for everything that exists. That's massive.

• The RAM is massive because it's handling all the variables and changes of the present.

• The cache is much smaller as established by the study that found the universe is not locally real. Things only happen once they are observed, but it happens almost instantaneously. Still, the cache is massive because it is handling everything that is being observed at the same time. That's a lot of things.

All of the above are massive extremes. However,

• The processing speed is limited at the speed of light. In comparison to the others, the speed of light is soooooo ridiculously slow, causing a bottle neck.

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PS - Massive because it's mass I've observed. Not really tho, you silly goat. Big bang while I swig Tang and watch a twig hang.