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I don't even understand how people fine the time, energy, and most importantly money to have children. I can barely find all three to do my hobbies.
Simple: the moment you have a child, you stop being the person who had hobbies and interests and become a parent, a single-minded organism that exists solely to make sure your children make it to maturity in good shape. Your Spotify Wrapped becomes Baby Shark, your guitar or mountain bike or whatever gets ebayed to make room for a nursery, and travel plans become fiction, written around a character who is no longer you, a stolid lump of responsibility.
Your Spotify Wrapped becomes Baby Shark
Or you can just play your music. Babies and kids still like regular music. That's what existed before the hyper commercialized crap came into existence. Kids just listened to what their parents listened too, and as they grew older wood start seeking out new stuff.
guitar or mountain bike or whatever gets ebayed to make room for a nursery,
Are you confusing a guitar with a whole band? They don't take up a whole room last I checked. You can just, you know, move the guitar.
And I don't know why you're storing your mountain bike inside in a room but if you can't find somewhere else to place a muddy bike than indoors I'm a bedroom, then yeah, I think it's safe to say you can't afford a kid at the moment.
travel plans become fiction
You can still travel with a baby. Should you? Well, not on planes. But after a year, you can leave them with a relative / trusted person.
Someone who has issues these badly with kids like you tho shouldn't have kids, so we do agree on that however.
This is a weirdly hostile comment... That comment describes parenting experiences for a lot of parents. Is that the absolute reality of everyone with kids? Of course not, but kids consuming a lot of time and resources is absolutely true.
So was the one I replied to
Yeah my dad just played his music on long car rides even when we were pretty young. Mountain bike you can just get a kids trailer for that. Once they get a bit older they can have their own bike.
And start a huge fight every time you want to go on a bike with them, so after a few years you just give up and watch your body deteriorate as you turn into a couch potato.
It's not like those things are gone forever, infants are the most time intensive but as they get older that intensity fades.
By the time they reach elementary around 5 your energy and time should have returned to a decent chunk, about 10/11 you can start (ultimately based on their maturity/responsibility levels, every child is different) leaving them at home, they can make their own snacks, use the microwave and actually have some independence from you
So, 10 years of no hobbies. Big nope from me.
5 really, or less depending on what hobbies
10+ is just so you can leave them home alone. You could always try to get older children in on your hobbies for bonding lol