Anything expensive, a kid should earn. No way to appreciate value otherwise.
First car? Kid has to earn it. Doesn't matter if it's a sweetheart 0% interest loan - they need to make payments.
This is why I give my children a bill for the past year on each birthday, starting from their first. Those deadbeat ingrates still owe me hundreds of thousands.
I have a friend who eventually had to go no contact with his parents because of his abusing mom. She then started trying to harass him with what looked like lawsuits to make him pay back all the money they’d spent on him over the years. Still had receipts from the Chick-fil-A they bought him for lunch when they moved him into college a decade earlier, things like that.
........ok, I'm the most giggly at even the most obscure sexual references. You can't even talk about putting things in a box without me mentally giggling.