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> This response is perfect and hilarious: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8LZKSasTbm/

We have a new banner! Let me know what you think. It was created by ChatGPT.

If you have a better one though, I can change it.

Let's get this community more active bros.

It's really interesting to see what it was like in The Castro during this period in time. I thought others would like to see it too.

Get vaccinated. It's free at your local health clinic or LGBTQ+ center.

I can't post on Reddit cos I'm banned so thought I'd post this here.

This user has submitted their drama across multiple Reddit subs: https://old.reddit.com/user/Misohoneee/submitted/

I'm quite fond of this guy's take though: https://old.reddit.com/r/gaymers/comments/1bg3rsa/rgaybros/kv4mx3w/

hey bros, i’ve been a lurker on lemmy ever since the silly reddit API thing happened, and i think this is my first post?? anyway, there’s this guy on my high school’s robotics team that i really like. i should mention that this is a private christian school in oklahoma which is why i’m making this post in the first place. im unsure if this guy is really straight though. you see, he goes out of his way to see only me. maybe he’s just a really great friend who wants to see me, maybe not. but also the night before our state competition, he uh, let me sit on his lap and later on he uh…spooned me for a solid 2 minutes after the other guy in our airbnb we were staying at for the night fell asleep. he kinda played it off at the end like he was messing with me and maybe he was but i’m not sure. there’s some other stuff too like the way he talks to me. he doesn’t talk the same way to anyone else. i really want to ask him out but im just really worried how he’ll take it. pretty much all the guys at my school except a handful of them are homophobic…

oh yeah in case any of you are curious, im the programmer for the team and he’s one of the builders

I used to have a vague idea from when I was on Reddit that the community got set up by Jock gays or masculine gays.

But then I've seen a lot of 'screaming queens' posting on there over the years which didn't match that assumption.

So what exactly is a "gaybro"? Why was the original community created?

cross-posted from: https://feddit.uk/post/7636960

> Beards on men. Thoughts?

cross-posted from: https://feddit.uk/post/7451453

> After waking up from several very erotic dreams I've been overcome with an intense desire to nibble a mans feet. > > I'm 40 but had 4 wanks today alone just remembering my dreams. > > I also like men's legs. Especially footballers when they have their socks down showing their calves. > > You?

Seems to be a lack of gays on Lemmy. Why? Are you all Reddit's pliant, submissive bitches?

P.S. I really love the phrase "rampant homosexual".

TLDR: I'm an older gaybro (48) who was married a long time and has no friggin' clue how to date anymore because the times have changed. I'm looking for advice on how to meet other gaybros in a smallish town for actual dates, not just random sex encounters. Anybody with strategies that have worked or have been fun, please chime in!

I was married for fourteen years and, unfortunately, my husband died a couple of years ago. I'm (and have been) ready to start meeting men again but I was out of the loop of what single life was about so long things have really changed! I tried the Grindr thing. Not fun. Not to mention the fact that so many dudes on there are married or in the closet because I live in a very small, quasi-conservative town. Nobody on there or other apps actually wants a date. They just want anonymous sex, which I think is silly (correct me if I'm wrong) because you don't have to waste your time scrolling through an app for casual, anonymous encounters. Go to the baths or something. Way faster and more efficient, if you ask me!

So, yeah, I get the fact that I'm 48 and I'm not exactly what a lot of other gaybros are looking for. However, I just want to meet other gay men, maybe have a coffee or a meal together, see if there's a connection before I decide I want the sex. I mean, really, screwing around with random guys from an app is just mediocre sex for me. Then again, I'm old enough and experienced enough to know what really good sex is with someone special. Anything on line I've tried, I've put "looking for friends / relationship" in my profile and nobody asks me out. They just ask me if I have "my own place" so we can do the nasty.

Oh yeah, that's the other thing. I really hate having strangers in my house. I've tried it. Not my thing. It drives me nuts. You just don't know who these guys really are. Maybe hide all the sharp objects quickly before they show up! LOL.

I've been to the local gay bar. That place is sad and silly for meeting people. Lots of fun, though, but nobody there seems to be looking for a connection (or even a hookup!). The only conversations I've had there have been with men who consider themselves straight and just want a quick screw with another straight guy. Again, it's a small town, lots of closet cases and people who don't know what they are - not my idea of a fun time for dating. The gay bar these days seems to be full of bros scrolling their Grindr apps on their phones instead of interacting with others.

My question to gaybros living in small towns where there isn't a lot going on: What do you do to meet men for actual dating and not hooking up quickly with a rando to forget about him in 30 minutes? Is this even possible anymore? I do all the other things you're supposed to do, like taking classes, going to the gym, blah blah blah. The thing is, the bros at these activities and places aren't gay and there isn't a whole lot of gay group activities to do around here. It's just not a gay paradise, know what I mean? However, I've been single in small towns before in a previous time (even in a previous millennium!) and there were gay bros that wanted to actually have a nice date (coffee, cocktail, dinner, lunch) and chit chat first before getting all naked.

I'm beginning to think that the reality for me is to live the rest of my life alone and isolated with an occasional mediocre sex encounter that will always leave me dissatisfied, bored, and nervous because I'm always the one with "the place" if you know what I mean!

If you read this far down, thanks for taking the time. I've tried to be specific and detailed about what I'm experiencing so I can maybe get some "hot takes" from others.

What are some controllable attributes that you find attractive? What "green flags" do you look for?

Nowadays, we have pretty strong medications to avoid becoming HIV+. It is called PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis)..

Get on it.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Coming_Out_Day

> National Coming Out Day (NCOD) is an annual LGBT awareness day observed on October 11 to support anyone "coming out of the closet". First celebrated in the United States in 1988, the initial idea was grounded in the feminist and gay liberation spirit of the personal being political, and the emphasis on the most basic form of activism being coming out to family, friends, and colleagues, and living life as an openly lesbian or gay person.

https://www.hrc.org/campaigns/national-coming-out-day

Question for the UK LGBT community: This article makes it sound like the pink vote is significant to the Tories. As an American, I’m having a really hard time imagining how that comes about. I’d accuse it of being slanted, but it quotes a number of Tory MPs who are publicly and strongly criticizing the statement.

In the US, the LGBT vote is pretty overwhelmingly Democratic. There’s a small group that support republicans, but it’s very rare - to the point it’s something worthy of notice and a point of contention.

So, is the portrayal in this article accurate? What are the politics over there? I’ve been active politically since the days of ACT UP, so I know what things are like over here, but I’m completely stunned by what they’re presenting about the political alignment over there.

Hey guys! I've been getting back into dating after 10 years (!) and I'm feeling a bit out of the loop with some things. I got onto an app, took some nice pics, did the swiping and made good chat about the things on his profile. Now we're up to the date part and I'm feeling a bit stuck so hoping you can help!

What do you think would be a good first date experience? Also what would be a bad first date so I know what to avoid?

He's into video games and anime but also walking and the outdoors, he's got a puppy too so that could be fun to incorporate maybe? Or would that be too much? We live in a coastal town so the beach is an option.

Help me bros!

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One guy in my office has the fking fattest ass I have seen in my life. He is just so god damn fine.

I commute with the bike and so a lot of people here in my office and we have showers to freshen up. People know im gay and no one really cares (except one russian guy, but thats another story).

Anyway there is this guy, mid 40s, that I can sense a small pinch of fruitiness. He has really the fattest most delicious bubble butt that I have seen in my life. I dont see him often in the showers, as we arrive at different times, but once or twice a month I will meet him in the showers, and my eyes just can't!

I thought he was gay, but he is married. The interesting thing is, he brought his wife once to an office thing and his wife is really butch, like if he is completely straight, he is definitely getting pegged (which I completely support!)

Anyway, I dont have anyone to talk about these things in real life, so there.

This may seem childish but I’ve had a crush on someone for a quite a long time (around a decade). I know I need to move on but been unsuccessful so far.

We haven’t seen each other for a while. He’s traveling to my city in a few weeks, and, due to some scheduling conflicts, he’s staying with me for a few days.

Thing is, I never know how to be around the dude. He’s already in a committed relationship with his boyfriend, which makes me kinda jealous TBH. Not sure how I’m gonna deal when he’s here physically in a few weeks.

Any advice on how to be around someone you never get over completely?

Part of me wants to say something serious about the issue of unions being crushed by corporate America, however the other part wants to laugh with schadenfreude at the hilarious mistake management have made here. Either way a lot of people's sex lives might be affected 🤷

If you have who's your favourite character? I love this show and would be great to hear what others think, season 2 is coming out in October!

If you haven't seen it then please do yourself a favour and go watch it. It's a comedy about pirates and it is the gayest show I've seen in a long time! It's got Taika Waititi in it, what more do you need to know? If you liked What We Do In The Shadows then you'll like this.

My favourite is Blackbeard, he's so secretly wholesome and I hadn't realised how hot Taika Waititi is until I saw him in this!

Someone mentioned their location in a post the other day and it got me wondering what part of the world we're all from. I think I've mostly spoken to Europeans which is a surprise.

I'll go first! I'm in the South of the UK on the coast. We're having a rare sunny day so I'm writing this on my lunch break on the beach 🏖️