Yes he has deleted Facebook messages he sent me on many occasions. Luckily I take screenshots.
At one time, yes we were friends, and I believed that we had mutual respect. That all changed one random day, and he just lost all respect for me.
As time goes on, I'd rather not think about him at all, but for the rare times that I do, I would want to laugh it off, because his way of bragging is actually kind of funny.
Thanks. I'm not trying to boost my ego here when I say this, but I have a lot more experience with Engineering and CAD modelling than he does. Pretty sure he feels threatened.
He has his formal piece of paper and his formal job, which I suppose outranks my outside-of-school experience, because it's proper and formal.
He has dyslexia.
I think I can almost remember the exact day that he shifted. We were talking about our previous girlfriends and he very openly bragged that he's slept with better looking women than I have (I'm not like that). He kept talking about it over and over that day, I could see he was getting a lot of enjoyment out of it.
Before this, he was a different person. Overall good morals, good friend for the most part, rarely put me down.
It was very sudden.
It was also about the time he started to drink really heavily, but that might not be directly related.
Thank you. That makes sense.
I guess I could have, eh. I did end up getting in trouble for it. I had a research job that they fired me from.
This is only the second or third time that I'm talking about it with anyone else. I didn't know it was this serious.
I tutored as well.
Would you report a valued friend for the same thing? Honestly, I'm curious. Maybe I'm out of touch.
Well, ok, but you'd think he'd at least talk to me first? If he genuinely had an issue with it, I would value our friendship enough to stop.
Well, at the end of the day the students I did homework for still need to write their tests and exams on their own. They still earned their grades.
Edit: Ok, ok. I won't justify it any further. I guess majority here conclude that it was a serious offence. I believe you.
The irony is that the students that I did homework for graduated, and I didn't
And I will have a good life :)
Exactly. If he approaches me in person, I'm not going to pretend he's my friend and stroke his batshit crazy ego, I'm going to treat him neutrally but not entertain him.
Yeah I see what you mean. I want to be the bigger person and just ignore him.
Thank you. Spot on.
I went to college with this guy 10 years ago and I considered him a friend up until this year. Something changed in him, and he constantly needs to put me down and I don't know how to handle it.
We're both 28, for reference.
Last year, he reported me to the college because I was doing students' homework for them for some extra cash. He said that what I was doing was depreciating his Diploma. I guess I get it, but what kind of friend would try to get me in trouble for something as harmless as doing people's homework? He didn't ask me to stop first or talk to me about it first, he just flat out reported me. Some friend.
Edit: I'm not saying what I did was not wrong. If he valued my friendship, he would have talked to me first. And I would have valued our friendship enough to stop.
I ended up dropping out of the program because of stress. He graduated this spring. I congratulated him and genuinely was happy for him. He then sends me this really childish text, bragging about how he graduated and I didn't. Here's a quote from part of the conversation. No joke, this is word for word:
"Hey [my name], just letting you know that I am an engineer now and you aren't. Also I just got hired at [his work] and am making $34 now just to start. There will be a party at [local bar] to celebrate my graduation. You should come. There will be resumes being taken, you should submit yours, because people like me always need assistants. Even though you are not an engineer by any means."
I thought, maybe he's being intentionally arrogant as a joke that I'm supposed to get. But that's not the case, this kind of talk continued for months. And he means it to be hurtful.
I couldn't take it anymore, so I blocked him on everything I could think of.
A little bit of background information, I recently started my own business making custom tools. This quote was a part of what he commented on my Instagram picture of one of my tools yesterday:
"You should stop posting these online, it's really embarrassing because your [tool name] is such a failure. I should redesign all of it for you because I'm actually an engineer at [company name] and have a lot more experience. I could actually do it right, unlike you. I just might help you if you ask me nicely."
Like, what the hell did I do to deserve that? I don't know why I let it even bother me because of how obviously immature he is being.
I didn't respond. I blocked him on Instagram too, but now he's trying to message me on LinkedIn. Blocked him there now too.
I'm still friends with his brother, so it's impossible for me to completely block him out from my life unfortunately.
I almost want to explain to him how narcissistic he is, and how his messages are an obvious cry of mental insecurity. I know that that would just be fueling the fire though, and would solve nothing.
He deserves to be put in his place. I don't know if that's possible though without me becoming just as petty as he is.
How should I handle this? He's bound to see me in the future, so there's no avoiding his bullshit.
Thanks
Left: X61S with 4GB ram.
Right: T530 with a bunch of upgrades.
This is primarily talking about state dependence with ADHD medication (stimulants).
State dependence is when information that is learned while taking ADHD medication is difficult to recall when not in the same physiological state (when not on ADHD meds).
I started taking Vyvanse about 7.5 years ago, and at that time I started learning so much more than I ever have. I hyperfocused on computers, learned how to program in multiple programming languages, I learned a lot about Linux. During that time, I also learned a lot about 3D printing and mechanical engineering, and made a lot of cool things. About 2 years ago, my tolerance to the meds reached a certain threshold where I stopped being able to recall all the things I have learned.
When I take double my prescribed dose (which I am not advising you to do), I can reach that state of clarity and recall everything again, but only for a few hours, and then I crash lasting a few days. It's not healthy for me to continuously do this, and my dose is already too high for my doctor to raise it anymore (90mg concerta).
Today I read about state dependence in a wellness book that has a section about stimulants and ADHD, and it explains why I can't remember or do any of the computer-related things I used to do. I wish there was a way to recall all the information I've learned without having to raise my dose or use any sort of substance. It's really a pickle of a situation.
I have been on ADHD meds for about 7.5 years now. I started with Vyvanse and my dose was at 70mg in the first year. I was having bad crashes at night, so I switched to Adderall 40mg with 10mg Dexidrine and stayed on it for a few years. Recently, I switched to Concerta 90mg because my tolerance was getting too high and it wasn't working anymore, hoping that by switching it will reset my tolerance. It didn't. In fact, my tolerance drops to being feeling depressed/unmotivated in about 3 days now. So that sucks.
Taking breaks is agony for me. I have the worst stimulat headaches, no motivation, and can't sleep. My doctor knows this but does nothing. He won't raise my dose.
How do you guys manage? Thanks.
[Klein Tools Model #2100-9] Wire stripper notches are especially useful sometimes. I've beaten on this pair quite a bit and they still cut like they're brand new. I also have the non-stainless version, but I prefer the stainless.
In the front two exterior pockets, the sewing kit fits in on the left and the Knipex fits in the right.
It's basically a mini commonly used hardware and medication pouch. I use fishing line for sewing in situations where I need strong thread, and I have various size needles in there too. The Altoids Smalls tin has a few of my most commonly used medication for me and my family. The Rolaids are for my heartburn unfortunately.
The leather wallet is homemade, while I bought the Hide & Drink pocket organizer.
Contents:
- Homemade wallet
- Field notebook (stored in the back pocket of wallet)
- Mini BIC lighter
- Swisscard Lite tools inside a 3D printed card enclosure (because I broke the original one)
- Zebra F-701 pen (in the bottom horizontal pocket of wallet)
- Hide & Drink pocket organizer
- Fenix R18RV2 flashlight
- Victorinox Cybertool L
- Knipex Cobra XS pliers
- EDCPocketTools Mini CatClaw (prototype)
- Zipties (not shown - inside organizer)
Leather wallet
- Has a pocket in the back to hold a field notes book.
- Pen compartment
- Lighter pocket
- Swisscard Lite tools in a 3d printed card
3D printed pocket organizer
- Victorinox Huntsman
- Fenix E18R V2
As you know, r/EDC has been down for a while now and I don't know if it will ever come back. If only the users from that sub knew about this Lemmy community, I bet we could make this our new home.
Fuck Reddit. I really enjoyed that subreddit.
Any ideas?
I'm just getting started with woodworking, so I don't have a lot, but I've managed to make a few projects with what I currently have. If I had a planar, it would open the door to a lot more stuff that I could make, I think.
Elastics take up less room in your pocket than pouches, and it works.
- Victorinox Huntsman
- Fenix E18R V2
List:
- Handmade wallet. Holds a Zebra F-701 pen and a field notebook in the back of it.
- EDCPocketTools CatClaw prybar
- Swiss army knife - Victorinox Huntsman
- Fenix E18R V2 flashlight
tonystark29 @lemmy.world I like making things. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't. I don't see failure as failure; I see it as progress. Interests include space/rockets, keyboards, and other niche things.