I think anybody over 40 playing rock on stage is cringey

did you know that in addition to continuing hobbies and pastimes they did as a young person, sometimes old people fuck??

:the-more-you-know:

Behold the House of Waffles

The deathless diner nesting in dreams

Turn your back to the horrors, House, House

Turn your front to me, House, House

Yes, and you get your official golden DARE card!

For real though, prom can be an exclusionary, torturous experience, especially for kids who aren't cisgender, heterosexual, white, neurotypical, able-bodied, or financially comfortable. In very conservative areas, the rules around who can attend often include stipulations that dates must be opposite genders, and the dress code requires assigned-gender conformation. It's not unusual for prom to be held at a country club or other establishment with an exclusionary, bigoted past.

Anti-Prom is an effort to make something fun for the kids that those proms leave behind.

this is my cue to show them the million task lists and corresponding calendar appointments with 87 notifications each

Also, hey, thanks for making this post ❤️ my favorite medicine for bad feelings is finding a way to put some kindness out, so thank you for the opportunity you've created.

I'm so sorry. Being immobilized by pain and watching the havoc it causes while you wait for help and healing is awful. May every morning bring you increased strength and flexibility, and may every rest bring you greater ease and peace.❤️

I'm getting established with a new medical provider for the 5th time since getting diagnosed with ADHD in January, and I'm once again between prescriptions, and watching the way it wrecks every aspect of my life hasn't been fun.

I have so much less patience for everyone and everything because my fucking head is full of bees. My emotional regulation is rekt, my communication skills are trash, and it is taking a toll on every aspect of my life and every relationship.

I forgot a major bill less than 48 hours after my husband reminding me of it, and it overdrafted our account. When sorting that out, I discovered another one I had forgotten that thankfully wasn't on autopay, so no overdraft fee there, just a late fee.

I've been unmedicated for only two weeks as of tomorrow. I can't nag these people to help me - I am terrified of being labeled a drug-seeker - but omfg I need my medication back.

At least I can pay the bills when I do remember them, we have a home and enough to eat, my husband is super understanding, and he's not going to fire me from our home business haha so... It could be worse. It could always be worse.

Just really hate my unmedicated self. She has repeatedly ruined my whole life and I don't want her to do it again.

Idk why, but the crest and the expressive pose here really remind me of Alex from Love Island.

This little guy is awesome, and I am very excited about this series of posts, thank you!!

Aaaaaahhhhhh this takes me back ❤️ thanks, I love it

I love Lemmy! I've got accounts across several instances, and I have totally replaced my reddit scrolling with Lemmy.

I love that the spirit of beanposting lives on ❤️

I have to admit to being shamefully curious about the beans inside the potato, that kinda sounds good.

And then Will Smith walks up to Trump and slaps the orange off his face while shouting, "Welcome to Georgia!"

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This part seems particularly sketchy to me, but maybe I'm just reading it wrong. Does this mean "Reddit confidential information" as in information about the company or does this also cover private details of the lives of other participants? I can see some reasoning for the latter - though I wonder what illegal activities (other than seeking abortion) participants would even be discussing - but the former seems like a big ask. Do they notify their users in advance about law enforcement inquiries and cooperate with them in seeking a protective order or other reasonable remedies?

The archive link didn't work for me, so I went through to Reddit to copy-paste for anyone else having trouble.

Disclaimer: while I'm a mod of r/Blind and would have been a participant in this group in that capacity, my decisions and thoughts are my own and are, in this case at least, not necessarily representative of or coordinated with the rest of the mod team.

What is the Accessibility Feedback Group?

On July 19th, Reddit announced "more ways to connect live with" them, including an Accessibility Feedback Group. I filled out the form to join this group, including answering Reddit's questions about my disability. That wasn't an issue for me, because it's right on my screen name, on my user flair and all over my comment and post history. For others, these questions could be a concern, especially in how they were used to select participants for this group. I've copied these questions bellow.

How does joining work?

After filling out the form, I waited. Over two weeks later, I got a DM from an admin we've been in contact with - after asking what was up with the delay, that is. After that, I finally got a DM from /r/RedditAccessibility that included a link to another form with terms for participating in the group. I reviewed the terms, concluded I could not agree to them and replied with that information. I got this DM back:

Hey u/MostlyBlindGamer, thanks for the reply.

This is similar language we use in various programs and is part of a standard process we have when sharing nonpublic information. Are there specific parts of the terms that you’re concerned about? We’re eager to have your participation in the group, and the agreement is required for all participants.

Please let us know if there are specific concerns that we can address.

I replied with my specific concerns and have received no further contact.

So what are these terms you can't agree to?

I'll copy my DM and then include the full text of the terms below.

You expect specific actionable contributions, without consideration. That sounds too much like working for free.

You expect participants to contact Reddit for help in preventing information from being provided to legal authorities. Offering some kind of support would be nice, but this is an actual requirement.

You have language on staying on topic. My experience has been that Reddit Inc narrows the topic with little notice and to such an extent as to be useless.

I hope these speak for themselves. If not, sorting r/Blind by top, all time, should provide plenty of context, through the announcements the mod team has made.

Are these terms really that bad?

They are for me. Throughout this process, I've strived to be transparent and to hold others to that standard. I've been in too many meetings that ended in "we'll get back to you" to be OK with a private, tightly controlled focus group. I've spent too much of my free time advocating for and providing expertise to make products accessible to do it for Reddit Inc. under these terms, for free. In fact, I wouldn't want to be paid either - they should be hiring disabled people to work on accessibility. I already have a job, I don't want to work for Reddit Inc.

You may be asking yourself what I imagine Reddit's intentions to be. You may also ask yourself why this question doesn't deserve its own heading. One thing at a time, let's get to their intentions, first. I can imagine a few options:

• They're doing the best they know how to do and following their regular formula. This formula has resulted in enough people feeling ignored by the company to black out the website for two days.
• They want to be able to say they're working with disabled users and mods, while keeping them controlled and preventing them from speaking publicly about the process. This isn't really an "option," so much as the situation as it's presented to me.
• They want to control the narrative, ensuring future public information on Reddit's accessibility comes from them and not the users.

None of those work for me, on a personal level.

But wait, there's more!

New Reddit's Fancy Pants Editor has a formatting button for headings, but it only produces level 1. This leads users to create content that does not follow accessibility best practices. I wasn't even looking for more failures, but here we are.

Original AFG form questions on disability

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• Mental health condition
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• Other (has text field)

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Yes it was!! The beat reminds me of the Three 6 Mafia stuff my brother and I used to listen to while delivering pizzas in the early 00s. She seems fun, and I love her style; that top is insanely awesome.

It's explained in the TNG episode where the Trill and the symbionts are first introduced; iirc, the Enterprise carries some candidates for a joining, Crusher (or maybe Troi??) gets romantically involved with one of the Trill (maybe the host that is about to pass?), and through that relationship we learn some about the process for choosing a new host and that it's a very coveted position. In DS9, iirc, it's part of Jadzia's backstory that she got into some of the studies and extracurriculars she did specifically because she wanted to be an especially appealing host when presented to the Dax symbiont.