this is why I have a large team of moderators who are all on board to filter this out. you guys haven't seen behind the scenes, but there's been plenty of this on lemmy.blahaj.zone.
I'm sorry, but as someone who has been very explicitly transgender over 4 years now (and has a team that is 40% trans), i take offense to this. While the neopronouns debate was something that my team probably would have handled slightly differently, it is not what I am referring to AT ALL.
we considered that, and even had a voulenteer who was open to giving 196 its own lemmy instance hosted on their personal server, but we ultimately decided against it, as running a lemmy instance is expensive and resource intensive, and we'd rather not fundraise/worry about having to move again. A major instance like lemmy.world has an assurance of longevity that might not necessarily be found in a smaller instance.
I'm not familiar with this drama. Lemmy.world was chosen because they have the resources to support another major community, their rules (as far as I am aware) align with ours, and they agreed to let us moderate our community by our rules with minimal interference.
blahaj.zone admins have a tendency to moderate rather heavy-handedly. Mod choices are rarely, if ever, checked by my team, and bans are often given for things that are not in violation of our rules. This is because Ada runs lemmy.blahaj.zone as a very curated community, often removing and banning for matters that are, in my opinion, based on opinion rather than objectivity. I have little against that, and think that, as the owner, she has every right to choose how to run her community. That being said, I don't think its the right community for us.
I reached out to multiple different major instance's admin teams, and world's team was most receptive and cooperative. In addition, lemmy.world has a pretty great reputation, being one of the most popular instances.
none of you have to be embattled with anyone. a simple report will do.