I'm sorry you're going through that. Since we're sharing... A few years ago, I (amab) started feeling really uncomfortable being called a "man" and especially the honorific "sir", so I adopted the nonbinary label in online communities to avoid any kind of gendering. But it wasn't enough, and almost a year after that I learned makeup techniques and bought some fem clothes at a thrift store, and things kept going in that direction without any attempt on my part to hide it.
I'm not sure I understand the truly genderless perspective of people I've known, but the desire to remove cisgendered attributes from one's self is the part that resonates with me. My facial hair, my voice, and my height are all nasty reminders. I boymode when explicitly asked to (like by my partner, who is the same as me) but I don't think I could tolerate a setting or organization trying to make me present as cis-het. I'm basically fem every day in a town that has some trouble respecting that, but I'm also attending a college where this is fairly normal.
Welcome to the club. I'm in America so obviously my experience is a bit different and there are gaps in my cultural knowledge.
I don't know. Generally any LGBTQ group should suit you, and if there is a gay bar I highly recommend going. Gay/trans/queer/whatever people are all sort of part of the same community, and I guess people assume that something both NB-specific and local might not draw as large of a group, but I could be completely wrong.
I don't know much about this either, except anecdotally about shorter haircuts becoming popular among American women around that time, coincident with the rise of high culture in New York and other major cities, as well as some progress in feminist movements. I imagine queer people were still closeted though.
I have a waist that's anywhere from 26" to 31", equivalent to a small or medium (depending on country of origin, brand, gender, and stretch. Read the reviews.) Skirts from China tend to run small, and you should also consider that your hips are a different size from your waist. You can wear a skirt at any vertical position, but also consider that your hips might block it from going all the way up if the zipper is too small and there is no elastic.
A year ago I spent a couple hours shopping for the perfect stripper-style microskirt in my size, and while it fits perfectly, when I wear it I look like the "problem" that far-right characters are trying to "solve". Miniskirts are acceptable for most people, microskirts are better for especially hot wearers or select settings. I've never been a fan of dresses, but a former AMAB partner with a similar body to what you describe ordered one that fit them perfectly. I believe they used a tape measure at different positions to get a precise size.
Are you my boyfriend? jk jk but as a non-binary transfem who gets misgendered every day and has a lot of male-coded attributes I can sorta relate. I think if you're medically transitioning that probably means your dysphoria is worse. If one of your male-coded qualities is stoicism, I recommend letting your sadness show more visibly and communicating more openly about how you feel and what you're thinking. That way, people are less likely to call your judgment into question.
I never watched. I feel like there should be shows in the "new adult" category that focus more on gay dating clubbing drama and sex, with less focus on tragedy and high school bs. It's strange to be like an exotic species in the media when irl half of the people I run into are openly queer. I don't mean to judge but the way the book and show are marketed seems strange to me
I have an open romantic relationship with a guy I've known for about a year. When other people have gotten involved it's been awkward for us, but I know that it's necessary to not limit ourselves to the same routines day after day. Then again, I'm mtf so and we're all different.
I have a bf now, but tonight he's watching comedy shows and smoking weed while I'd rather get more cuddles and gropes. Would be cool to get a polyamorous thing going but it would be hard for me to rope in more boys since my social skills are shit.
I'm queer in whatever capacity you want to define. Fucking people as a top doesn't feel right to me, regardless of gender. Maybe, like me, you're more of a bottom.
Aww, I feel you. When I was a little femboy I tried to find companionship online, but the people I met that way turned out to be closed-off or unhinged. Maybe among your friends you'll find a boyfriend to take care of your femboy needs. Mine certainly helps my mood :3
It may have been because I was looking at it through another instance. I don't know much about how this federation stuff works. Anyways, glad it's back :)
Great! I'm glad it's back (and also glad the old posts were just hidden, not deleted). Hopefully whatever moderation problems you were having will go away.
I'm sorry you're going through that. Since we're sharing... A few years ago, I (amab) started feeling really uncomfortable being called a "man" and especially the honorific "sir", so I adopted the nonbinary label in online communities to avoid any kind of gendering. But it wasn't enough, and almost a year after that I learned makeup techniques and bought some fem clothes at a thrift store, and things kept going in that direction without any attempt on my part to hide it.
I'm not sure I understand the truly genderless perspective of people I've known, but the desire to remove cisgendered attributes from one's self is the part that resonates with me. My facial hair, my voice, and my height are all nasty reminders. I boymode when explicitly asked to (like by my partner, who is the same as me) but I don't think I could tolerate a setting or organization trying to make me present as cis-het. I'm basically fem every day in a town that has some trouble respecting that, but I'm also attending a college where this is fairly normal.