klemptor @ klemptor @startrek.website

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Have you been to Cherry Springs? The stargazing there is really amazing.

I listen to The Delta Flyers podcast, and the latest episode was reviewing DS9 - Our Man Bashir, so I watched that.

This part:

Racing thoughts may be experienced as background, _or may take over a person's consciousness. _Thoughts, music, and voices might be zooming through one's mind as they jump tangentially from one to the next.

actually does describe what it's like inside my head. I think of it like background chatter. There are usually two to three tracks of thought that my mind hops between with a song playing in the background (currently it's I Second That Emotion by The Miracles). It's there when I wake up in the morning and it's there all day long. If I wake up in the middle of the night, it's there. That can be annoying because it makes it hard to fall back asleep. During the day I can quiet it down by concentrating on something else - e.g., listening to a podcast - but if I'm doing something that doesn't require much thought, my background chatter comes to the forefront again.

It is what it is. ¯(ツ)_/¯ It hasn't kept me from being successful and it doesn't really bother me except when it makes it harder to fall asleep. I'm guessing it's just an overactive imagination? I've described it to my husband and he can't relate - he says his mind is blank unless he's actively thinking about something (and I can't relate to that lol).

I think this is just what's normal for me. If it caused distress or confusion, I think it might indicate some pathology, but that's not the case.

To be fair, hilter was the wooooorst ;)

I wonder if that post was deleted - if so, then it's definitely for the best!

Have you tried silicone nipple shields? They stick to your skin without requiring adhesives and should easily stay in place inside a bralette or sports bra.

Jesus christ. I saw a thread in some other community the other day about Women's Stuff and the men wah-wah-wahing like little babies about this sub were ridiculous. Same thing - in that thread some man was saying that when he replied to threads here he felt like he had to walk on eggshells.

You guys, all we want is one tiny corner of lemmy to ourselves. Somewhere we can talk about things that uniquely affect us -or- perhaps they affect men too but they affect us in a unique way due to our gender. And many men are cool with this concept and generally supportive (and a sincere thank you to those guys!) but a significant number are butthurt little babies about being unwanted here.

Those are the same butthurt little babies in the Fox News poll. If you can't keep it civil in the workplace I don't know what to tell you other than you're a low-quality human. Have some fucking empathy.

Edit: here's the post I was talking about.

I keep my house very clean, and when the weather allows I open windows to let in fresh air. I also have reed diffusers throughout my house to add a little scent. IMO the key is to choose one scent for your whole house so that it smells cohesive, and to choose a scent that is mild, not too artificial or overwhelming. Right now I've got the Life in Lilac diffusers in Peppermint Bliss and they smell great. All I have to do is flip the reeds once a week.

You might also be going nose blind to the febreze plug-ins if the scent is disappearing after a couple of days.

I was gonna go with Sam Kinison but yours is way better.

Do you mind if I ask you - I've always been curious how anyone could join the military and not bother with politics. Don't they want to know what they might be sent to fight for? Is it just blind trust that the government will use the military wisely, or is it being young and dumb and possibly poor, or is it the appeal of the GI bill? Or - you've mentioned Bush and I assume you mean W, not HW, and if so you must be roughly my age. Did they mostly join in response to 9/11?

If you're willing to share a pic of your current eyeliner attempts, I could take a look and provide some tips for improvement.

But generally, decide what you're lining - top lash line is most common; I think bottom liner might still be out of style? (I don't care, I still rock it anyway, but it's something you might want to check on.) You could also tightline, which is using eyeliner on your upper and/or lower waterline (the thin part of your eyelid between the lashes and eyeball).

Assuming you're doing top and/or bottom loner: start with a sharp eye pencil and draw the line as thin as you can to start out. This will give you a sketch to build on. Try to hug the lash line as much as possible - make sure you can't see skin between your lash line and eyeliner. Avoid lining the inner corner of your eye (it can look weird; usually I save that for a more editorial look).

Once you've done this with both eyes, compare them and make any adjustments needed until the shape and line width are the same. Then you can dull the tip of your eye pencil (try tapping it gently against your palm a couple of times) and start building the line up to your preferred width. Go slow and switch back and forth between your eyes as you go to make it as symmetric as possible.

The kind of eye pencil you use will make a huge difference. You want one that's got a nice creamy formula because those are easier to work with. I'm a fan of the Urban Decay 24/7 liners - they come in loads of colors and last a long time. Almost any color is fine to start with except Perversion - that one has a more difficult formula. If you want black, try Zero -

or for a nice soft grey-brown shimmer, my favorite is Mushroom!

Generally when you're starting out, don't go for something more complicated like winged liner until you're confident with basic liner. And when you're ready to try wings, you can get liquid eyeliner wing stamps (search on Amazon, there are a ton), or you can try with eyeshadow and an angled brush (much more forgiving than a pen!).

Another piece of advice: YouTube has loads of makeup tutorials, so you might want to look for a basic eyeliner tutorial there.

Good luck!

Yes, short for doggo.

Oh my goodness he's so cute!! I bet he loves his Lamb Chop!

That was great - now I really want to watch that special!

I was never super emotional - unless anxiety is an emotion - but I've gotten way more emotional since I stopped taking the pill and started HRT. I cry much more easily now, sometimes over really dumb things (both happy and sad!). I'm hoping that when I start the estrogen patch in a couple of months, my emotional regulation will get better.

I agree that it can be exhausting! My shower routine is annoyingly long and sometimes I just don't want to bother.

1. Dry brush
2. Clarifying shampoo (leave on 5 mins)
3. Exfoliate and shave pits
4. Moisturizing shampoo
5. Conditioner
6. Shave legs
7. Wash face
8. Wash body
9. Skincare (several steps; takes about 8 mins) and deodorant
10. Dry oil on whole body
11. Detangle, section, and dry hair
12. Lotion for feet, elbows, and knees

This takes about an hour and I haven't even gotten to makeup yet! But if I skip steps, I feel like a goblin. Like if I skip shaving my legs it saves me time and effort, but then I hate having leg stubble and I don't want to wear shorts but it's been in the nineties, way too hot for pants!

For contrast, my husband's routine takes about 8 minutes total. He uses 4 products: shampoo, conditioner, bar soap, deodorant. He has no skincare routine, lets his hair air dry, and only shaves about once a week (takes about 5 mins). And he looks great! Because the expectations for men are so much more normal.

I know part of the problem is that I've bought into the "need" for all these steps and products. But I'm 43 and fighting to delay aging on all fronts as much as possible. Healthy eating, working out, skincare, medication, etc. It's a lot of work!

Halfway I feel like we do all this time-consuming and expensive upkeep because we want to (we like the results and it feels good to look good) and halfway because we get pulled in by societal expectations.

Women who do nails, tanning, extensions, waxing, lashes, designer bags/shoes/clothes - I give them all the props because it takes so much time, money, and effort, that's real dedication! And I bet sometimes they find it ten times more exhausting than I find my routine.

This was a bit of a ramble, sorry!

Agree with all three! Also the Laneige lasts forever, It's what, 25 bucks? But it'll last over a year.

May I see a pic of said good boy?

Ugly bags of mostly water

Aw I like you too 😊