i can be hopeful then, im a teen
YES. This is how she behaves!!
yeah, she either apologizes because she “can’t control herself” or blames me
she’s actually my “close friend” but I don’t consider her that for obvious reasons
yeah, i’ll probably seek advice on this community a lot now that I’ve found it.
so this girl nadya acts like she’s kind of avoiding but kind of not, it’s so weird. nadya and i used to be quite close since we met 3 years ago.
nadya has been really quiet lately though, specifically around me. she considers us friends and continues to talk to me, and will be normal sometimes. sometimes she smiles and waves back so i know she doesn’t HATE me.
anyway, i’m putting this under Lesbians bc i’m wlw (or more specifically, nblw) and i like this girl 😓
i guess what I’m trying to say is that she acts differently around me, but it doesn’t seem all negative?
I’m not certain she’s interested in me since this one “mean girl” thinks nadya likes her and very well may, but i wanna know what this might mean, especially as an enby with a sapphic crush 😅 (if i qualify as sapphic)
so this is just like textbook narcissism and not just an asshole?
my friend always thinks she’s better than everyone at everything. no matter what i do, I’m useless and horrible at everything to her, and she ditches me because I’m nerdy and not the most popular and because I don’t like sports. she hangs out with the popular girls and talks about me to them and why they should exclude me if I ask to hang out with them.
most of the time, though, she’s nice. it’s only usually in gym class, but it’s been happening a lot lately.
she’s usually nice to me and hangs out regardless of sports or my social status, but like I said, she’s been really rude lately.
she also pushes me and tells me to get out of her face but then says it’s “just a joke”…
my friend always thinks she's better than everyone at everything. no matter what i do, I'm useless and horrible at everything to her, and she ditches me because I'm nerdy and not the most popular and because I don't like sports. she hangs out with the popular girls and talks about me to them and why they should exclude me if I ask to hang out with them.
most of the time, though, she's nice. it's only usually in gym class, but it's been happening a lot lately.
she's usually nice to me and hangs out regardless of sports or my social status, but like I said, she's been really rude lately.
she also pushes me and tells me to get out of her face but then says it's "just a joke"...
nothing they do is ever their fault, and what I do is never good enough for them
i think most people can relate to this 😅 lol
Someone I know shows stuff such as:
- constantly needing a scapegoat
- shifting blame/cannot take accountability
- exaggerated mindset, often where other people are useless and they are the greatest
- has to maintain a very positive public image, such as being the absolute best
- does not have empathy unless it involves them or impacts their image in some way, if their image is supposed to be empathetic they will act so because of their image
- lacks empathy for people in pain/bad mental health/etc. but their image might be very upset about that
- will often be very nice to people in any sort of power
I’m asking because I’m genuinely curious if I should help, and maybe that even if they exhibit negative behaviors, they’re not a completely TERRIBLE person despite how they treat me.
então nossa amiga lisa (14, mulher) tem 3 paixões: michael (14, homem), que tá namorando com a melhor amiga de lisa (elena), nadya (14m), com que tô (14nb) um pouco apaixonade, e nicky (14h).
lisa tá tentando flertar com michael e conversar mais com ele mesmo que ele namora pq lisa tá ciumenta e quer que michael fique apaixonado com lisa e termina com elena.
nicky e lisa tinham sentimentos mútuos um pelo outro. basicamente eles eram um casal em todas as maneiras exceto pra oficialidade, já que nenhum dos dois estava pronto pra ter um relacionamento.
bem, nicky preferiu jogar videogames do que passar um tempo com lisa. ela tava triste e parou de conversar com ele.
kristina (13m) gosta de nicky tbm mas acha q nicky não vai gostar dela tbm pq eles são amigos e ela acha q nicky acha q kristina é mais como uma irmã.
lisa perguntou a nicky se ele gostava de alguém e ele disse “não”, então lisa tá com medo de confessar a ele.
lisa gosta de nadya um pouco como já disse, mas eu tbm gosto dela.
nadya costumava atuar de forma um pouco estranha, como falando num tom irritado e me evitando mas depois, se aproximando de mim.
agora, ela parece menos irritada/estressada e quer conversar comigo mais, q me deixa feliz. ela parece mais energética como sempre.
lisa quer que nadya namore com ela, e nadya poderia gostar dela de novo como gostava 2 anos atrás quando elas namoravam uma com a outra.
resumindo, elena tá namorando com michael, lisa gosta do namorado dela e quer que ele namore ela em vez de elena.
lisa e nicky gostavam um do outro mas um relacionamento não ia funcionar e nicky não passava um tempo com ela então lisa parou de conversar com ela. kristina é a melhor amiga da lisa e tbm gosta do nicky. nicky não gosta de ninguém.
lisa gosta da ex dela, nadya. nadya e lisa namoravam uma com a outra 2 anos atrás (quando tinham ~12 anos) e lisa acha q nadya gosta dela de novo mas tô apaixonade com nadya então todos os amigos de lisa gostam das pessoas do que ela gosta.
я Галактик, модератор.
мне 14 лет, мой день рождения 25 января (так что мне было 14 лет течение дня) 😊
(i guess not every time but when it’s needed, sure :) )
sina ike ala la, sina ken pana e sona tawa mi
ni li lon, pali e tan sina 😅
mi lukin e ni: jan lon lipu ni toki e toki pona. mi lukin la, mi pali e kulupu ni.
(sorry, i’ll probably post a lot to keep community active and because i have much to say)
[WARNING: LONG AND KINDA RANTY]
we’re all so similar to our friend lisa (14f) that it’s like we even find the same people attractive. we might as well be the same person, almost. like a hivemind.
first off, lisa had a friend (14m) nicky. nicky and lisa had mutual feelings for each other but lisa wasn’t ready to handle a real, comitted relationship yet.
they were basically a couple in everything but name. more than friends for sure, but only considered just friends for that reason.
anyway, nicky started spending less time with her and chose videogames over her, so they broke up.
our friend kristina (13f) is also good friends with nicky and liked him for a while, even after lisa stopped talking to him.
kristina likes everything about nicky, but she’s certain nicky doesn’t like her back because they’re really good friends and she thinks nicky sees her as more of a sister.
kristina is in our friend group though, and therefore is best friends with lisa, who still likes him after some time. so you could imagine how lisa felt when she found out about kristina’s crush.
obviously, out of the three crushes lisa has, this one called michael (14m) is off-limits as he’s taken by our friend ella (14f), nadya (14f) i probably have no chance with but im slightly attracted to her, and nicky is yk…
this is why i’m hoping lisa can patch things up with nicky and hopefully lose feelings for the other two :(
lisa asked nicky if he liked anyone and he said no, but i don’t know. because of this, she’s scared to ask him out/confess bc she thinks he may have moved on. i’m also slightly afraid that this will break kristina’s heart so hopefully she can move on soon.
now for lisa’s other crush nadya, who i (14nb) like. nadya and lisa are pretty silly together and do stuff that normal best friends do together. they do “act gay” to the point where my friend thinks they are dating, but it’s possible that nadya may or may not be just messing around as i see many straight girls act “like lesbians” with each other (especially twerking/butt slapping).
nadya is obviously attached to lisa and seems to be pretty clingy (i am also like this a bit with my attachments). i see that they are somewhat physical with each other (arm grabbing especially) although nadya generally doesn’t like being touched (maybe she likes lisa or lisa likes to be touched?)
anyway, lisa and nadya have a pretty strong relationship. they even dated at age 12 but broke up subsequently. i feel like nadya will either end up with lisa or she’s just messing around and is straight, so either way, no chance.
nadya has started to become more energetic around me, and i’m happy for that. she even said i could go to her house, but not for a long time due to sports she has. she’s probably in another state right now.
she used to be really odd, though, like suddenly getting quiet around me, either being snippy or just being super quiet. sometimes she would get close to me and then scoot away awkwardly (i probably shouldn’t have said “hahaha” bc i was awkward too) (i also think she was just stressed even if it seemed to be me she was mostly like that with)
she would seem happy to see me at times and smile though. people were advising me to ask if she wanted to hug/cuddle and such but she is not a fan of touching bc she said she doesn’t like it much when her friends hug her often.
like i said, now she’s being more energetic and things are fine :)
hopefully we can sort this out 😓 i hope lisa gets with nadya or nicky
my friend lisa has liked this one guy michael for a while now, even before michael met his gf ella.
michael is a good friend of hers that usually calls her and is in our friend group.
once ella came into town and moved here, lisa and ella became pretty close, and ella joined the friend group as well.
ella and michael also became pretty close, calling each other, talking every day, and the like. ella started to like michael, and lisa, hoping that michael was not interested, agreed to help her friend.
turns out michael did like ella, because they’re dating. now that he’s taken, lisa likes him more, because you know what they say: people want what they can’t have.
lisa tries talking to michael a lot and also hoping to take him from ella and get him to break up with her because she’s jealous of ella though, and she’s always like “heyyy michael 🤭 👀 how are youuu”
i get how it feels to have a crush, but what should i do if this continues to happen? should i just tell lisa that it’s wrong: i think she already knows that but feels she has to.
i thought it was a catchy name for a pansexual group, which I don’t see much of on lemmy, if at all.
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/panpals
that’s right. the date is on my bio. I have one more day to keep “13x” (13nb) on my bio, and then i can change it.
i don’t really need advice yet, it’s just a question. a girl im friends with acts really odd. we are friends, and we used to talk a lot, but then she started getting quieter, making less eye contact.
she also started being tenser/snippy at times.
when she’s not snippy, she’s just very quiet, which is most of the time. sometimes she’ll scoot over next to me but then scoot away, or act like she wants to sit by me but then goes away.
she doesn’t seem to be acting rude at all or mad at me. she will be nice, like smiling and waving and saying “hello”, or energetic when she can respond over text, so i don’t believe i’ve done anything to hurt her, but it’s just been really odd. what, from your experience, make a friend start acting this way? (especially girl because idk about guy friend behaviors)
most of the time, she acts normal, and i appreciate our friendship, and she seems to not hate me or anything like i said
update: i asked bc i was curious abt her behavior as friends, not just wondering if she liked me or anything even if that’s the impression some of y’all get 😭
