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  • Also I suspect that some people assume that I feel hurt from being single. Some possible factors:

    • For people who are less able to put a lot of energy into a non-urgent task, I think perceived urgency would be more likely to be the first explanation that comes to mind when reading about my experiences, because avoiding projection is complicated for all of us.
    • It's hard for me to precisely describe mindsets that I have had, so I have used vague descriptions, and that might leave room for various interpretations. A severe example is when I used the phrase "almost like a goal".
  • "incel"
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    Project Pansystellar lab @lemmy.ca dullbananas (Joseph Silva) @lemmy.ca
    AlcoholEdu

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    Project Pansystellar lab @lemmy.ca dullbananas (Joseph Silva) @lemmy.ca
    Summary of a talk given by a friar on 2024-10-02 at men's night at ASU Newman Center (likely very pivotal for Pansystellar)
    • Some pickup lines to use "at your own risk" (these are paraphrased by me and I feel like I forgot some): I'm peace and I want to be with you; I was reading the book of Numbers and realized yours isn't in there; [some well known historical guy] had many wives because he didn't meet you; Bible says to feed hungry and give drink to thirsty so how about I take you to Chipotle; [something about rosary...] you can be my joyful mysteries for 5 decades
      • Someone said Chipotle isn't good, then the friar ask for a different place, and I wish I came up with the response "my basement" quicker so I could say it 😔
    • Some guys struggle with connecting with other guys, then they just be with girls, and their lack of male friendships led to something (emotional sharing or something like that) being excessive with girls
    • Better connection with men allows better connection with women
    • Men should talk to each other about personal struggles, including struggling with chastity
    • We should be "intentional" in seeking these friendships (in other words, try to develop male friendships)
    • Important reminder of the different levels of friendship (pleasure, utility, virtuous)
    • Differences between men and women, not very relevant here
    • Just like metal sharpens metal, men strengthen each other (from Bible if I recall correctly)
    • "The sharper we are, the more dangerous we are" (not in a bad way)
    • Deep friendships can be falsely seen as homosexuality, but they are actually completely good and non-sexual
      • He said that John leaning on Jesus's chest was not sexual

    In retrospect, God definitely guided me to go to this talk. Naturally, it was more likely that I would go to another event instead or use the time to work on assignments.

    It's possible that God broke\* my laptop's motherboard to make me come to this talk. Maybe I will explain this in a post in a different community.

    \*very indirectly, but saying it this way is so funny

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    TIL that you technically aren't allowed to enter Valley Metro public transit if you just peed your pants
  • I said "technically" because it's based on a rule that is probably intended to ban extremely stinky unhygienic people

  • Why did my bus driver want me to not pay the fare and instead just "TAKE A SEAT!!!"
  • I only read the rule that implies that. I did not pee my pants

  • What weird false belief did you have as a kid?
  • "Balance" is a bad oversimplification of comparative advantage

  • The journey

    Screenshot on the right is part of my dating profile

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    What weird false belief did you have as a kid?
  • This removed comment said "That I could have being a successful adult when I grow up, falling in love, making with my own family, and have a job."

  • What weird false belief did you have as a kid?
  • Did you think that word limits or finite space in assignments existed to help you not reach your life word limit?

  • Terry Davis designed the first iPhone prototypes

    Using the iPod controls sounds like a requirement from Terry Davis's auditory hallucinations of God

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    Because of something I did during an anthropology lecture, I learned the hard way to read the "The following packages will be REMOVED" list when upgrading a package to backports in Debian GNU + Linux.
    1. I upgraded pipewire from stable to backports (I want to know if this is related to my problem why essential packages were removed)

    ``` Start-Date: 2024-09-18 14:59:02 Commandline: apt install libpipewire-0.3-0/bookworm-backports Requested-By: dullbananas (1000) Install: libpulsedsp:amd64 (16.1+dfsg1-2+b1, automatic), pulseaudio:amd64 (16.1+dfsg1-2+b1, automatic), pulseaudio-utils:amd64 (16.1+dfsg1-2+b1, automatic), libasound2-plugins:amd64 (1.2.7.1-1, automatic), policykit-1-gnome:amd64 (0.105-8, automatic), pulseaudio-module-bluetooth:amd64 (16.1+dfsg1-2+b1, automatic), libspeexdsp1:amd64 (1.2.1-1, automatic) Upgrade: libspa-0.2-modules:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1, 1.2.3-1~bpo12+1), libpipewire-0.3-0:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1, 1.2.3-1~bpo12+1) Remove: pipewire-pulse:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), pipewire-audio-client-libraries:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), t2-apple-audio-dsp-speakers161:amd64 (0.2.0-1), gnome:amd64 (1:43+1), gnome-remote-desktop:amd64 (43.3-1), pipewire:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), gnome-shell-extensions:amd64 (43.1-1), gnome-shell:amd64 (43.9-0+deb12u2), pipewire-tests:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), gdm3:amd64 (43.0-3), libspa-0.2-jack:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), libspa-0.2-bluetooth:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), pipewire-jack:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), gstreamer1.0-pipewire:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), t2-apple-audio-dsp-mic:amd64 (0.4.0-1), pipewire-audio:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), pipewire-bin:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), chrome-gnome-shell:amd64 (42.1-3), task-gnome-desktop:amd64 (3.73), gnome-session:amd64 (43.0-1+deb12u1), gnome-browser-connector:amd64 (42.1-3), gnome-core:amd64 (1:43+1), libpipewire-0.3-modules:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1), wireplumber:amd64 (0.4.13-1), gnome-shell-extension-prefs:amd64 (43.9-0+deb12u2), pipewire-alsa:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1) End-Date: 2024-09-18 14:59:35

    Start-Date: 2024-09-18 14:59:43 Commandline: apt install libpipewire-0.3-modules/bookworm-backports Requested-By: dullbananas (1000) Install: libconfig++9v5:amd64 (1.5-0.4, automatic), libxml++2.6-2v5:amd64 (2.40.1-3, automatic), libpipewire-0.3-modules:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1), libffado2:amd64 (2.4.7-1, automatic) End-Date: 2024-09-18 14:59:48

    Start-Date: 2024-09-18 14:59:57 Commandline: apt install pipewire/bookworm-backports Requested-By: dullbananas (1000) Install: pipewire:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1), pipewire-bin:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1, automatic), wireplumber:amd64 (0.4.13-1, automatic) End-Date: 2024-09-18 15:00:02 ```

    1. I suspended the computer, and after resume, the lock screen was broken:
    • When I clicked on the password field, the text cursor only appeared for a split second, and I could not type in it
    • Clicking on the user switch button on the bottom right corner did nothing
    • A few times, the text "Authentication error" randomly appeared for a split second, probably for 1 frame !
    • No way to reboot the normal way, because I could only use the power menu on the lock screen, which only has suspend
    1. I used the power button to reboot, and instead of GNOME, there was darkness ``` Debian GNU/Linux 12 dullbananas-macbookpro161 tty1

    dullbananas-macbookpro161 login: ```

    1. I downgraded pipewire to stable Start-Date: 2024-09-18 15:20:16 Commandline: apt install pipewire/stable Requested-By: dullbananas (1000) Downgrade: pipewire:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1, 0.3.65-3+deb12u1), pipewire-bin:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1, 0.3.65-3+deb12u1), libspa-0.2-modules:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1, 0.3.65-3+deb12u1), libpipewire-0.3-modules:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1, 0.3.65-3+deb12u1), libpipewire-0.3-0:amd64 (1.2.3-1~bpo12+1, 0.3.65-3+deb12u1) End-Date: 2024-09-18 15:20:26

    2. I ran dpkg --verify and got this output ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.9-1-t2-bookworm/modules.alias ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.9-1-t2-bookworm/modules.alias.bin ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.9-1-t2-bookworm/modules.dep ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.9-1-t2-bookworm/modules.dep.bin missing /usr/share/dbus-1/services/io.snapcraft.Prompt.service ??5?????? c /etc/systemd/logind.conf ??5?????? c /etc/tlp.conf ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.8-1-t2-bookworm/modules.alias ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.8-1-t2-bookworm/modules.alias.bin ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.8-1-t2-bookworm/modules.dep ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.8-1-t2-bookworm/modules.dep.bin ??5?????? c /etc/gdm3/daemon.conf missing /etc/os-release.debootstrap ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.7-1-t2-bookworm/modules.alias ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.7-1-t2-bookworm/modules.alias.bin ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.7-1-t2-bookworm/modules.dep ??5?????? /lib/modules/6.10.7-1-t2-bookworm/modules.dep.bin

    3. I reinstalled systemd (not sure if this made a difference) Start-Date: 2024-09-18 15:48:58 Commandline: apt install --reinstall systemd Requested-By: dullbananas (1000) Reinstall: systemd:amd64 (252.30-1~deb12u2) End-Date: 2024-09-18 15:49:02

    4. I reinstalled gdm3, and immediately without me doing anything else, there was GNOME instead of darkness Start-Date: 2024-09-18 15:51:49 Commandline: apt install --reinstall gdm3 Requested-By: dullbananas (1000) Install: gnome-remote-desktop:amd64 (43.3-1, automatic), gnome-shell:amd64 (43.9-0+deb12u2, automatic), power-profiles-daemon:amd64 (0.12-1+b1, automatic), gdm3:amd64 (43.0-3), gstreamer1.0-pipewire:amd64 (0.3.65-3+deb12u1, automatic), chrome-gnome-shell:amd64 (42.1-3, automatic), gnome-session:amd64 (43.0-1+deb12u1, automatic), gnome-browser-connector:amd64 (42.1-3, automatic), gnome-shell-extension-prefs:amd64 (43.9-0+deb12u2, automatic) Remove: tlp:amd64 (1.5.0-2), tlp-rdw:amd64 (1.5.0-2) End-Date: 2024-09-18 15:52:05

    5. End of class

    6. I reinstalled tlp because installing gdm3 removed it

    7. After selecting an app search result, instead of a new window opening, an existing window was focused, and this led to me discovering that my built-in extensions were gone

    8. While writing this post, I got the idea of using the list of removed packages in the apt history log output from apt install libpipewire-0.3-0/bookworm-backports to see what packages to install again, so I did that, then I also had to uninstall firefox-esr again

    9. I rebooted, and my built-in extensions and other stuff were resurrected, so now I have full redemption

    10. Another Window Session Manager restored my windows in a way that pissed me off

    !

    (Failed attempts of recovery are not listed)

    Edit: actually I made the mistake 1 minute before the start of class

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    Personal Storytelling Practice @lemmy.ca dullbananas (Joseph Silva) @lemmy.ca
    [Meta] don't post right away

    I think it's better to have a chance to use the stuff I wrote in real life conversations before I post them here, especially if the people I talk to are subscribed to this community.

    I will do this privately for now, and later I will probably choose a delay duration for posting.

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    Project Pansystellar lab @lemmy.ca dullbananas (Joseph Silva) @lemmy.ca
    Personal Storytelling Practice
    lemmy.ca Personal Storytelling Practice - Lemmy.ca

    At the end of every day, write about at least one of the most interesting things from the day. Try to get better at making the audience interested and at recognizing good possibilities of things to talk about, so you can connect with people better in real life. Avoid things that you wouldn’t do in u...

    I came up with this idea today

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    Personal Storytelling Practice @lemmy.ca dullbananas (Joseph Silva) @lemmy.ca
    Gold Lego piece with popcorn smell, regional food during OpenStreetMap club meeting, told to get Dasani instead of Smart Water, Personal Storytelling Practice idea
    • In Introduction to Engineering class, we had to come up with a Lego piece and describe it using precise requirements, and some of mine were: the piece shall be made out of gold, and the piece shall smell like popcorn.
    • Today for the first time I attended a meeting at a club called YouthMappers, and what they will do is contribute to OpenStreetMap, which is mostly tracing satellite imagery, and one of them, maybe jokingly, they suggested that at the next meeting we bring the food or music of the place we're mapping something in.
    • At Subway, I did meal exchange, which our meal plans provide as an alternative to paying for the meal, and it has its own very restricted menu. And when I went to checkout, I was told to get a bottled soda or water, and I got Smart Water, and I was told to get Dasani instead. This is communism.
    • I was walking to Subway and suddenly I came up with a cool idea. Basically at the end of every day I will write about the most interesting parts of the day so I can get better at having things to talk about in real life. And I made a Lemmy community called Personal Storytelling Practice where people can do that in public posts.
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    The indomitable human spirit

    Debian

    No I did not completely fix suspend, it sometimes breaks wifi

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    Using copyleft without heavily restricting what platforms to share on

    Is there a way to release a work under a copyleft license without preventing other people from sharing a copy of it on YouTube (only allows selecting standard YouTube license or permissive Creative Commons license) and similar platforms?

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    Project Pansystellar lab @lemmy.ca dullbananas (Joseph Silva) @lemmy.ca
    Common vs. required

    I just realized that a lot of my personal improvement in understanding the formation of romantic relationships can be described as discerning the boundary between what's common and what social norms require. When there were too many things that are in the common category but were not known by me to be in it, I could not always be myself, and I had a narrow view of the acceptable paths I could take (which was especially bad in my situation with girl 4, in which none of the truly socially acceptable paths (including abandoning the situation) were part of what I thought I could do).

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