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Thank you. :) Right now my issues are not from social anxiety, but rather from ongoing social "abuse" and rejection/abandonment at work. I used to wake up every day excited to go to work, but now I just feel so alone there. I cry often in the bathroom and before and after.

It's not as simple as "get a new job" either. My field is small and it would necessitate moving away. Yet I own my place. Plus I am tied with someone who I felt to be my best friend at one point who no longer is. For someone with social anxiety, feeling accepted is important to me.

I feel very alone in person rn and am struggling, but that's why I've always taken solace on the internet. Sure there are also a lot of shitheads online...often more than irl. But at the same time, you can run into people who you can pour your heart out and that will actually accept you. Maybe it's "unhealthy", but it has always helped me. I started talking to people online during my early teens when I had such extreme social anxiety that I could hardly talk to anyone in person. I credit my experiences online with helping me to develop social skills in person despite me being unable to do so at the time.

Hoping the best for you all. Happy Friday. :)

Glad to hear, OP! Anything in particular that helped? Or just the natural flow of things?

The only thing certain in life is change. Sometimes it's change for the bad and sometimes it's change for the good. But it will change. So the possibility of a good change always keeps me going.

Lmaooo. Tbf weirdos are what makes life a bit more interesting. :)

I'm sorry, dude. I don't have anything that can help. But you are a human being and you matter. Best of luck.

Ok this is a dumb question, but do antidepressants help with this? I'm in therapy and tried an antidepressant before and one other class of med but it didn't seem to help. My provider wants to try me on a different antidepressant again, but it's a bit disheartening to have already tried two different meds.

Interestingly, I had a 23andme done for funsies. And there is a section I didn't know about where it talks about how the action of some drugs can be affected by my genetics. It actually said that I would have reduced efficacy for the SSRI they had me on first. I brought this info to my provider which is why she wants me to try a different SSRI even after several failed meds.

Does she ever get stuck lol

No prob, homie. Clubs are a great way to meet and connect with people. :)

Ahhh ok. Please don't be upset when I say this, but it's a terrible idea to do that. Consider it a blessing that you were banned because you really shouldn't be doing that again. Even though you aren't a pedo, pedos are likely to find you and prey on you at that age, unfortunately. Even if you think you could never be a victim, you can, and it does happen.

And I say this as someone who started to get intently into online communities at 13. Skip the relationship part, even if you're trying to help your friend out. There are many gross scumbags out there. Believe it or not, at this age, both you and your friend are incredibly vulnerable. People can and will seek that out and take advantage of you.

I don't mean online dating is never a good idea, just that you should wait until your brain is more developed. Even if you think you or your friend are mature for your age, the human brain doesn't stop developing and maturing until around 25-ish.

I know it sucks and it's way easier said than done, but you guys need to seek out relationships in person at this age. Save online dating until you're a lot older. Sorry, bud.

Good luck out there and really try to not worry about what other people say. You live for you, not random online. You got this, fam.

What is sbf? Why do people think you're a pedo?

Listen, I know it's way easier said than done, but try your best not to listen to others online. With the anonymity of the internet and the lack of needing to look people in the eye or be there in person, a lot of people are willing to be nasty and bully others. Think of it as a blessing in disguise that you were banned from a toxic environment. Fuck them. Don't let the shitheads win by doing this to yourself. It's a bigger fuck you to them if you are able to live your life and thrive instead.

Things are especially rough as a teenager. Your brain is going through all of these changes and there are a shitton of new emotions and social social shit running through there. It's overwhelming at times and makes everything feel significant. I promise your brain will stop being this overloaded over time. You just need to hang in there. 14 is a rough as fuck time but you will not feel these things forever. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, man. You just gotta keep walking forward, but don't have to run through the tunnel if that makes sense. Take a rest and care for yourself.

Lmao what is this comment? Who shat in your cornflakes this morning?

I also found this to be odd.

Obviously anyone could donate their entire earnings to charity, but it doesn't really make sense for the self. Why is he donating all of it instead of donating some and keeping some? Whose idea was this?

Literally same. Luckily I had managed to avoid thinking of it beyond my teen years for a good decade. But it has come back worse than ever when I recently started listening to a podcast about some philosophy.

It's fucking terrifying and depressing. Anyone who doesn't believe in an afterlife but says it's not terrifying and depressing is taking mega levels of copium.

At one point recently I remember I was walking around in public doing a bit of people watching and I was like holy fucking shit everyone is just walking around like this is nothing. Everyone is gonna die but we have all this random bullshit everyone is doing not realizing it's gonna end. Idk.

How is your cat so long? Is this an elastic model?

I don't get it. Can someone help a stupid person out?

I'm a short person. I tend to have the seat adjusted nearly all the way up (so I can see enough put the window lol) and nearly all the way forward (so I can reach the pedals lol).

I'm not going to sit here and do a bunch of research for you. Here's one of the first links I found that went in to detail of how much of a disparity black women have in medical care versus white women and occasionally comparing to white men. It also talks a bit about poverty issues: https://www.networkforphl.org/news-insights/racial-disparities-in-womens-health

This is by all means not a comprehensive list of disparities, nor do I have interest in seeking out enough links to write a formal debate paper.

Again, you're really being incredibly unproductive with your shitty "us versus them" mentality. What are you even trying to achieve here? You want everyone to cry for you? Your struggles don't negate everyone else's.

Let me clarify. I wasn't speaking about majority groups (white people). Denying that women of color have significant difficulty is just flat out wrong and not helpful. Do women of color have it way better in the US than in, say, the Democratic Republic of the Congo? Absolutely. Does it mean that they are anywhere even remotely on the level of the majority group (white people)? Absolutely not. Comparing the suffering between various minority groups is not productive or fair, and reads as incredibly dismissive of real issues.

I love this. Amazing concept too lol I would have never thought of it.