That's an awesome thing that you're doing.
I'm okay with the lack of visibility in my daily life because it keeps me safe. The obvious drawback is the medical side of things. Feels like I've had to figure a lot of stuff out by myself because the resources just aren't there for transmascs like there are for transfemmes. Much harder to DIY as well.
The language barrier sucks and I wish you the best of luck with your neocities project. Stay safe out there.
I'm not surprised that all this stuff came out. Drag had a very similar pattern of behavior to past trolls.
Yep. It's been a problem for a while. I'm adore IT so I fit into the fediverse alright, but the subculture around it is exclusionary in trans spaces.
The cool thing about the fediverse tho is that you can usually carve out your own space if you post on it/promote it enough.
Been doing pretty well. College has been really good for me and I feel happy in spite of all that's going on in the world. Thriving is resistance.
Welcome! I'm also still waiting for my mustache hair to grow in too. I hope you find community and support in this space.
Yep. It's just a part of life running into people like that. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck, but as you get more experience with it you'll find your own ways of pushing back. A good comeback is "oh, so you see your mother as a sex object?" or something like that.
Hey y'all,
I'm looking for more mods on this community. I haven't been super active because of school and I want to make sure there's other people looking out for this community in addition to myself.
Requirements:
-Must have a post history either with this community or related ones on this instance
-Must be trans
-Be transmasc (optional, but preferred)
It's very frustrating that she supports Israel.
I had a good new years. Spent it with my best friend since kindergarten who also happens to be trans. We got high, ate snacks, and played video games. Fun time.
I don't have any official eating disorder that I'm aware of, but in the past I had an unhealthy relationship to food. The main reason was because more fat=more female pattern fat distribution pre-T, and that obviously makes dysphoria worse. It was hard for me to just eat food or gain a little bit of weight without feeling a sense of dread that it would make me look more feminine. I would imagine that a lot of trans people experience that pre transition.
I don't use outlook anymore but I do use Thunderbird and the UI is janky and outdated, plus it has to download and catch up on messages every time you open it.
This title is misleading, it makes it sound like he was assaulted by the sheriff because he is trans, which wasn't the case. Regardless, what a fucked up situation.
Although the measures ultimately did not become state law, many worry that these legislative attempts, coupled with anti-transgender rhetoric from certain political figures, embolden people who might already harbor anti-trans sentiments.
Just name drop MTG at this point.
I'm curious how many active transmascs there are on here and want to get to know people better. Introduce yourself in the comments below. You can include anything you want.
Questions if you can't think of any:
-Name
-Gender identity
-How long you've been transitioned/if you've transitioned
-Things that give you gender euphoria
-Where you're from
-What you're looking for in this community
-Random fun fact
A list of LGBTQ+ resources focussed on transgender individuals - cvyl/awesome-transgender
Megathread of resources in case any of y'all need them. If you don't currently, save it in case you need it in the future.
I used to have an unhealthy relationship with food. I would constantly be feeling guilty about eating anything and was terrified of gaining any weight because it would make me look more feminine.
When I gain weight now I celebrate it. That means my fat gets to redistribute which means less effort that I have to put into passing which means that I can feel more free and comfortable in my own body.
While this article does not explicitly mention trans people, this very much applies to all of us right now and is very important to understand.
What is your community like right now? Who are the people who you support and who support you?
I have never had so much trouble with TSA (american airport security) until today. My crotch got flagged by their scanners and I had to get a physical patdown (surprise, there was nothing bad). Then I forgot to empty my water bottle so I had to go through it all AGAIN and my crotch was once again flagged and I had to get a physical patdown AGAIN (surprise, nothing bad yet again).
Then my other bag gets flagged after going through the thing again despite my not adding anything to it. The TSA guy opens up my bag and I'm assuming saw my packer which I kept in there to put it back in after I went through security. He then giggles and calls multiple of his coworkers over to look at it. Luckily he didn't take it out. This whole damn time I'm right there. Ugh. Considering getting a lumpy cloth packer just to avoid this ever happening again.
I'm assuming that my crotch kept getting flagged because trans? I've never had this happen to me before.
These past couple of weeks I've felt such peace over my transition. I'm still not 100% in the place I want to be yet, but I know that those changes will come eventually.
It's done so much for my mental health to be in an environment that affirms me and to automatically be gendered correctly by most people. Being on testosterone has also done a lot for me because now I can actually bear to look at pictures of myself and think "oh yeah, that's me" and not some weird being that kinda resembles me but isn't.
I remember when I was younger and thought I was trans but was so afraid and second-guessing myself all of the time. I tried to convince myself that I'd regret it.
I don't know what the future will hold. But I'm so, so glad I transitioned. I finally feel whole.
I read something somewhere that said that we're likely to enter another stonewall era. What exactly does this mean? I'm aware of the events at the Stonewall inn but don't understand the era part of it.
I've come across bad news that my home state has passed a really shitty law regarding trans people. Are there things I can do to help change this and all of the other shitty policies and attitudes at home?
I want to preface this by saying that we have a zero tolerance policy for transphobia. Your comment will be removed and you will be banned if you spout transphobia here. Our existence is not up for debate.
That said, how do you differentiate being transgender and being trans racial?
I'm curious how to answer this question in a good faith debate with someone. Emotionally I know that they're not the same and that one is wrong and the other is not wrong, but I'm unsure as to why that is and am curious if anyone else has given any thought about it.
My insurance denied covering my testosterone for the second time (UGH) and I can't afford the packets I usually take here ($120 even with goodrx) so I'm wondering if the gel pump would be cheaper. Anybody know?
I wanted to give an update on my progress:
My voice has gotten much better. There was a period of time where it was almost hard to speak and I could barely sing and thought my voice would sound like shit forever but I am happy to report that it has leveled out. It even sounds good and has a rich tone.
Losing my voice peremantly was my biggest fear with starting T. Took the risk and I am so glad that it didn't happen.
After moving states to a much more progressive one i feel like i get clocked all of the time here, whereas back home that rarely ever happened. When i pass by male strangers they dont do the nod thing to me. its very disconcerting. I get they'd by people who don't know me. I wish I could know what it was that makes people clock me like that. It feels like I'm not man enough here. Not being stealth feels like being naked. I don't like it.
Part of me wants to talk about my experiences as a trans man because it is a unique expierence that needs to be known, but at the same time I feel like as soon as I tell people I'm trans I automatically become Man Lite™ and a bunch of assumptions are made about me. And then I'm not man enough and am not treated as any other man would be treated. I wish T would do its magic already. I'm constantly feeling dysphoric these days.
i have a decent amount of acne after starting T. I wash my face every night with a cleanser scrub thing but still get lots of blackheads and pimples. Any tips at how to minimize this?
ive been ten months on T, got plenty of new hair everywhere except my face. havent even gotten one new hair there. all the men in my family have no trouble growing facial hair. why tf am i not getting a single one
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