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Struggling to make friends in a new city as a trans person? Discover key strategies to build real-life connections and expand your support network.

Building Friendships: Transgender Guide to Thriving in a New City
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I'm procrastionating. AMA
  • It's tommrrow and i still havent done it

  • I'm procrastionating. AMA
  • That sounds fun.

    My medication just wasn't working so i felt extremely tired all day.

  • I'm procrastionating. AMA
  • We are simply delaypilled

  • I'm procrastionating. AMA
  • Maybe youll do it tommrrow

  • I'm procrastionating. AMA
  • I'm procrastinating moving/packing. Have to leave day after tomorrow.

  • You're telling me a mussel sauteed this pasta?
  • What was I thinking when I posted this. This makes zero sense.

  • Announcing development on Klondike's Hike!
  • I like the art style. Reminds me of MS paint

  • Blahaj Zone matrix space for gender diverse folk (now with corrected links)
  • Thanks ada and kaity

    Edit: commented on the wrong post. Oops.

  • Are passing photos allowed?
  • You bring up a fine point, but I'm not gonna make him do that. That's his decision to make.

  • How's your transition been going
  • Yup. There's definitely a lot more inherent trust strangers have for you when perceived as a woman.

  • NSFW
    I just got bottom surgery
  • Gotcha. Did the surgery end up costing much?

  • How's your transition been going
  • Hang in there. Hopefully therapy will make things more bearable in the meantime.

  • How's your transition been going
  • Still haven't gotten total body fat redistribution. Impatient for it to finish already. All of my pants are getting too big for me, so good sign I guess.

  • NSFW
    I just got bottom surgery
  • Why did you choose to get a metoidoplasty with no vaginectomy? How's recovery so far

  • New freckles on T

    I've been having new permanent freckles appearing on my body since starting T. Is this a thing anybody else has expierenced

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    Pictures post transition

    I've noticed that when I used to see myself in pictures I'd hyper assess every little detail of it to check for passing. Now when I see myself in pictures I don't do that anymore. Anybody else notice the same thing?

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    Know any transmascs?

    cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15223477

    > We need more transmasculine people (and people in general) on here. If you know a transmasculine person please get them to check this place out. Spread the word!

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    Know any transmascs?

    We need more transmasculine people (and people in general) on here. If you know a transmasculine person please get them to check this place out. Spread the word!

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    transguysupply.com 13 Essential STP Packer Tips

    Using An STP Can Be A Bit Of A Challenge, To Say The Least. If You're Having Trouble With Your STP Packer, Here Are Our Essential Tips To Help You Out.

    Annoyed with tgsupply for very long order wait times and being out of stock of almost everything I was gonna get but this article is helpful nonetheless.

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    My progress with T

    It's been about six and a half months that I've been on T and I have seen great progress.

    I have been on 25mg of 1% gel this entire time, but my T levels (last time they were checked, which has been a while) have shown up in normal cis male levels, so it seems that my body is processing it as it would a normal dose (50mg of 1%).

    My voice has changed some and singing got a lot harder. It's gotten better since but is still not where I would like it to be. I hear it'll get better with time. I think I will likely end up a baritone (pre-t was a tenor on the high end)

    Been getting hairier, but not much substantial growth on my face. Mainly on my stomach. Arm and leg hair has gotten thicker but since it's blond it's not very noticeable.

    Shoulders look somewhat broader. My chest has gotten substantially smaller and looks more like moobs than boobs now. Other than that body fat redistribution has been slow and is not happening as quickly as I would like.

    Self image has improved a lot. I can stand to look at myself in the mirror without immediately recoiling now. I can actually bear to look at photographs of myself now, even when I'm not binding and am in PJs. I see me in those photos, a guy, not some external otherworldly being who I don't immediately recognize. That has made me have to face some of my flaws that I previously ignored and discounted because I was so separated from my sense of self. It's painful, but the good kind that helps you to grow.

    Bottom growth has definitely happened, and my junk is definitely bigger. Acts more like a penis now with erections and the likes. Gets a prickly feeling from time to time which is uncomfortable. I'm assuming that means growth.

    Face looks more masc, acne is different. I get neck acne now and it tends to be flatter than it was before.

    Definitely have boy stank now. I smell pretty bad after less time sweating. More "sour" body odor.

    My hairline is slowly receding. It looks good for now but it will likely progress till I'm bald. Oh well.

    All and all, I feel like it takes a lot less effort to pass now. That frees up a lot of physical and emotional effort that I previously devoted to passing and I can now live more freely. I've still got a long ways to go but progress is slow and steady.

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    STP tips?

    I recently got this STP from rodeoh and I'm having trouble with leakage. Granted, I've only used it a handful of times in the shower, but I find my stream is too strong and it overflows the basin of the STP before it can exit the shaft and then it leaks out everywhere.

    What are some tips to mitigate that? (Additional general STP tips are also highly welcome)

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    New resource discovery?

    If you've found some new resources regarding being trans (any aspect of it), link to 'em down below. Sharing is caring, woo hoo.

    Personal tips/anecdotes of things you've found useful are also welcome.

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    Helpful workbook: You and Your Gender Identity

    User dandelion posted this link in a comment on MTF, and I figured y'all would be interested in this (especially to the eggs out there).

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    Some changes to this community (and asking for more mods)

    Howdy y'all,

    Linkopenschest.wav is stepping down as head mod for this community, so I have inherited this position. I need more people to help me co-mod this community since I am not the most active these days. Comment below if you would like to be a mod.

    Mod requirements:

    1. Known member of this community
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    Reaching Out For Help (crossposting to spread awareness)

    cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13998559

    > Reaching Out For Help > > After much consideration and fighting with my brain, I've decided that it's okay to ask for help in hard situations. So, I'm making this in hope that I receive at least a little bit of help. I'm asking for money, friends, and any advice you can give me. Everything counts and will help me during this rather terrible time. I'm Uni (name TBD) and I'm a 16 y/o transgirl unfortunately situated in the USA. You may know me as a regular on the Blahaj Matrix chats going by "Miss Universe". > > So a little bit (a lot?) of backstory to sort of explain my current situation. My egg cracked October last year and it was both the best and worst thing that has happened in my life so far. Being a minor means that I can't really do anything about the fact that my egg cracked, I'm fully relying on the people around me to help me (which has failed). Put simply, as a minor I have absolutely no control over my body or my life, I have no money, no experience, and nowhere to go. > > I came out to my mother and step-father (my parents are divorced) February this year, and while they seemed to be supportive at first they semi-recently turned on me and have been mostly unsupportive since then. > > As for my father and step-mother, they are both actively transphobic republicans. I have no plans on coming out to them until after I turn 18, and it would be unsafe to do so before then. > > Basically, as of now I have basically no support from anybody in my life and I'm completely trapped as my dysphoria gets worse with each passing day. > > With my situation sort of explained(?), why am I actually here? Pretty much I'm here because I need money. Money for clothes, makeup, just stuff that can hopefully help me alleviate some of my dysphoria until I'm able to afford to do so myself (which as a minor is difficult). And also I suppose gas, in case it comes to it and I need to run away, even for a short period. I'm also looking for advice, I don't really know what to do and it would be really nice to have at least some semblance of what I could be doing right now. > > I don't really know if any of that made sense, I'm bad at organizing my thoughts and even worse at asking for help. If you have any questions post them in the comments and I can probably answer them. > > You can support me here on Buy Me a Coffee if you so wish, and/or with advice in the comments. Every donation counts.

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    www.popsugar.com Trans Men Are Being Fetishized More Than Ever on the Dating Scene

    Trans men in the dating world are experiencing fetishization and objectification more than ever before.

    cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13900215

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    www.popsugar.com Trans Men Are Being Fetishized More Than Ever on the Dating Scene

    Trans men in the dating world are experiencing fetishization and objectification more than ever before.

    Trans Men Are Being Fetishized More Than Ever on the Dating Scene

    I'm curious what yalls expierence with this is

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    Favorite Binder So Far
    www.underworks.com Mens Cotton Concealer Compression Muscle Shirt

    The perfectly-fitted Cotton Compression Muscle Shirt stretches as your body moves. Strong inner layers bind your chest and flatten your belly. Shop Underworks.

    Mens Cotton Concealer Compression Muscle Shirt

    cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13660667

    > I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands). > > Pros: > > -Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death > > -Not terrible in hot weather > > -Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high. > > -Helps with hiding hip fat > > -Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks. > > > Cons: > > -If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise. > > -I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment. > > -It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster. > > -I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink. > > > I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude). > > If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while. > > If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.

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    Favorite Binder So Far
    www.underworks.com Mens Cotton Concealer Compression Muscle Shirt

    The perfectly-fitted Cotton Compression Muscle Shirt stretches as your body moves. Strong inner layers bind your chest and flatten your belly. Shop Underworks.

    I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands).

    Pros:

    -Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death

    -Not terrible in hot weather

    -Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high.

    -Helps with hiding hip fat

    -Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks.

    Cons:

    -If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise.

    -I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment.

    -It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster.

    -I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink.

    I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude).

    If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while.

    If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.

    1 month update: it still works well. Am happy with my purchase.

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    cowboycrustation cowboycrustation [he/him] @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    King of all crustations. Lord of all cowboys. Brother to all the transes.

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