SoylentSnake [he/him, comrade/them] @ SoylentSnake @hexbear.net

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I'd also been in a relationship for almost 9 years (ended a few months ago) so this is all brand new to me. The apps are a whole other kettle of fish, if you've seen me in previous megathreads you've probably seen me complaining about them lol. Though they are ofc related and I think feed into the transactional and dehumanizing aspects of hook up culture. But yeah I wish there was more space for men to feel this way about it. But hey it's just one small facet of how patriarchy & gender norms hurt us all.

Doing some soul searching and I'm having a lot of complicated feelings lately about hookup culture and casual sex, honestly I think it could make for a good full on post in menby but I like my comfy low commit megathread shitposts.

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Maybe I'm just sad and making a bigger point out of it than I need to though, idk. Idk comrades. I just d k.....

Thanks comrade. Yeah I think you're right and I'm probably just giving myself a complex out of guilt/overthinking the whole situation.

I think u might be spitting on this one thank u comrade president 🙏 I'll definitely take this into consideration

Tbh I should probably join an org but idk what the "least bad" one is in the US. The American left obviously fucking sucks (me most of all) but that's no excuse not to try to help where I can I guess...

Edit: we don't ontologically suck ofc or like suck as individual people but u know we just suck because of the material conditions of the US, nobodies fault & realized original post seemed a bit 2 negative and I am trying to have better vibes

Hobbies aren't giving me pleasure lately. Well, that's not entirely true - journaling, very slowly starting to try to creative write again, and music are OK. Movies, TV, vidya, reading all suck ass right now though and aren't at all enjoyable - it's like I'm engaging the media with numbing gel on my brain or something. I think with my recent mini-divorce I crave togetherness with others at the moment more than self-directed activities. Which then ofc circles back to how fucking atomized we are. Friends are great but they're not reliable. The workplace and bars are two of the only spaces of collective anything, and both are super obviously problematic. Parks are nice but people mostly go there to do their own thing.

Idk, comrades. This spiritual emptiness shit bites.

comrades I have a bit of a dilemma...I have a cat who is extremely, unusually needy. Like won't stop crawling all over you and nuzzling you and stuff even if you give her affection - she just always pushes for more. Since me and my partner split up I really really feel like I'm not giving this cat what she needs. I've been trying to be more social and not be in my apartment terribly often at all, and when I am home I really just want solitude (she's not the kind of cat who you can just passively give affection to, it's always gonna be an active effort that costs emotional energy so I can't really just chill with her while I'm focused on doing something else).

I've had her for 8 years and I do love her but this is the first time she's only had one person taking care of her and I don't feel up to the task. Should I like...try to find a new home for her? Like I'm still keeping her alive and healthy ofc but I really don't think she's terribly happy with me as a solo caretaker.

fuck yeah

my favorite medicine for bad feelings is finding a way to put some kindness out

My sister in Marx that's incredibly sweet & u are a real one for this

Sup motherfuckers?

One wolf is trying to be a more openly loving and vulnerable individual, the other's core mantra is "I am the Beast I Worship"

Fuckin love Burial, homie. I'll definitely check out some of the other suggestions! I've also fucked with Max Richter a bit thru his movie/tv soundtracks so I'll peep his non-media-attached work as well.

Gotta branch out with my music taste...but I am notoriously narrow/choosy. Still, I don't want to play

samesies. it's one of the reasons why we gotta build a better world, or at least try to do our part in what limited way we can as individuals. (Says the terminally online guy who does hardly any praxis at all...)

Lol yeah I only learned it recently, I just kinda instinctively knew I might enjoy rocking a more subdued goth look better suited to a 30-something for a while and that seemed the closest label for it

While I still think the apps are inherently problematic (at least in their current forms under this current system), I respect you sticking to a more authentic approach and finding value in them through that. And yeah I've tried a few different cover photos, still hardly any matches.

my eternal truth as well comrade

With spooky season approaching....is it time to start pulling the trigger on the adult/corporate goth look of my dreams??? I've never fashioned before....maybe a couple rings and a nice blazer or two wld be a good place to start?

But are also ruthlessly and systematically denied to us by late capitalism

DAE love and togetherness are basically the only things that matter???