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  • I was confused by the headline. What does RFK jr. have to do with an anime from the 90's?

  • Is self diagnosing an ok thing to do?
  • Getting a diagnosis can be extremely difficult for people. In my area you either need to pay about $5k or go through a 2+ year ordeal.

    Even with all that, diagnostic methods are murky at best. There is no binary you have it or you don't kind of thing, no physical test that can conclusively say you are autistic.

    All that to say as someone who went through the process to get diagnosed. I think self diagnosis is perfectly valid with autism.

  • Tire particles, perfumes, metals? Extensive study of Toronto air looks at what we're breathing in
  • the internet has rotted me so much that I had to read this about 5 times before figuring out you where being sarcastic. At least I really hope you're being sarcastic.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • I've had the itchy nights. Sheets cleaned with sensitive detergent helps. I paid out for pricey modal sheets which made a lot of difference. However I still get the bad nights, NyQuil has saved me from those (I don't recommend using that one too often).

  • Tire particles, perfumes, metals? Extensive study of Toronto air looks at what we're breathing in
  • I think this article is working really hard to point the blame away from cars.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • I am also envious. That's a super power I'd take over the ability to fly.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Thanks for this. Calcium was actually a big concern. In the place I grew up the water is notoriously high in it causing all sorts of health issues. I moved away shortly after my first (thankfully only) kidney stone. My blood calcium levels were very high. then I've been having my doctor test my blood calcium regularly and its been normal.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Thank you! This will help me.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Do you have a heightened sensitivity to noise and touch when trying to sleep? I noticed I get that, lot of nightmares regarding bugs and my skin will crawl all night after one. I become every hair on my body and they all terrify me somehow.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Thank you for the concern it's my friends sleeping that long not me, but they each doing things about it with their doctors.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • I have been doing that. I also had B12 issues but they assumed it was because I am vegan. It was my hemoglobin levels that concerned the doctor enough to do the study.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • This is the most academic answer I have seen so far. Any source on those stats? My doctors may listen if I can give them something.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Oh that's actually a huge help. I already use a mouthguard for grinding. Last time I got the CPAP the doctors kept insisting I ask my dentist for something to keep my mouth closed. But they would never tell me what it was, and my dentist had no idea. Perhaps it was this?

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • I wish the working world would let us all live to our sleep styles. Some days I am at work from home office staring at my bed.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Funny enough, when I first got diagnosed, I was also seeing a dietitian. They suspected my sleep issues might be caused by a food allergy that was making my intestines swell. According to a blood test, the culprit was beef. So I cut it out completely.

    Years later, I found out the test results were wrong and I’m not actually allergic to beef. But since removing it from my diet had improved my sleep so much, I just decided to keep avoiding it. Then, after a cholesterol issue, I took it a step further and went fully vegan about a year ago. Since then, falling asleep has become even easier.

    That said, while I don’t struggle as much with falling asleep anymore, my sleep quality is still apparently pretty poor.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Thank you for sharing.

    Physical activity like sports would definitely help I think. Me and my friends are all the same in our struggles to do the bare minimum of exercise. We're all in the loop of being too tired to do anything because we are too tired to do anything. I'm hoping the CPAP can help break that cycle. Though I have started seeing someone who is into long walks. So I am improving there, slowly.

    I had to give up coffee awhile back since the addiction was a little too much for me. I still enjoy a cup on special occasions when I won't need to sleep well that night. I've noticed it's effects are stronger the older I get.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • I wish you the best with getting your diagnosis. I absolutely dreaded the sleep studies. They were always scheduled on work nights, and I’d get almost no sleep. Then they'd kick me out at 6 a.m., and I’d end up stumbling back to my office since it was closer than going home.

    Thankfully, my next one is on a weekend, so at least I can go straight home afterward.

    When I get those strong, sudden urges to sleep and can’t actually fall asleep, I feel awful. Even worse, I can get irritable with the people around me. So, at least in my experience, the sleep issues came first. And the more I’ve done to address them, the better I’ve felt overall.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Good to know. My friends mention the same things though I don't have that problem as often these days but I wonder if this is the common thing that nerodivergent people face and the cause of sleep issues.

    Fyi routine and meditation helped with me, the Finch app is great for keeping me on track.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • Interesting, I know that can have an effect on migraines as well. I should ask my doctors about that.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?
  • My friends have their reasons, but most of them are either unemployed or working part-time. I was in a similar situation when I was younger.

    Now that I’m working full-time in a 9-to-5 kind of job, I’ve realized I just can’t do what I used to. I try to resist taking naps, but sometimes the urge to sleep comes on so suddenly and strongly that fighting it actually gives me migraines and causes mental distress. I think that’s the narcolepsy at play.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?

    I'm not great with details, but I remember reading that many of us in the neurodiverse community struggle with sleep or energy levels.

    Back in my early 20s, I went through the whole sleep clinic process. I was diagnosed with sleep apnea and mild narcolepsy. They prescribed me a full-face CPAP mask because my mouth doesn't stay closed at night. That didn’t last long I dumped it after 2 months. I’m not a still sleeper — more like a rotisserie chicken — and the full mask just made me choke on my own drool. The doctors were frustrated and not very helpful. It felt like they expected me to control my body even while unconscious.

    Now, over 10 years later, I’m going through the process again. Apparently, my body still isn’t getting enough oxygen during sleep, and it’s causing problems.

    Still, I can’t help but wonder if the doctors are missing something — like autism as a potential root cause of sleep issues. In my neurodiverse friend group (both autistic and ADHD), I’m the only one not sleeping 12 or more hours a day. So now I’m left wondering what’s really going on — with me, and with them.

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    A mounted under the desk pump that vents the hot air from PC outside.

    A PC is pretty much a space heater these days. Which is not great when it gets all hot and humid outside.

    Many suggest just getting a small AC but why not remove the heat from it's source and put it outside?

    I imagine the vent being much smaller than the big AC tube pictured.

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    I got a bunny

    !A plush bunny representing Autism

    !The tag shows that the bunny has 4 things symbolizing Autism, many infinity spectrum symbols, eyes that look up as he avoids looking at you, it covers it mouth unable to verbalize, or stimming, it also just has soft yellow fur

    A birthday gift to myself I'll be 38. This is a plush from Plushie Dreadfuls I'm still learning about myself and working on self compassion. My autism is something I like about myself it's part of who I am. I figured this will help me visualize that part of myself and show it love.

    Also this thing is ridiculously soft and very good quality.

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    Mended my pants

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    It ain't pretty but it'll hold.

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    Canadian equivalent of a grip master?

    I have a grip strengthening thing. It's a fidget tool and is helping with some blood flow issues to my hands.

    I was going to get a stronger model as the medium one is a little too easy. Is there a Canadian version of this thing?

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    Batteries?

    I got myself a new Canadian made blood pressure monitor from bios. But I need some AAA batteries for it. Any suggestions?

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    Looking for info on strange "banana" plushies

    These strange banana plushies showed up at our local salvation army store. They have no tags or any clues as to what they are. But the store sold out.

    My roommate bought a few but he wants more. We think they are cute and you can tie them together in fun ways.

    Does any have any idea of these are or where to get more?

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    Bun in the storm

    We had a pretty good snowstorm. I noticed this guy out still looking for a late night snack.

    !Bun

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    Is it worth asking my local MP for an outdoor cat ban? (Toronto Canada)

    I know this might be a controversial opinion, but I think it’s something that needs to be addressed in my area. It seems like people around here don't really care for their cats, and I wonder if some of the ones I see regularly might be part of a feral colony. I’ve seen over 10 different cats on my small property (not all at once), and recently, when the temperature dropped below -20°C (-4°F), I still saw them hiding under cars. One of the cats appeared to be only a few months old, which is heartbreaking. Another cat is missing its tail, and one has a missing ear. The area also has a lot of skunks and raccoons, which can be dangerous, so I’m concerned for their safety. If these cats have homes, they should definitely be in them. But I’m also worried that the city’s solution might be to just put them all down. What are your thoughts?

    Update: I've done some research and found local groups monitor the feral cat population in the area. I am near a shelter (I didn't know that) so it's possible these are shelter cats. I'm just going to work with that shelter to see if thats the case. I have security cam footage of a few of them but not posting pictures for privacy reasons.

    Also I'd love to bring them in but I only rent a room here. The owners should prefer I didn't do that so I need to honor that. However if the local shelter thinks it's ok I may set a heated cathouse in the back yard.

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    Crazy Ideas @lemmy.world Seigest @lemmy.ca
    Game idea

    Middle of night woke up just to write this somewhere. Sorry is words are bad.

    Game that's 2 player.

    Player one is in a 3rd person fully emersive 3D city. This is a PC game. Player one is always host. The objective is just to make it to the other end of the city. No guns or anything. The city is being destroyed by a mysterious force. Plans are crashing building being leveled you just need to make it to safety without being crushed. It's night, theres fire and screaming, explosions all around scary stuff.

    Player 2 is playing on a tablet or touch screen device. They are playing a cute game where all you need to do is tap the dot. The dot moves slowly from one end of the screen to the other hiding under colorful pipes and squares. You can also tap butterflies and things the dot might hide under to remove them. There is a lot of positive happy noises.

    The dot is player one. The real catch. Player 2 is a cat.

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    Got my bribe check from Doug today. I took the advice of some users here and put it to better use.

    I know not everyone has the luxury of dealing with it in this way. If you don't then I hope you can make your vote count. And if you can do this then maybe consider it.

    You get a good chunk of it back anyway.

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    Violation of privacy theme in dreams

    Last night, I had a dream where I was in my childhood bedroom. A woman barged in and started rummaging through my things, looking for moisturizer for her hands. I angrily told her to leave, feeling my privacy had been violated. Then my brothers came in, doing the same thing, hoping to help the woman. I managed to get them to leave, but I had to barricade my door to keep others out. They sent in odd celebrities—characters from movies and shows I’ve never seen—to try to convince me to open the door. I didn’t recognize them at all.

    I noticed the moisturizer on a dresser. It was the same one I keep in my bathroom for my eczema, and I had been wondering if it was still good before bed. Its meaning in the dream wasn't anything salacious, just a simple product. As my siblings and the celebrities started tearing down my door, I agreed to give them the bottle if they would leave me alone. But as they broke through the door, I walked out with the bottle, and they pushed past me to loot my room. They casually took things and left. I was left standing in the doorway, holding nothing but the moisturizer they never really wanted. They just wanted to violate my privacy.

    The recurring theme in these dreams is people trying to invade my personal space. It's not much of a mystery though. As an adult, this isn’t really an issue for me, especially since I have an open-door policy with my roommates, whom I trust. So it's odd I still have these. But growing up, especially in my early teens, my siblings were always doing this. They’d invade my room, usually just to be jerks. My sister was the worst. She would invite her friends over, and sometimes they’d break into my room while I was sleeping or changing, just to upset me.

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    I've realized I'm afraid of this now.

    I've always said I'm not afraid of dying alone. It's because I always imagine dying is the thing at the end. A future event. But we're all dying all the time. And being alone at the time of my death isn't the thing to fear it's being alone up to that time. It's being alone now. That's what dying alone is. And this realization makes me afraid.

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    Whould everyone doing nothing be a viable option?

    This is a Canadian asking about the US. Though given that crappy state of things here we could consider it as well.

    If the next president isn't picked as a result of the popular vote but as a result of the system being terrible then a majority of the people of the country will have been wronged.

    Instead of doing civil war about it, what if there was a mass movement to just do nothing. Everyone just grabs a chair and sits on their lawn or in a park all day and just chills out instead of working, attending events, or really participating in the economy in any significant way. Take a sick day or somthing if it helps. But anybody can do nothing.

    In only a few days, maybe less, the economy whould take a massive hit. Just everyone sits around untill a fair election is called without any electoral college or first past the post nonsense.

    Obviously there's huge challenges to this. Like finding an end condition everyone can agree on. Also getting a representative to ensure the demands had been met. the huge wave of firing, threats, and violence from the other side whould probably have some effect. But the other side is a minority, and could be overwhelmed.

    So if big enough, could it work?

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    Help me find @lemmy.ml Seigest @lemmy.ca
    Help me find the name of the site I got this image from

    Back in the early days of the internet I found this site with cool desktop backgrounds. I had one for a few years, and while digging though old files I found the it. So we are talking like to late 90s or early 2000s. I think the site was like "dark ___" or somthing edgy like that

    I was curious if the old site was still around, or at least the artist, but Google reverse search didn't come up with anything.

    It says primal on the bottom right, I didn't see much from the binary.

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    Advice needed: dmarc setup and mail.ru

    I'm not in the security field so sorry if I seem like a newbie. Not sure where else to ask.

    I setup my own email domain thing with the help of some kind Lemmy folk. I'm on Namecheap, it was a little tricky for me to set up but it seems to have been working out great.

    But yesterday, and again today I got this notice from DMARC that Mail . ru is doing stuff with my account.

    advice I was able to google suggest I needed to change a setting from "none" to "reject".

    can anyone tell me if I've done this right? also has any damage been done by me not having this set sooner?

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    Ceiling lights, LED bulbs or fixtures?

    Renting a room in an old house. The landlady is one of the rare good ones and cooks for me somtimes so I'm trying to be handy where I can.

    This light in my office died, and a few others in the house are in dire need of replacing. Rusted and covered in decades of caked on dust, probably hazardous.

    I keep seeing units like this. https://a.co/d/iU3hAd3

    But I'm wondering if I should get a few of those or get another bulb style ceiling lamps and just use LED bulbs?

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    Have Your Say on Toronto’s Renovictions Bylaw
    www.toronto.ca Rental Renovation Licence By-law

    On November 14, 2024 Toronto City Council adopted a Rental Renovation Licence By-law to curb bad faith evictions and protect tenants from the practice of renovictions. The Bylaw will come into effect on July 31, 2025. Renovictions, where tenants are evicted under the false pretense of necessary reno...

    Rental Renovation Licence By-law

    If you've ever had a landlord try this rennoviction nonsense on you then you may want to express some opinions in the survey. Or better yet, if you can, attend the virtual meeting.

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    A stress dream

    I won't say this scenerio is recurring but elements of it are. Also sorry for typos I'm hardly awake and using my phone.

    I was in a classroom, whatever was going on had just wrapped up and everyone in the classroom was heading out. It seemed be somthing less formal then a class session, and it has run very late. It's around midnight. I have work the next day so this is a problem.

    Leaving the school is odd, the structure is like a huge maze with lots of stairways in odd places. I've dreamed of this school a few times. I managed to eventually get out and I can see a bus stop. However. I've forgotten my wallet back in the classroom somehow. So I go all the way back and see it on a table open and full of cash. Another guy is also looking at it. It's a tense situation. I explain it's my wallet and he just hands it to me cash and all. Again I am outside I see a bus comming towards the stop and move to it. However I can feel the cold night ashfault under my feet. It seems I've also forgotten my shoes back in the classroom.

    I wake up at this point stressed out if my mind at my own stupidity at 5am. The recurrence is that I need to go somewhere but I keep forgetting stuff and end up increasing late.

    I am definitely the sort of person who leaves their home 2 or 4 times because I've left my wallets, glasses, ext. But I always plan accordingly as I know better. I also found it weird my wallet was full of money and this didn't cause a positive reaction. I never carry cash and have financial issues

    This one also had a small social conflict as a result of my negligence. In this case the guy giving me my wallet and me worried they wouldn't. This situations are common in other stress dreams I've had. Given those other dreams I'm shocked that this didn't go worse.

    Anyone else get these stress dreams? Any tips for dealing with them.

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    The garden

    nearly 16 are now "infected" I've been studying this thing for like 2 years, my scientist mentioned they could "solve" it some time ago. But now even they have been adding to the garden. I'm wondering if my curiosity has doomed them all.

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