Yes there is an issue with the Mlym container (old.lemmy.world), we have now stopped it because it also slowed the other alternative UI's. We'll troubleshoot this.
It would have been better if they communicated to us first.
I don't disagree that user signups should be spread over instances. We now have a link to https://lemmyverse.net on our signup page so people can check if another instance would fit them better.
I have setup bskysocial.world to test that (there's no web interface, just select this domain when logging in or signing up via the app or https://bsky.app)
Note: This is for testing only, I can't promise it will remain running.
I think the owner of this (and other decades music) is no longer active. I'll find some other mods for it if he doesn't respond to my message, and I'm sure we can update the title ;-)
It's a feature of the app, where it doesn't load all messages at once. Whenever you've read all it has loaded, you'll see this message, and when clicking it it will load more posts.
I do host some stuff myself 😉 but there's one thing to keep in mind.
Don't self host stuff that your family still needs after you're gone. Unless they are self host nerds like you. I stopped self hosting our mail and docs for example.
I did register writefreely.world planning to host that one day, but I need some more selfhosting nerds to help out running all these instances :-) The foundation is now already running a few dozen Fedi instances :-D
This is for the Lemmy.World server (just the physical box, not the related VMs). Around 12TB last month.