PoPoP @ PoPoP @lemm.ee

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my entire point is that generalizations are harmful lmao

I don't really think things are actually the way you suppose they are. I think that's a cultural model that's been built up by media. It may have been true at one point but from what I can tell based on my experiences in real life, it seems to be more the inverse nowadays. All my male friends seem to be much more choosy with who they sleep with (preferring a real connection) while my female friends seem to be a lot more outgoing and likely to have sex without a connection. I'm talking about a sample size of about 20 people I've hung out with in the past year, but I'm also considering people I knew when I was highschool / college age.

I think you're not really getting what I'm saying. See my other comment:

It’s not about that. It’s their choice of insult. Saying “people who voted for Trump are retarded” doesn’t make it not ableist just because you specified it’s about Trump voters. Catch my drift?

Equating moral corruption to sexual undesirability is just stupid. It implies the inverse too, that sexually undesirable people are morally corrupt, which is actually a pretty huge problem in society. It also implies that men need validation from women which is just false.

It's not about that. It's their choice of insult. Saying "people who voted for Trump are retarded" doesn't make it not ableist just because you specified it's about Trump voters. Catch my drift?

idk I really don't think it takes that much thought, we don't need to be so sensitive to the nuance when it's so easy to just not use language maliciously

yeah but this post isn't about incels. posts like these shoot strays at all men

Use woman when you need a noun, use female when you need an adjective. It's that easy

I think it's as weird and antisocial as the next guy to call women "females" but I also think it's weird that it's treated like not receiving approval from women is the worst possible thing that can happen to a man when implying that women need male approval is obviously sexist

A couple years ago I was playing around with an RTL-SDR and I had it scanning a wide range for any voices. I found a police frequency and they were having a standoff in the park. A mother had a knife and her child with her, I assume it was some sort of hostage situation. They apprehended her, and when they transmitted her ID info, they scrambled the transmission. So I was able to learn about the situation but not who specifically was involved, and I agree with this approach honestly. It never made the news btw.

I'm not sure how it works exactly but I assume they have two transmit buttons on their handsets, regular voice and encrypted voice.

i quit for a year and a half, then i made the conscious choice to get back on it because life is so utterly shit i might as well enjoy my vices

i'm with you on the no flavor thing, I make my own vape juice and I use a box mod, shit's completely inoffensive and nearly free

I was just poking fun, I agree with you that they are dangerous lol

people really just say shit with confidence like it's a fact and don't even google it first

If you want, send me a pic (privately) and I'll tell you if it's really over or what you can do to look better. As for friends, that's more complicated, but I got all my friends by talking to strangers in public.

Most men can drastically improve their appearance with some effort. Best plan for this is to ask your closest female friends what you can do. Also, having an attractive personality counts for a lot (potentially more than looks depending on the woman) assuming you aren't fuck ugly.

If you don't have time for friends you definitely don't have time for dating.

meeting women is really easy if you're friends with women. they always have single friends who they'd be happy to introduce you to. obviously don't be friends with women just for this purpose though

I agree that physical intimacy can make people become closer, but I'm not always sure that's for the best. I think it's better kept as something to enjoy after a deeper bond has already formed. Anyway, I'm not asexual but I am somewhere on that spectrum, not sure where though. Also yeah... when my friends tell me about their tinder dates I can't believe how transactional and almost algorithmic their date sounds. It's such a shame that it's the norm now.

I have sufficient companionship. Plenty of true friends who know and love the real me. I've been more fortunate in this than most people could hope to be if I'm being honest. I really think that when you take sex out of the equation, most of modern dating is a feeble attempt to foster this type of relationship. People are afraid to reveal their true self and so they seek one person they feel safe enough to do so with, when you can actually have this relationship with everyone you're close to if you're brave enough.

I love being friends with women but I don't love being romantically or sexually entwined with them. And I'm not attracted to men. So why pursue it? I socialize when I have the energy for it. In the rest of my free time, I want to write code.

That's the goal, man. I would be happy to never have sex again. I always felt like it was more for her benefit than mine anyway.