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  • FGM on a vagina is unquestionably abhorrent. There's literally no reason to do it under any circumstances and it causes serious harm even if done "correctly".

    As someone who's only benefited from it being done on my penis, I can safely say that it shouldn't be done on the vast majority of penises either, but I can't in good conscience advocate against it for other Jews, nor for it, since I see the upsides and downsides of it. That's been my point the whole time.

    The fact that the person might grow up to present as trans tips the scale to increasing the number of people who shouldn't get it, especially Jews, but it's so much worse when people need it later in life for both medical and religious reasons that I can't justify saying that it shouldn't be done on any babies for whom it's not immediately medically necessary at birth. However, I also won't disagree with your opinion on the matter since you were harmed by it more than you were hurt and your perspective is valuable.

    All of this to say that it's dangerous to prescribe what's best for others without the full context of the individual need of both the person in question and their family, community, and culture. Just because it's not what I'd do for my kids if I had them doesn't mean I can disparage the people who do. And I struggled with the decision not to do it if I had kids because even though I want them to have the same appreciation for and control to their Jewish culture and heritage as I do, it's more important to me that they're not at risk for health problems and can maximize their sexual health. I just have to teach them how to clean their foreskin even though I don't have any.

  • You do realize I'm not actually advocating for the practice, right? I can't in good conscience tell anyone to circumcise, even Jews. I just know what it means to me to be circumcised. I'm sorry about the experience you had, and it further emphasizes the point I make in my OP.

  • Exactly. There are all sorts of condom sizes that can fit all sizes of penises, so saying that you're "too big for condoms" like a lot of people say when they don't want to wear them makes no sense. If you're too big for all the condom choices you have, you'll likely have trouble fitting into most vaginas anyway, and anuses will need the same amount of preparation as for the biggest Bad Dragons you can find.

  • That's a good one, but I've also heard that as the female equivalent of "cock block". Although that gives me the idea of "oyster sauce". And when a penis is fucking a vagina with that condition, you're making beef with oyster sauce!

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