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I feel totally stuck in life and like there isn't anything for me in the future
  • I don't believe in the one true love bs. I thought that about my first real boyfriend. Then I got over that eventually.

    The point is this person was objectively better than most. That's different. It's not even about love.

    Anyway I've never liked this line of thinking, it's very just world fallacy-esque. "Its your fault if things don't work out because you brought this upon yourself and deserve it" no thanks

  • I feel totally stuck in life and like there isn't anything for me in the future
  • You're right, but where I live the people are very closed minded and most of the expats are married and older with kids and family or are digital nomads who plan to leave soon/live in their coliving spaces and only interact with other nomads 💀

  • Stuck in Bulgaria- wondering where to go?

    To put a lot story short I'm stuck in Bulgaria for the foreseeable future for a multitude of (interesting) reasons.

    To be 100% honest with you I greatly dislike it here, and want to go somewhere affordable-ish for about a week for vacation (probably in Europe).

    Things I dislike here that I would like to avoid in the vacation destination:

    1. Insanely bad air pollution & cigarette smoking everywhere 24/7

    2. Lack of affordable/accessible good food

    (Any ethnic cuisine I have tried tasted maybe at most 50% like how it should, even in very expensive restaurants. Supermarkets have extremely poor frozen food variety and the taste isn't good either. The food variety in general I find to be very poor. I just want a change because I think I am dying from nutrient and soul food deficiency)

    1. Extremely poor shopping experience

    2. Poor and inaccessible hiking

    3. Grumpiness of people/toxic behaviour

    Honestly most of these factors would possibly be solved by going literally anywhere else with poor variety just for a change of pace.

    Places I have been considering:

    Poland (because they have good services) Portugal (affordable and good food?) Spain (high quality of living, outgoing people?) Albania (amazing nature) Czechia (more developed, so more variety) Estonia (kind of curious about a more affordable version of Scandinavia?)

    I do like beaches but am hoping to go somewhere before summer hits full force because I don't tolerate extreme heat well. Sorry for the super long post, could really use some input

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  • I think you should take it easy on that.. word will eventually get around and it's not good for your career to be doing that imo. Especially if you have any more misunderstandings with people.

    Even though you don't think you did anything wrong you are still ashamed of people finding out, so I think the only solution to that is to stop having e-sex with people in that way

  • I feel totally stuck in life and like there isn't anything for me in the future

    I'm in my late 20s now and I feel so much despair.

    I think a huge factor that shaped my world is my breakup almost 3 years ago. I had dated several people, actually more than several, before then.

    I feel like people think I am delusional when I say this, but he was genuinely the nicest person I've ever met in my life. I don't understand how it's possible for someone to have actually cared about me to the extent he did. At times I felt like he actually cared about me more than my own mom did. It wasn't just that, he was intelligent and hilarious too and we had a lot in common.

    Unfortunately I wasn't good enough for him and he didn't want to continue the relationship. This basically fundamentally broke me.

    I had my share of heartbreaks before, but even when I met him, I was basically at my breaking point with love. I remember telling myself this was my last try (because I was so done). To this day I literally have no idea how I could have so much in common with someone. It's like we completely agreed on almost every aspect in life. Did he just lie to me or agree with everything I said or something?

    Apparently he has also had random acquaintances tell him he's a breath of fresh air and so nice to be around compared to most people, so it's not just me.

    I really don't know what to do other than cry about losing him. I've tried so hard to find happiness for myself but how could I let something like that go?

    My life hasn't gotten any better since then and I honestly think I am hopeless. Genuinely.

    Literally everyone pales in comparison to what I had with him. Even though what I had clearly wasn't real, because ultimately he clearly didn't feel the same about me since he chose to leave. It felt real to me, talking to him is the most enjoyable thing I had experienced in my life.

    This all sounds extremely sad and pathetic but really what am I supposed to do? I bet most people haven't even come close to meeting someone like him so they can't relate to this at all. I am going to sound insane again but I think he is some prodigy or something. Like one of those one in a million once in a lifetime people that most won't even get the chance to meet.

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  • Can you explain what exactly people should improve on? I had a relationship with someone I really liked not work out and as much as I reflect back on it I don't really know what I should have done differently.

  • I don't understand "Your partner is not your Therapist"
  • Idk. My partners have pretty much never needed to vent or share anything with me. If they have it was very minor. That's what made me feel like I should get a therapist instead. It would be mostly just me venting.

    I found that my partner who was empathic felt very bad any time I told him how I was feeling, so this weighed much more heavily on him than my partner who lacked empathy. He was just annoyed and didn't care about my stuff and wanted me to not talk.

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