I just hope that Lemmy.world performance improves over time as sometimes the performance is a bit jarring and something I'd find hard to recommend to less tech-minded friends swapping from Reddit
But the truth is the problem isn't Sonarr or Radarr it's just that Torrents can be kind of garbage with automation, I would suggest you look into Usenet. It costs a bit of money to spend but a much more consistent experience.