Lemmings, are you bothered by other people talking about you?
I'm not bothered by it at all, and I'm not at all curious about what they're saying about me. I suppose I just trust that if someone has something to say to me, they will. But I'm coming to realize that is somewhat unusual so I am curious about what you experience if you learn about people talking about you?
Not anymore, I grew out of it. I'm in my mid-40s now, and after decades of being the weird, nerdy guy who had people wondering whether he might be gay because he doesn't have a girlfriend (spoiler: yes, he is) I've given up caring.
People I'm close to will talk to me instead of talking about me, and everyone else can talk whatever they want. I don't need to know what they're saying about me because I don't need the whole world to like me.
Personally, I also don't participate in gossiping about others at all, and I find it disgusting how many people think they have a right to judge others.
I think the majority of people are offended and/or curious about what's being said about them if they learn of it.
I'm kind of with you on this one. There's a saying I got from an ex that I keep with me and pass on as much as I can because it really opened up my eyes to not caring about that kinda stuff.
What other people think about me is none of my business.
No, definitely not bothered. But it wasn't always this way. I was very self-conscious from my teenage years up to the first few years when I started working full-time.
It was only when I started working that I had to learn to deal with it. I was always taking feedback and criticisms very personally and as an introvert, felt extremely down plenty of times.
I taught myself to see things from the perspective and scale of the world - 7 billion people out there, what does it matter that a few people think of what I do, or what I am?
Of course, cutting out social media definitely helped a lot too. I still have my accounts, but have stopped using them actively, at least the ones that expose my personal life.
With social media out of the picture, I was comparing myself to my peers a lot less and spent much more time on productive things instead - learning a new language, skills, picking up new hobbies and all.
It's not easy, but it is liberating once you figure it out.
Not really, to be honest, because it would stress me out to go through all the possible scenarios what people could say about me. And the scenarios in my mind would probably be worse than the reality, so no need to bother myself with it.
If it's a bunch of bullshit lies, then yeah it would bother me. Unless they're nice lies. Like "mmm... Kolanaki is so handsome." I know it's not true but it wouldn't bother me.
There was a time when I cared so much what others might think and say about me and I used to do things to please people. But I grew out of it. Now I don't care at all. If they are talking behind my back then they are not worthy of my time at all. Those who care about me will talk to me, also I am who I am and I'm fine with it.