{"comments":[{"comment":{"id":17803054,"creator_id":18336193,"post_id":34247448,"content":"Passing culture might not be the best, but take your gender euphoria where you get it. It's not worth second guessing your elation 😊 Not only did you pass, but they thought you were hot! ","removed":false,"published":"2025-11-10T19:03:54.170201Z","deleted":false,"ap_id":"https://lemmy.zip/comment/22674829","local":false,"path":"0.17803054","distinguished":false,"language_id":37},"creator":{"id":18336193,"name":"HuntressHimbo","avatar":"https://lemmy.zip/pictrs/image/76e3c51d-0d32-4f49-bad7-b0cc4a2e458f.webp","banned":false,"published":"2025-06-04T04:36:24.711196Z","actor_id":"https://lemmy.zip/u/HuntressHimbo","local":false,"deleted":false,"bot_account":false,"instance_id":99323},"post":{"id":34247448,"name":"First pass rule","url":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/84c30f63-da7a-467b-ac98-eca731f31997.webp","body":"I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. 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As in I don't believe I have any gender but I prefer to present as feminine and use feminine pronoun.","local":true,"banner":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/11af5285-25ab-49db-bdc8-5e1d980893f7.webp","deleted":false,"bot_account":false,"instance_id":171},"post":{"id":34247448,"name":"First pass rule","url":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/84c30f63-da7a-467b-ac98-eca731f31997.webp","body":"I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. Got a match on Taimi and after an initial compliment (apparently I have a nice smile 🥹) I got a \"you aren't a woman?!?\" \"I am a woman, but I'm trans\". . I'm not a fan of the passing culture, but it still felt damn good. 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I assumed that it was blindingly obvious and I did indicate I'm trans, both in the text and as my gender. Seems the freeloaders don't see any text or even info before a match so some visual aid is probably warranted, like a trans pride flag or something. ","removed":false,"published":"2025-11-10T22:06:57.027659Z","deleted":false,"ap_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/17805288","local":true,"path":"0.17805017.17805288","distinguished":false,"language_id":37},"creator":{"id":8573357,"name":"katja","banned":false,"published":"2024-04-03T15:13:51.796161Z","actor_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/u/katja","local":true,"deleted":false,"bot_account":false,"instance_id":171},"post":{"id":34247448,"name":"First pass rule","url":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/84c30f63-da7a-467b-ac98-eca731f31997.webp","body":"I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. Got a match on Taimi and after an initial compliment (apparently I have a nice smile 🥹) I got a \"you aren't a woman?!?\" \"I am a woman, but I'm trans\". . I'm not a fan of the passing culture, but it still felt damn good. ","creator_id":8573357,"community_id":698817,"removed":false,"locked":false,"published":"2025-11-10T18:17:03.485925Z","deleted":false,"nsfw":false,"ap_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/34247448","local":true,"language_id":37,"featured_community":false,"featured_local":false,"alt_text":""},"community":{"id":698817,"name":"onehundredninetysix","title":"196","description":"**Community Rules**\n\nYou must post before you leave\n\nBe nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).\n\nBlock or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.\n\nUse content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. 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I have been on Taimi for a year as an unpaid member and I could see things like gender, location, actual profiile info and such and as of last week all that info is now hidden...\n\nBut I am not even entirely sure that it only applies to unpaid members because I had a gold membership for a week and that info stopped showing up about three days before the gold membership ended and two days before I cancelled the membership.\n\nI want to like Taimi more but god damn they are pricey just to see basic ass info about each other.\n\nAnd for what it's worth, yes, you absolutely *are* a woman, and would be even if you didn't \"pass.\" I am glad however that it helped boost your self confidence.\n\nFinally... If you're *entirely* straight and on Taimi what the fuck are you even doin (not you-you, but the guy who had the audacity to say something as stupid as \"you're not a woman\")? I'm only \"straight\" in the sense that I am attracted to women and transwomen are women so you get the idea.","removed":false,"published":"2025-11-10T22:31:43.803569Z","updated":"2025-11-10T23:29:48.429854Z","deleted":false,"ap_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/17805578","local":true,"path":"0.17805017.17805288.17805578","distinguished":false,"language_id":37},"creator":{"id":4436074,"name":"SnotFlickerman","display_name":"Snot Flickerman","avatar":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/d445e9b9-151f-48b5-b920-9f6fb5412b16.png","banned":false,"published":"2023-10-24T18:54:27.893761Z","actor_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/u/SnotFlickerman","bio":"Our News Team @ 11 with host Snot Flickerman\n\n---\n\nYes, I can hear you, Clem Fandango!","local":true,"deleted":false,"bot_account":false,"instance_id":171},"post":{"id":34247448,"name":"First pass rule","url":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/84c30f63-da7a-467b-ac98-eca731f31997.webp","body":"I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. Got a match on Taimi and after an initial compliment (apparently I have a nice smile 🥹) I got a \"you aren't a woman?!?\" \"I am a woman, but I'm trans\". . I'm not a fan of the passing culture, but it still felt damn good. ","creator_id":8573357,"community_id":698817,"removed":false,"locked":false,"published":"2025-11-10T18:17:03.485925Z","deleted":false,"nsfw":false,"ap_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/34247448","local":true,"language_id":37,"featured_community":false,"featured_local":false,"alt_text":""},"community":{"id":698817,"name":"onehundredninetysix","title":"196","description":"**Community Rules**\n\nYou must post before you leave\n\nBe nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).\n\nBlock or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.\n\nUse content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. 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