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my nightmare is somebody knowing all my unsent comments

Yea, IDK about OP, but the "well thought out" comments are not the ones I abandon.
- I suppose that's good. I just now that I personally will put too much thought into something I shouldn't even be doing.
- I abandon ones I fear an emotional person will reply to, and usually I put more effort into thoroughly making such comments bulletproof to begin with, so I’m with OP.
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- You know that's not bad. like an "intrusive thought" gimmick bot.
  Wait you meant under someone else's account name right?
I'm pretty sure most social media sites save those, what you decided not to say is valuable data after all, and trivial to collect and store. Probably not most Lemmy instances though since the code is open source and I assume someone would have complained by now.
- that would be wild. that doesn't sound valuable enough to bother with, even for feeding a shitty LLM.
  this is probably bad evidence but every ui I've interacted with is trying to preserve data and only send info once it seems certain you're posting. even reddit doesn't count your comments as edited until you make changes several minutes after commenting. since so many of these services seem to store actions in a buffer before sending, I don't think that's worth the data cost of live recording your drafts.
  your keyboard app on mobile however.... yeah that shit is an info harvest on the scale I think few things are
Oh I would love to see all the scandalous unsent comments...
- it's not that entertaining. usually either straight up thirst or just annoying argumentative reddit shit that I'm trying not to be. Fediverse is a beautiful place when we're using our better judgment. it's full of people who I feel like disappeared from reddit right before the bad times started and I'm getting back in touch with the part of me that wanted to be like that too

Brought to you by: double checking the community before posting.

My thing is that during my 15-minutes of toilet time each morning, when my brain is coming to and my mind starts perking up, I either get deeply sentimental for some reason and start commenting some of the most heartfelt and poetic shit, or I think I'm a well-established comedian and start dropping some weird/gross jokes that strangers could easily wind up taking seriously and think I'm a fiend.

The sentimental stuff always goes over well, but the jokes are either overlooked entirely, or they hit and my ego thinks I just performed at Madison Square Garden.

The most powerful force in the world is the one that makes you delete a draft comment hours into writing it because you know with certainly your comment will contain at least one mistake and you'll receive replies from the many people much smarter than you eagerly, dutifully correcting you and never recover from the embarrassment of your comment being revealed as an archetypal instance of the Dunning–Kruger effect and you an imposter.

This way you can be right in your own mind, and no one will question that your sources are The Daily Mail and Stormfront.

Same, idk why I do that, it just feels that it's not worth it. Makes no sense.

it just feels that it’s not worth it
people aren't convinced by facts anyways, people believe what they want to believe (/s)
no but seriously though, type out your thoughts but please also remember that most people literally have very stressful lives and have absolutely no energy to be "educated" (told that they've been wrong until now) in their free time. always stay respectful, even when you're clearly right and simply presenting facts. teaching is more emotional labor (having patience and empathy) than it is about the actual subject, IMO.

Post then delete. Or, alternatively, post, then refuse to look at the replies for like 3 weeks because you're not sure if they were trash or not

Bro I hate when you have a comment halfway typed up, switch to a different app or go back to what you're doing, hit "close all apps" on your phone, then lose everything 😭😭😭😭

I always copy it into the clipboard like every few sentences.

My policy is I will respond exactly once if they keep going you're just looking for a fight

If it's that kind of discussion, probably best to leave it without comment at all.
- Even if they're having the last word then?

This infuriates me when I accidentally do it. I maintain a Lemmy client that will save your work as long as you don't hit reload. I'm working on an update that will recover the comment if the network request to submit the comment fails. Sometimes I'm on the fence about posting a comment, but even if I hit cancel my work is still saved.

All the time. Mostly, it's to help me clarify my own thoughts on the matter, but I can't be arsed to write things out in a way that makes sense to others.

can't be arsed to write things out in a way that makes sense to others
Lmaoooo so true. I be like 6 paragraphs deep frantically moving stuff around before giving up

It's a reddit habit. I feel it too.

I wish I had the strength to do this

I'm finding it easier as time goes on. Like I just don't have time for this shit any more.

My problem is that people are still fucking wrong and don't care

Don't bother. My advice is to examine the vibe of the Lemmy Community you are in, and try to fit in.

Be sycopantic, speak only within the bounds of what a typical member asks, do NOT stick out in any way.

As a former /r Collapse member said, you don't know how evil people really are, follow the gray man principle when interacting with society.

The entire point of social media is the social aspect. Keep to linkedin, reddit and similar trash heaps if all you want is to be a part of a hivemind.
- Dude, you will just get banned if you say anything really controversial. I take and am grateful for what I get.
  It's the same rules at work and in public. People are quite self-righteous, and their minds can seldom be changed.
  You want to minimize the risk to yourself, while still having access to the resources and community when you need them the most.
  Pay attention to the format others use. You can ask unique questions, so long as you are polite and professional. Don't ask anything NSFW, rude, deragotory, or political. Especially pay attention to mod and admin leanings. They will ban you, whether you are right or wrong.
  Keep negative vents sparse, you generally want to be positive outside of doomer communities. People won't take you seriously if you are always negative.
  This is the internet survival guide, as far as I can remember.

Wow, I can only do this one comment at a time