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How awkward would a messy breakup be?","removed":false,"published":"2025-08-04T16:05:32.374894Z","deleted":false,"ap_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/15677453","local":true,"path":"0.15677453","distinguished":false,"language_id":37},"creator":{"id":13495053,"name":"TotallynotJessica","avatar":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/c9396507-e4cb-4010-ad48-d97906f43c40.webp","banned":false,"published":"2024-10-30T04:51:10.896598Z","actor_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/u/TotallynotJessica","bio":"I swear I’m not Jessica\n\nblahaj.zone account for [@TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world](https://lemmy.world/u/TotallynotJessica) ","local":true,"banner":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/08d3e9fc-efde-4ca1-8c72-68ef278479da.webp","deleted":false,"bot_account":false,"instance_id":171},"post":{"id":29835200,"name":"incense","url":"https://i.ibb.co/3yJJCHGQ/96jg59y38sff1.jpg","creator_id":115836,"community_id":698817,"removed":false,"locked":false,"published":"2025-08-04T11:15:25.193603Z","deleted":false,"nsfw":false,"thumbnail_url":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/8e3ec990-fe38-42b3-8a2a-e69dd5f3c0d9.webp","ap_id":"https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/29835200","local":true,"language_id":37,"featured_community":false,"featured_local":false,"url_content_type":"image/jpeg","alt_text":" me and the girl i met through the family reunion"},"community":{"id":698817,"name":"onehundredninetysix","title":"196","description":"**Community Rules**\n\nYou must post before you leave\n\nBe nice. 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