I'm a big, imposing, totally manly, ex-elite military, father, identifying as hetero, who has had the occasional man-crush. But as Robbie Williams said, can't handle the whole "dick thing"
I refuse to use labels. People are people. Period. It's like classifying people by their preferred color.
I'm a much less imposing but also hetero male but this also more or less lines up with me as well.
I've been of the opinion for a while that when faced with the idea that gender, as distinct from sexuality, is just a collection of social trappings, we've kind of gone in the wrong direction. Maybe I'll get flak for this, but I largely agree with RuPaul's take that gender and other identity stereotypes are absurd, and that it would be better to tear them down rather than affirm them or create increasingly specific labels to attach to people. A person's gender doesn't matter in the slightest to me with regard to my interactions with them, beyond the grammatical concern of using whatever their preferred pronoun is.
Whether you're male, or non-binary, or agender, or whatever else you might identify as, I couldn't possibly give less of a shit, and I want to stress that I mean that in the most accepting possible way rather than in a dismissive one. What matters far more to me is that you are Eric, or Rebecca, or Alphonse, or elucubra. I care about who you are, not what you are.
And maybe, maybe, if everyone was more accepting about a person's individual identity and didn't make a fuss about how they choose to present themselves we never would've seen all this importance attached to labelling people in the first place.
Years and years of therapy and I still do it: mansplain to women, compete with men. I understand that the gender is oppressive but I find it necessary to establish some form of understanding of the other before shaping it into something that looks like the person.
Even if you aren't conventionally attractive, there are a hell of a lot of people out there, all with different tastes. There is almost certainly someone who finds you hot.
And besides that, personality is more important anyways and someone definitely finds your personality hot :3
Lol, nah. I'm long-haired, not-skinny, and moustashioed. I just need a couple more cup sizes to round out my curves and folks will start wondering if I'm a bearded lady or a be-tittied fella. XD