An ex-colleague of mine.
The guy kept up a nice guy act, but was fully self-centered, tried to subtly force his religious views upon the workplace, actively formed cliques to sow disorder and refused to help anyone in any matter that "wasn't in his contract". He openly criticized anything that didn't "meet his standards" and did so in an extremely condescending way.
His charisma attracted many and kept them from seeing through his act. His only goal seemed to be to gain power at any means.
I don't know why, but I found him suspicious at first handshake. Somehow he just felt totally fake to me. His duties rarely overlapped mine, so I just kept my eye on him from a distance. After about 6 months a leadership opening appeared and he instantly tried to recruit me to his clique. His warm, joyous eyes turned to ice when I turned him down and told him that I'm aware of the game he's playing.
In retaliation he started a smear campaign against me, but since I had done my duties well and had helped everyone whenever I could for the last decade, there was nothing for him to abuse. His attack backfired gloriously.
Soon after our boss called me to his office to discuss "reports of degligence in my performance". I knew that these were fabricated, but I was still a bit concerned when I entered the office. Boss told me to close the door and went straight to the point: "How are we going to get rid of this lying asshole? These reports he gave to me about you are complete bullshit, but they are not enough to fire him." The old sly fox had also been keeping his eyes and ears open and was as aware of the creep's machinations as I was.
We made sure that the creep didn't get the leadership position and started to insulate key personnel from his influence by informing them of the faked reports. In the next few months the word got around and his clique fell apart. The fucker was left pretty much alone and after that he resigned.
Thanks for sharing. I'm a domestic abuse outreach worker and he sounds like a perp, classic traits are lying, charm, manipulation, always thinking they're right and selfishness (and more). It sounds like your gut instinct warned you about him, which is great. You handled it really well 👏
I'm cautious by nature and playing it safe seemed the wisest course to take. The guy built his schemes very cleverly and handled his own duties well, the only mistake he made was when he attacked my reputation.
I was also very lucky to have a boss who trusted me and saw things as they were. One of my co-workers ran into the creep a few years ago and found out that he had kept leaping from job to job until he had landed into a leadership position.
My Dad.
He was verbally and physically abusive, extremely manipulative. He is currently dieing in prison serving out a 25 year sentence for attempted rape and abduction.
I got a DNA test done and then sent the results to all of the forensic genealogy groups because I'm pretty sure he has victims out there.
I'm really sorry you didn't get the dad you deserved. No child should experience that. Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world it's great for when you need dad advice or a pep talk
One of my good friends growing up has a brother who I knew pretty well.
The brother should be finishing up a lengthy prison sentence for a double homicide pretty soon, IIRC.
Double?? Blimey one is bad enough
Point him toward CEOs
A white South African Jew who went to the same (US) community college I did. He'd talk about applying to African American scholarships because he's from Africa and he's American. The more I learn about Apartheid the more I regret not slapping that shitbag.
That one's kinda on the US, giving black people such a stupid name.
Andy Dick. If you live in LA long enough you eventually meet him and he is the worst.
It's really striking how consistently I've heard this
This guy from the USA who would treat everybody like shit. He would tell us horrible things and he could get away with it because of how much money he had. He was racist.
Last time I heard about him, he was serving a prison sentence due to corrupt acts
Prison? I heard he is the president now.
Different asshat
Recently, someone at work who has a pathological need for drama. If there wasn't any drama, they manufactured it by creating conflict, spreading lies and fucking people over.
Also they were a conspiracy theorist, and refused to work on anything but a tiny part of a dying project.
Oh LAWD what a nightmare. I'm always wary of people who believe conspiracy theories cos it can be a big red flag for serious MH issues
The type of insidious person who smiles, greets you fondly and integrates their life into yours. Just for them to randomly abuse and take away the things you care about and then vanish.
Ive seen the his royal highness, the sweatiest of nonces, prince andrew from a distance, does that count?
I've also met a murderer, I was on holiday in Norfolk as a child and my parents were going to let me go alone to a nearby shop to get the paper that we had been going to every morning. Soon after he was convicted for the murder of a 12 year old he strangled in his house and dumped the body in a layby. I don't think it was confirmed but the shopkeeper was gay and the kid had got into relations with him then was blackmailing him about it.
Me.
A few years ago, Some girl I was hanging out with just used me to buy alcohol for her and her friends. Like she picked me up to hang out and there would be 2 people with her who I didn't know and she'd be like "oh by the way, can you get us some vodka". If this sounds weird to Europeans, the drinking age is 21 in my country. Like was I supposed to say no, after she pressured me into it and probably would have just ditched me if I refused? I don't like talking about it and I still have mental issues related to her to this day. I was actually doing much better with my mental health and taking care of myself before I met her and that hit me like a train and sent me on the path I'm on now.
