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Has anyone came out as nb at work?

How did it go? I'm so tempted to when I'm freshly shaven but then the stubble comes back and I feel like I'll look like a fool once it does. 😮‍💨

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  • Lasers are your friend.

    Not enby, but I am a trans woman and I would say it really depends on your workplace. I've had some I don't feel comfortable talking about me being trans, but at my current workplace they have a rainbow sidewalk and it feels welcoming enough for me to feel like I can talk about those parts of myself.

    • I'm happy to hear that! I was thinking of laser but I cannot afford it plus the rest of my body is fairly hairy so I feel like I'd look silly. I will see how my time in the company goes.

      • Screw Societal expectations. Do what you feel is right (While being safe). I haven't gotten laser anywhere but my face yet. There is nothing wrong with a little body hair.

        I have a cis friend, she has no facial hair but she lets her leg hair grow. Learn to own who you are and show confidence. No one will think you are silly if you do that.

  • I'm transmasc, but I came out as enby at my previous job (a call center). This involved a new name and they/them pronouns. I felt safe doing it after conversations with the department head about trans stuff. I'd definitely try to get a vibe on the general company culture towards trans people before coming out. I'd also definitely try to get a pulse on how supportive your boss will be if there are any issues, especially if you're in a customer facing role.

    Pros: all of my coworkers were chill with it, or if they had problems with it they kept it outside of work. I did have to spend a while correcting people on my name/pronouns, but that just comes with the territory. I think it took about two weeks to a month for the name/pronouns situation to settle.

    Cons: The job I worked was the type where we had "frequent flyer" customers we'd support. No one was directly transphobic to my face. But a few of these customers would ask to speak to Deadname instead of my actual name... months after the switch. They never did this to my face. They always somehow managed to remember my name when talking to me. But when they got any of my coworkers on the line, they magically only remembered my deadname. The co-workers on my team were fantastic about forcing the customers to actually use my name. I talked to my boss about this, but unfortunately there really wasn't much we could do besides correcting them. The last incident of this was about six months after the name change. Not a problem I have anymore because I got laid off in the tech layoffs lmao.

    • I don't ID as trans. Sorry if I gave the wrong impression! I don't know of a single LGBT person within our company. I also cannot change my name because the government of the country of which citizenship I hold doesn't allow it for this case (neither does the country's I live in afaik) and my job doesn't allow preferred names. :/

  • Not NB, but it went pretty well for me. There's a few people who obviously don't much care for me anymore, but overall, people seem to range from excited to chill. Was pretty uneventful to be honest. But I work for a pretty gay company.

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