I think this still counts as wholesome

Muscles are firmer when tense, they are soft when relaxed. I know this from my experience of having muscle. If your muscles are always firm that seems like a medical issue.

Step 1: Hug a big and strong man.
Step 2: Tell him to relax.
Step 3: Tell him he can let go.
Step 4: Tell him he's safe with you.

Uh, what were we talking about?