So, uh, if this is what men need at the end of the day, what does this guy think women need at the end of their day? Or is it only men "fighting battles" in their day-to-day lives? Because this surely implies that either men are needlessly making things harder for themselves if women somehow manage to avoid daily battles, or that women don't need comfort after their daily battles... and wouldn't that make men, who do need that help, the weaker sex?
As a guy, when I was younger, I jumped from relationship to relationship looking for that exact thing. You know what I got for my trouble? Nothing.
So, during my college years, I spent time by myself, learning how to get by and be okay with surviving without relying on anyone else. It was a farce of course because I was in school, not going to work, but it was close enough.
I got into the workforce and all of the things I forced myself to learn to be independent from literally everyone, was the pivot point where I was able to stabilize my life and start dating.
After a while I knew I didn't want someone who needed me. I wanted someone who 100% could do everything that they needed to do on their own, but wanted me around anyways.
I found what I was looking for. I put a ring on it.
I don't worry when she goes out in her vehicle that she bought with her own money for her own purposes, that she's going to go find someone "better" because neither of us care about what's "better" than whatever else. I don't have to worry that she'll call and say she needs money because x, y, or z. She has her own money she made, that she can spend however she wants.
We split household costs, we enjoy eachother company and we value that we aren't relied on by the other for everything. It goes both ways.
As things have gone, the line between "mine" and "hers" has blurred to the point that, unless it's a high dollar value item, it's just ours. Because bothering to remember who paid for what is a waste of time and effort. Cars, yes, anything else? Probably not.
All the battles you fought that day? Unless you are on the front line in Ukraine you should be able to find a more chill lifestyle.
If you dont want to both provide and receive caring, nurturing, and intimacy, as needed in a relationship, stay single.
That is the entire point. "to have and to hold" isn't a nearly universal marriage vow for nothing, even if it's a lie when said by many of either sex.
Sadly, as with virtually everything in society, relationships and marriage after a lovely but brief enlightened period are regressing back to a transactional business arrangement and not something based in mutual love, warts and all. Sucks to suck.
"I dont need therapy, I just need to have a woman that reminds me of my mother and will fuck me"
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We all need a caring person to nurture and restore our energy. This is a fundamental part of loving someone. Your parents do it when you're young but that does not mean you stop needing it.
Both of these posters are toxic in different ways.
Who needs therapy when you can foist off all of your emotional needs on one person?
I wonder if there's a market for male-centric therapy. As in "I've got a loada wood that needs chopping. Come chop wood with me and we'll talk about stuff". You know, give 'em something to do with their hands while they talk. Obviously you probably couldn't do that with someone who's known for being aggressive and has a criminal record, but someone who has trouble talking about their feelings and doesn't feel comfortable just sitting in a room or on a Teams call and would rather feel like they're accomplishing something.
I need therapy. I also need intimacy. Since I cannot find intimacy, I am trying to make do with therapy.
it's insane how jreg (youtuber) gave me the most solid understanding of relationships that was so obvious that I couldn't believe we didn't understand already, it's a mixture of them all, it's not a partner or a good friend group or parents, it's to be able to have them all, a therapist can be a guiding figure a mentor and another node to release stress learn from mistakes and overall a decent person to be in contact with even if your thoughts were in control and you were in a good state of mind.
Or, y know, both? Most people need intimacy, but also if you have a problem, resolving it in therapy is a responsible and good option and we should stop the mental health stigma.
If you thought women growing up with uncaring fathers was bad, wait till you meet men who grew up with uncaring mothers.
¿Por qué no los dos?
Someone who would lay down in bed with me and hold me while I cry would be a tremendous help to my mental health, but a therapist would be real nice, too. Too bad it's a five-month wait to get in to see one around here.
I mean he described therapy
Especially when your partner is a vengeful mother figure that physically, emotionally, and spiritually destroys you over several years until you finally leave it all behind and recognize how empty your life has been and how much self blame was gaslit and manipulated out of you.
i need both 😓
Men need friends, not bros.
offer free therapy from people passionate about helping others, instead of charging them an arm and a leg for an hour of one persons narrow minded view of the world. i think more people would get therapy if that were the case.
until then, its okay to get it if you can afford it, or rely on friends, and family when you need to.
however on a personal note, nothing in my life has removed the burden of existence and replaced it with univeral connection, joy, and love for others and all living things like magic mushrooms have.
and on another personal note, therapy cannot change the external world, just how you choose to react to it. and especially these days, introspection and pills cannot save you from fascism, climate change, WW3, and poverty. among other things. it may just change your perspective on it.
throwing therapy into someones face as the only answer is a small minded view of reality. its not the answer for everyone. but it does have value in certain specific situations, for certain, specific people.
meh, I just need my cat.
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Look at the user name, it's a truthful joke.
Men need a loving relationship and therapy.
To all those saying, "but why shouldn't men want to be cared for?"
This meme plays into a narrative the makes women subservient.
It suggests that only men "battle", and that being a man and "battling" entities them to care by women.
No where in this is acknowledgement that women have burdens too, and that all people benefit from care.
No where in this is any hint of reciprocity. If anything, it implies that the "joy" of taking care of "her man" should be enough.
No. Walk the fuck on. Having a penis doesn't entitle you to one-sided care.
The other thing implied by this - that women should 'naturally' be able to fix 'her man'. But if a woman in broken? Oof - 'she has Daddy issues' and better fix herself, right?
And what if a woman tries to fix 'her man' and fails? Oh look - isnt that convenient - society just took all his faults and made them her failures. Wow! Who wouldn't want to sign up for that??
And just look at that success rate. You can count up the number of women killed by intimate partners and see how great this plan is.
Society really needs to get past this childish narrative that tells men they should expect to find a manic pixie dream girl who lives only to make him happy. Men make fun of girls for believing in Prince Charming, but this is truly the more destructive fairy tale.
Almost all people have some need (depending on the definition) for physical intimacy. Not just men.
That said, people saying men need a therapist aren't saying a therapist would help men and a therapist would authentically be in their best self interest (unless you are extremely patronizing). They're saying a therapist would fix them, because men need fixing. Its not out of some genuine desire to make men happier.
What we really need to say is men need re-education. Because it is primarily men that are fucking up the world.
Yeah my fucking battle of testing software and doing deep dives on bugs.
I would say that, conditional to the man having a partner, intimacy is a hell of a lot more accessible than therapy. Provided that intimacy is not rationed or made conditional, this could provide more lasting and more timely healing than therapy as well.
With that said, we really need to normalize men seeking therapy. There are far too many men where the conditions above are not met, and so could and would benefit more from therapy than intimacy.
