At first I liked that it was nicer and more intelligent but recently that hasn't been true. My current favorite thing is that it is selfhostable and many users do it.
That it doesn't feel like a culture at all, that you have to adopt. There's genuine discussion, not just a few top meme-comments and a sea of ignored participation.
I disagree. It's more likely that your instance's culture happens to largely match what you feel internt culture should be, or at least what you on some leve have already been accultrated to so there is no friction.
One thing that is noticeable is that each instance seems to have a distinct local culture. It's not a great difference, but it is noticeable. It reminds me of the difference between the cultures of the town I grew up in (a decaying community in the rust belt where hope goes to die) and my current town (the sort of farm town that has a holiday celebrating corn).
Topic is about Lemmy as a whole, and I'm responding with my impression of that. Your re-interpretation of my impression doesn't really make sense to me. I'm sure others have different experiences with their own usage of Lemmy but mine does not revolve around my instance enough for me to even form an impression of it. It certainly doesn't dominate my user experience.
I do appreciate the responses here hinting that I'm wrong about my experience on Lemmy but I had a 13 year old Reddit account that I nuked after the API debacle and I remember the monoculture that developed. Lemmy is not Reddit even if a few instances have their own subcultures. Doesn't invalidate my impression.
Thanks for pointing out how my opinion is wrong though.
TBH it feels like a pretty continuous evolution of Reddit, Digg, and whatever was between Digg and usenet. There's self selection that's made it a bit more harmonious than Reddit, but that's it.
That being said, it's super cool to get a glimpse into the million different experiences people have had. The internet is a magical place.
If by culture you mean Lemmy's users values, beliefs, or ideals there is nothing special I appreciate (or don't appreciate). I mean, for me it's irrelevant as it's all personal preferences like the fact that I don't like bananas, or that we have not owned a TV for 25 years (glad to know others may share similar preferences, but it's no big deal if they don't).
I care about Lemmy itself not being like Reddit. It's not ad-driven, there is no algorithmic 'optimization',, it's not trying to milk our content and also it's not being owned by one of those billionaires that think their pile of money means they know better than all of us. In that, it's very different than Reddit, but at the same time I also expect to meet similar kind of people on Lemmy I used to meet on Reddit.
Interesting, or less interesting, people. People I agree with, and more often people I do not agree with (which is fine by me). Very smart people, while others do have the brain power of a brick. Nice people, or naughty or even hateful ones. People whose values I share, others I don't and never will (you can go funk yourself, fascists of all types). People who like what I like, and many others that don't and never will (see my banana and TV examples ;).
And then I also expect tp meet people who think it's enough to ask their question without even trying to give it the some context or explanation (say, people who ask what we appreciate most in Lemmy culture without explaining what they mean by that), next to people that try their best to give as much context/explanation as they can ;)
You may have a point here. I used to compare them to oysters until I realized I was being unfair to them, the oysters I mean. What could I use if bricks are also unfair choice? ;)
It's a plus and a negative: how anti-fascist and anti-capitalist it is. I do think that it can go too far at times, but I just block those people. We should try to be less binary as that just isn't what reality is like.
Apologies for saying this, but if I'm being completely honest about it, it's more of what I hate less about the Lemmy culture, than I do the Reddit culture. The lesser of two evils kind of thing.
On the plus side, it does seem like it has less corporate censorship than Reddit does.
Lemmy culture? Nothing, lacks diversity. I often feel like I'm just talking to the same guy. Very rare to read views that don't align with the groupthink.
EDIT: Okay, one thing that came to mind is that I can talk about autistic stuff that I do and nobody seems to question/judge it.
Isn't that a good thing though?
I would rather be around people that accept my fucked brain than people putting their hand on my knee to stop me from shaking my legs a la restless leg.
Though I do agree that a variation in opinion would be nice.
A few months ago, I would've said how people try to engage you in good faith and how people would read walls of text and engage
Lately I feel people are scared and angry. Which is totally reasonable, but has some of the best parts of our communities
We also probably got a lot of new refugees and more interest from botters... But I used to get love with near every message I posted. Or at least honest engagement. Now? I get way less replies, and way more of them are reading into something I didn't say
See this is why we have to stand up for blueberries— this guy just spouts off with his hate for blueberries— it’s just unwarranted. He can have my love when he gets his hands off my blueberries.
My favorite is: if you disagree, you can always just go to another instance or even create your own. Other than that, I like how, instead of a total score, posts show likes and dislikes separately. This is more of a technical thing than a cultural one, but it has a big impact on making brigading less effective. In general, all these technical decisions make Lemmy very friendly to a variety of cultures and people from across different spectrums of political and other opinions.
I just thought "You've heard of bananas in pajamas, now get ready for beans in jeans" and then my mind went the elf on a shelf meme where you'd depict it visually, and picturing an anthropomorphic bean wearing blue jeans, my mind looked at that and guessed "Kidneys in dungarees?"
I like that there is a large contingent of actual socialists whether soc dems, anarchists or the dreaded tankies.
I like that there is a greater anti corporate mindset and I'm less likely to see someone justify something because "well what do you expect, businesses exist to make money".
I like that there are so many Linux and open source enthusiasts. And privacy enthusiasts. Used to be big on Reddit but became more and more niche over time.
I like that there aren't pun threads. Maybe that's not really true culture but more contrast with Reddit.
I like that I first commented on this post two days ago, and other people are still conversing. I miss how conversations spanned over months/years in the early days of the internet. It feels cozy, especially since Reddit got so large that many posts burn out in hours, or are so popular that you’re just screaming into the void.