For some reason every conversation about this simple rule gets way too toxic

How to choose the correct pronouns

AND HOLY SHIT does it get toxic. for some reason there’s no will for even this basic level of nuance. currently watching an entire anti-blahaj hate crusade over a simple misunderstanding where the left and the right conclusions of the chart got conflated as though they are the same thing.

then i tried to help clarify and got called insults.

just… so sad :(

Also, if you mistakenly use the wrong pronouns, apologize and respect their wishes.

We’re humans after all, and mistakes happens. No one is asking you to be perfect. People just want you to be a decent person.

If only there were gender neutral pronouns in my language 😭

Use their name, if you know it.

Well my language does not have a neutral pronoun so this just does not work.

I'd say default should be to offer your own name/pronouns to encourage someone to share rather than asking.

There's a lot of transphobes that use they/them to not acknowledge the pronouns of trans people, but also to skirt around anti-misgendering rules of social media. I call it "passive-aggressive misgendering".

Nope, the allt right hate they too now. Make a new apologist flow chart that are regime approved mate

Or call them that human over there? I do that sometimes as a joke.

And then i use they and they get offended that i didnt use their preffered pronoun(true both for stupid conservatives and for some trans people who just have to try to ruin 10 years of progress in gender neutral pronouns)

Ask them, "why do you care so much about what genitals you think I have?"

I don’t understand why this is so difficult for some people. It’s not like a whole lot has changed right?. Most everyone have already been using they/them for quite some time. The only different being is now, it’s best not to assume gender and default to they/them until asked otherwise.

The way I see it is If these people are able to make the incredibly mind-bogglingly difficult transition from who they once were, to who they are now- including not just facing, but overcoming the emotional, physical, and social challenges- in comparison, it’s should take very little effort for anyone to transition their use of pronouns to properly accommodate them.

I hate "he or she" so much. JUST SAY THEY. It sounds so clunky.

And then there are some languages where using pronouns for the secondary person is considered rude/weird in some conditions and you are supposed to use the name directly.
That's fun stuff.

Can we just start misgendering republicans?