Simply wondering if peeps here has any experience with any good apps for managing finance with either friends or spouse. Open for any suggestions, looking for something privacy focused.
I never found a self-hosted budgeting solution I liked until I found actual budget. I wish it had more reports, but it seems like they've got a pretty active development community since it recently went fully open-sourced.
I've tried them both and I find Actual Budget a bit better.
It also has an importer (directly from banks) which Firefly III has, but as a separate app and it's not so smooth to use.
No system worked better for me than hledger - a doubly entry accounting tool for text files. It is super extensible, privacy focused and will be usable in 20 years still. No other tool has helped me stay on top of my finances as well as this, and I have tried them all. This is very subjective of course, but you might want to give it a try.