Do you ever want people to be jealous of you?
Do you ever want people to be jealous of you?
I love the thought of people thinking of me obsessively and wanting to be just like me.
Jealous/envious of me? No.
Impressed by me? Yes.
Inspired by me? Double Yes.
Learn a cautionary tale from me? No.
Edit: proofreading better...
... do people actually do that? As in, is strong jealousy really a thing?
I'd like to believe that each of us builds their life into the exact thing they need, so swapping places with anyone else would be terribly uncomfortable. So I can't relate as to why anyone would ever be jealous i guess haha
Pardon me, but you sound very privileged here, in the spiritual sense of "stop being poor" or "just don't be depressed" etc.
If that was your intention, you've succeeded admirably.
I also don’t get your other replier. I too like the life I’m building but I would appreciate swapping with not having to worry about money haha
Here's the thing tho. Nobody thinks about you even 1% of what you think they do. It seems like youre saying, "I need validation and want to be a part of the bigger world outside my own" which is totally fair. It's even healthy, especially when compared to escapism and isolation. If your actions and behavior cause people to have a negative reaction, i.e. jealousy, obsessions, I encourage you to reevaluate what's within yourself that desires that negative attention. People will think of you far far more if your behavior and actions gives those around you positive reactions. Trade the desire to make them jealous for inspiring them by being a healthy, upstanding rolemodel. Trade "I" statements for "you" questions. People crave and are drawn to those who show an interest in them, just as you admit to in this post. Make the world a better place, not a more anxious place and you'll find all that attention you desire becomes a far more reasonably attainable goal.
You're thinking of envy, not jealousy so much: Envy is when you want something someone else has, jealousy is when you don't want others to have what you have.
I wouldn't want people to be jealous of me, people act very poorly when they are jealous.
Emphatically no. I cut people concerned with jealousy out of my life. That shit's toxic.
I dont know you, but this sounds like narcissistic personality disorder.
It's a common symptom of it.
Look through their post history lol
No, that would make me a narcessist
I remember your handle - IIRC you posted before about having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Wanting people to be jealous of you seems apropos.
Nah. I'd rather go unnoticed by everyone outside those I love.
No, i wouldn't like to be a center of attention.
God no. I wouldn't want to be jealous of me
nope nope nope. I want to be incredibly anonymous.
No.
No one should want to be me.
If someone wanted to be me I'd feel nothing but pity and shame.
Not at all
Only positive thing in jealousy is: that it would indicate, that I have something to value in my life.
Not really. I find when people are jealous they either try to cut you down in subtle ways, or they self deprecate and guilt trip just because you happen to have something going right for you.
I'd like to be admirable, I think. I'd prefer to rub off on people in a positive way than a negative one.
No; jealousy paints a target on your back. I'd rather people wish well for me and feel that my victories are at least indirectly theirs.
Failing that, I'd want others to be unaware of my existence.
Only people I really dislike. For everyone else, no, I don't need or want their jealousy.
I've had people jealous of me. People who tried to steal my spouse or thought they would be so happy living my life.
It didn't make me one bit happier. Sometimes it made me suffer, that they didn't see that things were really difficult for me in ways that were invisible.
That feeling that I thought was wanting a perfect life was really needing anxiety meds I am way happier with well-adjusted meds.
No, quite honestly I do want to live an enviable life AND would be so happy if everyone else did too. I do not want other people to literally want my life, no. I want them to be too happy with their own lives to care about mine.
No, I don't want to attract thieves and weird fans.
Never thought about it... I'd say no. But I'd like my friends and family to be proud of me (as well as myself)
Hell no. The green monster can friggin kill you
I love the thought of people thinking of me obsessively and wanting to be just like me.
Depends what for. If you're consuming and spending money you don't have to look successful to your peers, I'd say no.
If you mean jealous because of how good of a person you are, maybe.
Either way, I would hate people thinking of me obsessively. I'd rather just be left alone and let me do my thing.
No. It makes relations with them difficult.
An excellent contrapoints video explores this topic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPhrTOg1RUk