Why are so many boys and men feeling alone and in the cold?

Hell yes, young men need this. Else they wouldn't fall for Tate and similar grifters.
I'll bet you guys made a big impact on the kid. You at least got him closer to a happier healthier life than he otherwise would have been.

Men need feminism too. Patriarchy and toxic masculinity harm both men and women in different ways.

- Men get so bent out of shape whenever they even could be considered at fault for anything.
  Meanwhile the word hysteria exists...
- to be fair, the article specifically references "toxic males" and is focused on the challenges for young men in particular. What seems obviously lacking in the story is any reference to the diminished economic potential that all young people face. 30 years ago education and housing were somewhat reasonably priced and and generally available to all. Economic stress is a huge factor and immediate source of stress and anxiety that is completely ignored in the article. How is one supposed to feel 'cocky' while struggling to keep their head above water financially?
- Well, yeah mate
  'Boys don't cry strong silent type don't show any emotion beyond anger' is not a societal pressure applied to women.
  It is however, very much a toxic version of perceived masculinity
Patriarchy
You know the thing that bugs me the most about social patriarchy is the same thing that really gets me about anti-apologetics. There is the notion that there needs to be this unilateral action of sorts and straying from it shows weakness of sorts. It's not uncommon to hear conservative and traditionalist indicate that admitting wrong is a sign of weakness. And the reality is that we learn best from our own mistakes. Trail and error is an incredible teaching tool.
Patriarchy goes against what we actually know about how human beings learn things. It goes against the nothing of taking multiple inputs to come to a conclusion. It goes against the process of being well informed. It's these absolutes within this kind of system that give rise to the various toxic behaviors. I think if men actually sit there and actually listen to women and allow women to participate in decisive action, men will learn infinitely way more.
Men need feminism too
Exactly. Good objective thinking relies on taking all input and being able to share executive action. Humans aren't stronger than a bear, we're not faster than a cheetah, and hell we don't live nearly as long as most trees. The quality that humans have that places them above all else, is thinking and reasoning. And we do better at that quality by broadening our horizons not limiting them. The whole wild arguments of "well male lobsters assert dominance…". Lobsters or whatever animal a particular someone who I won't name tries to parallel us with, they don't reason and think in any remote sense the same way as humans. It's silly to try and take some biological aspect of our species or other species and draw a conclusion about how we should use the thing that makes humans, human.
But that is just my hot take on this.
Ah yes. Let's blame men for men's problems. That should fix everything.
This shit is the major contributor to the problem. A woman expresses and embraces femininity? "You go girl!". A man expresses and embraces masculinity? "You are broken and you are the problem of our society, and everything bad that happens to you is also your fault".
And don't give me this "Toxic masculinity is totally not just masculinity". Almost every masculine trait has been called "toxic masculinity". You might have your specific definition for what it means, but so does everyone else and together you all cover pretty much every facet of masculinity.
- Out of interest, what are some masculine traits that you feel are being rejected by society?

Run kids through 12 years of school. Teach them little that engages them or makes them feel valuable. Tell them for half of those years that their best hope to achieve happiness is to go to college so that they can earn enough to consume the good life and then retire. Then wonder why so many lack a sense if purpose and belonging.

Some kids are fortunate. They have a family that truly support them, helpinh them gain experience in life and some insight into finding their way. For those with families that aren't that way, finding your way can be much harder. A significant amount of kids have parents that are checked out. Sometimes it's because the parents are too busy working. Sometimes its for worse reasons.

I feel like this might be an unpopular opinion, but it's just based on my own experience and interactions with young men. I think there's a kind of... 'hyper sexuality' that has inadvertently pushed platonic intimacy to the wayside, and I think platonic intimacy is an extremely important part of socialisation. I've met so many young men who have such an over-sexualised view of everything, that they're unable to have healthy platonic relationships, or even maintain 'platonic' components of romantic or familial relationships. Sexuality is a good thing, but I feel it is a similar problem to the prevalence of highly refined foods that can barely be considered food at all and the health impacts of that, I think there are likely mental/emotional/sexual health impacts of that 'hyper sexuality'. The fact alone that there are men who struggle to become aroused except with some very specific, often times grotesque material says a lot. That's of course at the far end of the spectrum, but I can only assume that there's be similar (albeit lesser) effects all the way along. It's like there's a whole fridge/pantry full of delicious healthy food, but young men have had a box of Fruit Loops shoved into their hands like it's actually enough to keep them going and help them thrive socially/emotionally/sexually.

- I don't have first-hand experience since I'm 18, but I imagine it's just stuff like casual hugs or stuff like that. All physical intimacy is supposed to be for your partner now (at least in men), and as such hugging a friend would mean you're gay and banging him.

No, it can't be patriarchy and the toxic masculinity ideology perpetuated by it. That involves punching up at those with actual power and authority.

It must be those tyrannical feminists

This is the best summary I could come up with:

The prevalence of self-harm among young men is an outward sign that many are lost, failing to come to grips with what it means to step up and be a good man in a post #MeToo world.

English feminist journalist and broadcaster Caitlin Moran told the ABC recently she spent a long time shooting down such suggestions when they were put to her by the mothers of teenage sons.

"Never being able to cry or admit vulnerability; the bubbling anger; the shrugging acceptance of violence; the memory of hitting friends; the prize of recklessness; the need for alcohol or drugs; the total lack of advice, or guidance."

Moran says not knowing where to turn is still leaving far too many young men out in the cold and prime targets for every vocal toxic male on social media.

Brisbane introduction agency owner Linda Prescott agrees that many young men are lost when it comes to relating to the opposite sex.

Ms Prescott gives men and women clients a dating rule book, pointing out areas of clear difference in expectation and judgement.

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