I bet the replies to this were all from kind well adjusted people wishing anon well
I didn't make my kid. Adopted.
But it's the same thing, the same feeling.
Don't get me wrong, I'm still a grumpy asshole, but I try harder to be decent. I try to be the dad that the kid deserves, and that includes setting an example by being better than I used to be.
It's some powerful shit, when you let yourself feel it.
That's that evolutionary programming kicking in, convincing you to slave away with the goal of increasing the survival rate of your offspring.
I'm not saying it's good or bad. I'm just saying that your'e a machine and this affects your program:
If(havebaby=true){parentalmotivation++}
That's going to always increase parentalmotivation.
Like if(true) but with side effects.
Oh, maybe I wanted to use ==
I'll give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they're using one of the languages that uses := for assignment. :P
Following the lifecycle of the species is one path towards an ok life.
yeah i was confused on how he made a kid without ever talking to her
Very recently, I was chatting with a coworker who is a dad, and he said, "I love my kids, but don't do it"
Bit of a different vibe from that guy.
It's a commitment. If you are not willing to have your life completely changed then yeah, you better not do it.
It's not a path for selfish people. There is not a lot of "me time", as a parent.
IDK that I'd be so quick to refer to people who don't have kids as selfish.... Certainly there are selfish people that shouldn't have kids for that reason, but not all people who are willingly childless, are selfish.
I bet the replies to this were all from kind well adjusted people wishing anon well