I mean that would depend on how you two usually feel and what you can relate to. Maybe take a look at one of those emotional wheels or something similar? Good luck!
I like the concept of this as well, and also agree that the sayings on there need to go. They're so cheesy, it makes me nauseous. Lol. How about some good old feeling words? Or maybe you can write down your usual moods and needs. For me, I know I have moods while working from home where I can be so stressed out and frazzled, I just want silence and seem snappy - but inside, I feel like the world is falling apart. For needs, I'd probably put something like: invitation to go for a walk or share a snack or a hug. :)