I’m armchair Freuding a bit, but I think that’s one of the reasons “Femdom” type pornos seem to be enjoyed by some men.
Like I totally get wanting a woman to take control. But the “femdom” stuff online tends to be degarding, straight up mean. (Which some people like and is okay, but it’s more mainstream than I’d imagine).
I think it's much more that people sexually like exaggerations of what theyre into and sexual power play is a fairly common fantasy. There's little difference between Masoch's Venus in Furs and James's 50 Shades series
But just gonna say I felt this way for a decade or so. A very lonely decade where my only relationship was short lasted and one sided.
But honestly now looking back it kinda feels dumb I looked at myself that way. I’m literally too disabled to work (which I thought would make it impossible to date). And I have this wonderful partner who loves me more than anything, to the point it can be kinda annoying like she’s obsessed with me.
(Sorry if this comes off as a brag, don’t mean it too, just wanna say what can feel hopeless might change).