In this context this is the best definition i could find in the 30 seconds i was willing to look for it. I could've just said it but in the past redditors said I'm the only one to follow that definition and that's just not true.
woke
The act of being very pretentious about how much you care about a social issue
Social issues as in racism, sexism, abortion, wage inequity etc? How is caring about those very serious topics “pretentious”? These are serious issues and they need to be addressed. Sorry that we don’t care about adrenachrome and pizzagate qanon bullshit.
Ok, but what do you mean by "pretentious"? Who gets to decide how important an issue is to someone else? Pretentious means that a person is acting like an issue is more important to them than it actually is. Who decides how important it is to a person that they're living in a country where police can kill an innocent person and not face a jury over it? Who decides how important it is to a person that the women in their lives can get raped and will be forced by the state to give birth to a child that is the result of the rape?
Your definition of "woke" is built upon a third party determining that someone else's concern with an issue is not as important as they "pretend" it is. Who gets to decide that, and under what authority?
The perspective was "geez it sure feels dumb celebrating 'independence and freedom' while sisters throughout the state are being actively oppressed."
They know a BBQ is a small thing, they know 12 fewer people watching fireworks won't make a difference, and they'll keep volunteering, protesting and voting accordingly... but when you're struggling to bubble up any feelings of patriotism and failing to find enjoyment in the spirit of the holiday, why participate?
They asked on this context. Then what is your context of "woke" in reference to protesting a holiday celebrating a country that took away a right for women?