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The bottom-left one for Feminists doesn’t fit. The others are things that were created by their own group, for example, the KKK was created by Christians. That Feminist meme, on the other hand, wasn’t created by feminists but by someone else to mock them.
The number of assholes calling themselves feminists vastly outnumber the actual feminists. They have lost control of the word.
I vote OP take the meme down and repost it with Shiela Jeffries or Camille Paglia replacing the feminist..
TBF I think it'd be risky to use legit examples for that panel
TERFs maybe?
My thought exactly. Most of the "feminists" who do fit that stereotype ended up becoming Feminist Appropriating Reactionary Transphobes.
Ahahahahahaa FARTs
Good point, pic of JK Rowling would fit there I'd say.
Or the "all men are rapists" crowd, one of the two tbh.
Every woman I know has experienced at least sexual harrasment. Most have experienced SA or rape. Even if a man hasn't done it, he will probably stick by his shitty mates who do or will still stay friends with them because awkwardness and bravery is harder for them than silent compliance.
If its "not all men" then it is certainly all women.
I'm picking that bear over you.
I'm sorry you have a hard life.
That's just womanhood
Only because you make it so.
Can't say I've ever come across one of those
There is a lot of overlap, TERFs usually have a problem with trans women because they deeply mistrust men. The "R" is there for a reason.
I have to say personally I surround myself with wonderful and kind men so it makes sense that I've never met someone in real life who so adamantly hates all of them.
I understand being wary of men for statistical reasons, for example I won't get into a situation where I'm in a room alone with a man I don't know well, but that's not to say I assume every man I meet is a rapist.
Hell, hot take incoming (this one is controversial): we can even acknowledge that a lot of men have raped people without knowing it for many years because of the way they were socialized with media that encouraged pestering for sexual attention. A lot of men I know are guilty of this but I think it's important that that can be redeemable if they recognize that it happened and have since changed their behaviour. This seems to be an extremely common experience and I wouldn't go as far as to call them rapists because that was not their intention and they are usually horrified when they realize it.
Sorry for the tangent, I do feel like this isn't talked about enough.
we can even acknowledge that a lot of men have raped people without knowing it
I wouldn’t go as far as to call them rapists because that was not their intention
I see what you're getting at, but I really wouldn't use that word in any context where there might have been, for example, any power dynamic or some form of coercion. I believe that keeping it reserved for situations where violence or significant coercion are involved is better for everyone, especially the victims.
Doesn't mean using mild coercion/emotional blackmail/pestering/shaming/... is okay behaviour, not at all, it's just that saying no/leaving won't usually do much beyond change the relationship between the people involved. Talking about that is fine, good and needed, using "rape" to describe it will probably shut down any conversation before it can even begin, though.
I'd also argue that that sort of behaviour is something both men and women engage in, maybe in different ways but, well, the expectation on men is to always be sexually available, so it sometimes becomes an issue when they are not. Mutual respect and understanding really are the most important things in a relationship, both participants are fully realized human beings, not just "the girlfriend/wife" or "the boyfriend/husband". But people seem to forget that sometimes and I don't know what can be done about that.
I completely agree, while rape is technically what happens in those situations, the word seems to hold more weight than the action (in those specific situations where it's more a result of clumsy socialization and lack of communication).
Like, by the very semantic technical definition, I've been raped, but since there was no power dynamic and since there was no malicious intent, I do not call it that because it doesn't feel accurate. I am not traumatized.
I'd say the best way to move forward is to socialize children with the understanding of what consent is, and raising them with the autonomy we expect for ourselves. Basically if we want children to grow up with empathy and respecting the autonomy of others, we need to treat them with empathy and respect their autonomy.
Basically how can we expect people to follow rules like "get consent before doing anything" if we don't have a consensus on what "consent" is?