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More often than not, it doesn't matter what key you use. Most people are just happy and even surprised that you tried.
Plus you can always laugh about it afterwards (as long as it's not a creepy/intrusive/tasteless attempt at flirting), and that can serve just as well!
I fully accepted my complete lack of game, so I purposefully turn flirting into a playful parody with extra-campy Smooth™ lathered all over that puppy, and the reactions so far have been really positive!
I still can't tell when someone else is flirting with me, though, so I just joke about that, too! I make it clear that my love language isn't Sexy Talk in general, so I just ask "are you flirting with me right now?" at inappropriate times, which nets me at least a frustrated chuckle.
As a great man once said: "you laughed, I'm off the hook!"
I'm happily married for a very long time now and what I've noticed is that just being kind, attentive and listening is sometimes more than enough for some people to think that you are interested or flirting. I would never cheat but I've stepped into situations like this by accident more often than I care to admit.
Oh, yepyep, honest and open communication is vital in everything! And I agree that "to each their own," we all have our own love languages and respond in our own unique ways to everything!
I think your point is even reinforced by contemporary circumstances, as a whole damned lot of us would almost kill for a bit of kindness and soft attention...