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Why marry a turd in the first place? 🤷
Things happen. Stuff. Reasons.
People also change, and someone may over the long haul become something you didn't really expect out of them.
Anyone who knows friends or family that fell down the magat hole understand this
This.There exists a pipeline from somewhere on the left to the alt right. It is dangerous to think otherwise.
This was my dad. He was always right leaning but then Trump came along and he went die hard political full on Trumpet.
He's one of the smartest people I know and watching him get more involved and more and more angry was terrifying.
I’m sorry about your dad, truly.
Someone posted this elsewhere, and I’m adding it for visibility because it’s an important watch for people in situations like yours:
*The Brainwashing of My Dad on freevee, Pluto, Roku, and Prime].
It helps to understand what’s happening, gives some support, and some tips to wean our elders out of right-wing extremism. It’s quite good and potentially helpful.
I personality know two very liberal women who married right wing nutjobs, the first one married a full MAGA, proud boys type militia and election denier guy who she thought she could change him (she couldn't).
The other one thought that political differences didn't matter in a romantic relationship (it did).
Both ended up in divorce.
she thought she could change him
Has this ever worked?! Like a single time in the history of our species?
Edit: I asked the High Council for Female Affairs (my girlfriend) about the why and her answer is - summarized: At the beginning of a relationship you see things you like and things you don’t like. Some try to quell the bad things and enhance the good things. The emotionally immature ones believe in “a perfect relationship” and actively try to form their partners instead of looking for someone who has less of those bad qualities. They tend to fail spectacularly.
My stepmom lived in one of the most liberal towns in Massachusetts, running a Montessori program before she and my Fox News watching dad got married. (We never actually talked about politics because they “had an agreement,” but I have to assume she was very liberal- probably not very left though)
She started voting republican after a few years :(
Any of those topics that people who care more about society being polite than just tell you to avoid are ones that should be not just discussed but agreed on before making a relationship legally binding. Religion, money, politics. They are each too serious for "agree to disagree" to last long.
I've dated conservative women a few times, they definitely said things like "I don't let that come into my relationships" and that never ended up being the fact. And goddamn it they all were REALLY into D/s dynamics. Albeit that's a quality I typically find in a partner, but tbh they kinda excelled at playing the role phew.
The basis of right wing thought is hierarchies.
Because not everyone makes their political alignment their entire personality.