Holy shit, you're a mad genius! Definitely gonna try this! thanks!

If she is a dance instructor, she is probably no stranger to having her pupils develop feelings for her.

But this just makes it worse. Cause you're probably right. Which would make me feel even more like a schmuck. Yeah I think I'm just gonna go find a new instructor.

I see the crush as a separate entity from myself. The crush sees them as some unrealistic ideal superhuman, which falls apart when I take time to find out who the actual person is.

That's pretty damn well put.

This assumes you have opportunities to casually chat without planning time specifically, or you can be in a regular part of group conversations.

There is maybe a tiny window. But it's worth a shot.